While you’re praying for her, how about praying for yourself, that you will be able to rise above your feelings and extend her the same courtesy and consideration that you do to others? And if you are really irritated by her, a simple “God bless her,” when done consistently, will take the hard edge off your own feelings. LOL—you might want to pray that she wins the lottery and can build a beautiful house–someplace else, but that is only one little tool I use to restore my own good nature when I’m this annoyed!
To avoid verbal stuff, if she approaches you when you’re coming home, for example, just smile, exchange a pleasantry, and then say, “I’ve really got to go!” Then high-tail it inside, and let things cool off a little.
Really, when we let someone’s irritating behavior get us to this point, what we’re doing is giving that person permission to live, rent-free, in our heads! Think of it this way: You’re the one upset enough to be posting this question on the internet. How much time of your day do you spend thinking of her, trying to avoid her, and the like? And I bet every time thoughts of her pop up, they’re accompanied by a slow burn of your emotions. Is this person’t behavior or personality worth the toll it’s taking on you? Far better to cool our emotions and spend our day pleasantly and productively than thinking uncharitable thoughts about someone who we are allowing to irritate the heck out of us!
Christ commanded us to love our neighbors as ourselves, but there are always going to be people we just plain don’t like! We STILL have to treat them according to the Golden Rule, however! Since that is the case, and since living based on our feelings doesn’t work, we need to cool off our own emotions and turn our thoughts to that which is good, that which is praiseworthy.
. Anyhow, hope the situation improves for you.