Bottom line, fear of people trumps fear of God.
Oh…what a statement. It is so true. Even Peter denied the Lord three times because of this. This is what makes it so easy to stay out of institutional churches once you leave. I find the fellowship mostly improved–possibly because there’s no central leader to stick a knife in–or to fear. That’s sad.
The one church split I was in-- it was a time when some really terrible things happened in my life. Of course, no one could help me because they were preoccupied with this split. We had a major scandal involved. The person who really helped me during my crisis was the person at the center of the scandal. After being sufficiently castigated in public and deserted by most of the congregation, she had the humility to minister to my case. I will never forget her for that. The self-righteous left me wounded on the road to Jericho while the wounded healer washed my wounds.
That has been my experience throughout my travels in Christendom. People who know how the Church ought to run have no humility and people who have humility don’t always know how to run anything–but their prayers are purer and go higher.
Now where’d we get off on this?—Birth control pills. I think if pastors preached against birth control, people’s eyebrows might shoot up, but the people would do as they pleased anyway since there are no birth control police in the Protestant churches. I doubt it would jeopardize his job as long as he didn’t harangue the people continually or attack individuals over it. I know one lady with three kids and one on the way who was told from the pulpit that people had no business having more than two kids!
P.S. I have been considering lately the individual vs. the corporate experience of “church,” the interior vs. the exterior experience. It seems to me like there is no escaping it–no matter whether you go or don’t go to church, Mass, etc., it remains yet a very individual obstacle course. You must run the gauntlet past all these “followers” of Christ who have got figurative clubs to hit you with. Sometimes the church experience is more like fighting enemy combatants than having fellowship. I think of fellowship as two people helping each other in a struggle.
(What is this “coffee and doughnuts” after-service fellowship time I keep hearing about? Nonsense! Can you see the disciples after Jesus’ arrest meeting around coffee and doughnuts? “Hi, how ya doin’? What line of work are you in?” Can you see the Mother of Jesus, Mary Magdalene and John chilling out at the foot of the cross with coffee and doughnuts? Help us, Jesus!)