Priest wouldnt let me confess!

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I didn’t say you did. In fact I gave you the benefit of the doubt and said “see another priest” BUT if MULTIPLE priests tell you this then yeah. I suggest taking them seriously. That’s all I meant. In sorry if I offended you.
 
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No. No! The priest was telling me to get counseling. All I did was confess frustration. I thought that was odd. Not you!! Your helpful!!😊
 
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It does sound very odd. Maybe this guy is having a rough time. Pray for him.

My priest told me to remember sins are thoughts, words, or deeds. Negative emotions are just temptations. Maybe try confessing “angry thoughts” if that’s the case. To clarify what you mean.

Regardless, I’ve never before heard of a confession going the way this one did. It’s not just you. Something is off. Please pray for him.
 
Well, feeling angry by itself is not a sin. In fact righteous anger is not sinful. Look at the classic example of Our Lord throwing the money changers out of the temple. He fashioned a cord of whips and threw out all the merchants and overturned the tables.

It’s what we do with anger that makes it sinful or not.

I once had an encounter in the confessional where I confessed something the priest told me was not sinful and therefore he could not grant me absolution because what I confessed to him was not a sin. He then asked me “do you have a sin to confess so I can give you absolution?”
 
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I once had an encounter in the confessional where I confessed something the priest told me was not sinful and therefore he could not grant me absolution because what I confessed to him was not a sin. He then asked me “do you have a sin to confess so I can give you absolution?”
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A friend of mine was a seminarian years ago and went to Confession at a parish (not the seminary). In order to give the priest perspective, he started out the Confession by saying, “I’m a seminarian”. He confessed his sins and then the priest said, “Thank God for a very good Confession. But being a seminarian is not a sin.” Then he chuckled slightly and said, “Thank you for discerning God’s will in your life.”
 
:grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes::grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes: Thats so sweet. I’m sure Seminarians need some jovial (name removed by moderator)ut at times! May God bless them all for their study!
 
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Not all teachers in a school are the same for instance. Each with differences , some more than others…

I pray for 17 individual priests most days and I can tell you from my own experiences , not all think a like.

Remember priests are human to.
 
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Then I find out that he told my 3 other boys the same thing when they confessed anger, or any other sin.
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It at least sounds as if he is being consistent – and making sure your sons aren’t getting the message that being angry is, in and of itself, sinful
 
Their sins weren’t just anger. But enough said… I get it. I should have spoke up.
 
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“I have sinned against charity when I am angry with my kids”
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Yeah, I usually frame anger or annoyance etc as “I had uncharitable thoughts about person X” or “I said some uncharitable things to person X”. Which basically means I lost my temper and told them off or was really snarky to them, or thought the snarky thoughts in my head for more than a minute.

I haven’t had any priests tell me this was not a sin and unfortunately I have to confess it pretty often.
 
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Sometimes this sort of thing happens, you have to take it as an act of humility I find. If you find you dont like something then offer your acceptance of it to God. Hes probably teaching you humility. I have learned that the hard way. Your sins have all been forgiven so be at peace. Sometimes you can give God extra thanks for these little humiliations he sends if you feel foolish or behave in such a way. He only sends what you need. God bless. On a lighter note, the priest really believes in counselling and it may help someone, lets hope so.
 
Kind of a side note – but how do you know what they were confessing and what the priest said to them? Do they not know that what they say in the confessional is secret and that nobody should be asking them about what was said?
 
What your sons confessed, what the priest told them, is really between the priest and your son. Be very careful about sowing seeds of doubting confession in their young minds.
 
In this regard, could there be a situation in which the priest is simply not doing confession “right”? In other words, is it possible for a priest, despite his giving absolution, to not be doing so in keeping with his role of being the conduit (for want of a better word) of Jesus?
 
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It was about sinful anger being in me. I feel that anger is a sin.
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Anger is not a sin, our Lord was angry at times. Feelings are natural and a part of our human nature. What you do as a result of your anger may be sinful, but not the feeling in itself.

However, I´m sorry you experienced this. Sadly, these things can happen… I´d go & confess again with another priest.
 
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If he isn’t giving you the opportunity to finish your sentence and this is a pattern you might consider a different Confessor. Priests are humans being with physical, mental, and spiritual limitations and concupiscence from original sin and these things can occasionally happens, albeit I think infrequently.

That being said: experiencing initial feelings of anger is not a sin. In fact, if you experience feelings of anger but you respond to them in an edifying way, such as with prayer, meditation, and/or constructively addressing the issue, then it is virtuous and pleasing to God.
 
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