To start with, an apology: my tone was harsh; I over reacted to a suggestion to relatinize the ECC’s.
To answer the question about my having been to Latin masses: yes. I’ve served the Dominican Latin Mass (in my youth); it was no more reverent than any other Roman Church mass, if even that reverent.
I’ve honestly seen MORE reverence in the OF than the DLM from the people present.
But I’ve seen more reverence in the Byzantine and Coptic parishes I’ve been to, on average, than the Roman parishes at their best.
The worst abuse I can think of is the people who kneel throughout the TLM or DLM, totally tuned out, saying their rosary, ignoring the rubrics completely. They are not present in mind for Christ’s Sacrifice; they are focused upon seeking Mary’s intercession on their behalf. And yet, when the communion line forms, they finally act like part of the mass, for the 5 minutes it takes to go forward, then tune back out. This type of praxis was decried in the 4th century… and by Vatican II as well in the 20th.
This Rosary crowd tends to be drawn in a bit more during the OF, even as they gripe about it, because it is usually in a language they think in. The OF intrudes into their consciousness, and draws them into the Mass, and out of their rosary. (The rosary is perfectly appropriate as a replacement for the Hours… but as a “mode of participation” in the mass? Vatican II says no.)
I nearly left for orthodoxy myself; only the Gospels keep me Catholic… for in timelining the various events following the Resurrection, I noticed that the Russian Orthodox claims don’t mesh with the sequence of events as I perceive them… and John’s Gospel leads me to see the petrine role as special, unique. Only two sees can claim legitimate Petrine origin, and only one can be the true heir of Peter’s role; since Peter turned antioch over to one who remained subject to him, and later remained subject to correction by Pope St. Clement… that rules out Antioch.
I truly feel that the petrine role is that of Archpatriarch; the Assyrians noted that role in the 400’s! The actual comparison is an analogy, mathematically expressed, Pope

atriarch:

atriarch:Bishop.
I accept that the Byzantine Catholic is Orthodox in Union with Rome. I know several OCA priests who agree, and quietly accept Byzantine Catholics as “orthodox enough.”
What lead me to nearly reject Rome was two fold: (1) The roman Symbolism, which I had to ask about to find out about, since it isn’t taught within the Liturgy itself, wasn’t discussed in my catechism classes, and does not work for me, and, (2) the lack of education of the average Roman Catholic. They are usually not taught about the other churches in the Catholic Communion, nor the other mass forms allowed, nor even why they sit/stand/kneel. Nor have most read the canons of the 7 Ecumenical Councils. Nor do they generally know about the great heresies of Arianism, Gnosticism, Iconoclasm, nor Relativism. The information was readily available, but one had to actively LOOK for it.
The Roman Church was, for centuries, very much a church of Rote Ritual, and even, at times, rote repetition. With Vatican I, it started a recovery. With Vatican II, it took a hard look, and realized that the “mass of all time” was not doing the job it should as it was. The abuses of the OF are no worse than the abuses that lead to Trent, or to any other major council of the Roman Church, or even to VII.
And the German Shepherd is working to cull even those abuses.
I have no issue with the TLM or the DLM for those who are truly seeking it. But the OF, done right, is just as reverent as a TLM or DLM done right.
Even now, many Catholics of the Roman Church do not believe that the ECC’s are part of the Catholic Church; officers of my KofC council accused me of apostasy for attending the EC parish, even tho my pastor was the celebrant for their favorite priest’s funeral, vested in byzantine vestments, concelebrating the Roman Mass. They apologized when I sent them to talk to their pastor… who knows why I went east, and how close I came to going Russian Orthodox.
Ignorance abounds in the Roman Church. It’s getting better, not worse, and it’s a long road. But ignorance is far less amongst the ECC’s. In every EC parish I’ve been to, people discus theology and the faith after liturgy during the social. People talk about their faith in a living manner. That’s something I rarely see or hear in roman parishes.
And at times, I wonder if petrine unity is worth the arrogance of the Roman Church’s faithful in their ignorance and intolerance. And when I wonder, I reread St John’s gospel.