Problems With Pornographical Movies

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I would like to apologize in advance if this article offends anybody, this is an issue that I have struggled with

I am a married man without children. My wife and I have been married recently and we have been exploring each other’s sexual abilities. I am very faithful to my wife and have never looked at another woman in a lustful way as much as other men. She is my best friend like the lord. A new and unsure habit that we have come across is watching pornographic material with each other before we go to be bed. The nights we do watch the movies, we have more passion and intimate sex but unfortunately I feel very sinful in this manner. I think that the movies in a way strengthen our sexual bond. I feel that when we do have this more passion sex, that we engage in activities that we should not, such as sex that does not result in conception (anal sex, oral sex, abnormal positions)

I have decided that I want to come out with this because I am pretty sure it is sin, I have decided that I want to get rid of this issue with the help of this big online community
 
HTC said:
I would like to apologize in advance if this article offends anybody, this is an issue that I have struggled with

I am a married man without children. My wife and I have been married recently and we have been exploring each other’s sexual abilities. I am very faithful to my wife and have never looked at another woman in a lustful way as much as other men. She is my best friend like the lord. A new and unsure habit that we have come across is watching pornographic material with each other before we go to be bed. The nights we do watch the movies, we have more passion and intimate sex but unfortunately I feel very sinful in this manner. I think that the movies in a way strengthen our sexual bond. I feel that when we do have this more passion sex, that we engage in activities that we should not, such as sex that does not result in conception (anal sex, oral sex, abnormal positions)

I have decided that I want to come out with this because I am pretty sure it is sin, I have decided that I want to get rid of this issue with the help of this big online community
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That is a grave sin.
 
HTC said:
I would like to apologize in advance if this article offends anybody, this is an issue that I have struggled with

I am a married man without children. My wife and I have been married recently and we have been exploring each other’s sexual abilities. I am very faithful to my wife and have never looked at another woman in a lustful way as much as other men. She is my best friend like the lord. A new and unsure habit that we have come across is watching pornographic material with each other before we go to be bed. The nights we do watch the movies, we have more passion and intimate sex but unfortunately I feel very sinful in this manner. I think that the movies in a way strengthen our sexual bond. I feel that when we do have this more passion sex, that we engage in activities that we should not, such as sex that does not result in conception (anal sex, oral sex, abnormal positions)

I have decided that I want to come out with this because I am pretty sure it is sin, I have decided that I want to get rid of this issue with the help of this big online community
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Basically it’s objectifying and degrading to women, as well as being naturally disordered. Lust is indeed one of the seven deadly sins. I understand what you’re saying and I get trying to have a more stimulating sexual life, but remember the purpose of sex isn’t pleasure.

Of course I’m no priest so I’m sure a priest can better explain it.
 
HTC said:
I would like to apologize in advance if this article offends anybody, this is an issue that I have struggled with

I am a married man without children. My wife and I have been married recently and we have been exploring each other’s sexual abilities. I am very faithful to my wife and have never looked at another woman in a lustful way as much as other men. She is my best friend like the lord. A new and unsure habit that we have come across is watching pornographic material with each other before we go to be bed. The nights we do watch the movies, we have more passion and intimate sex but unfortunately I feel very sinful in this manner. I think that the movies in a way strengthen our sexual bond. I feel that when we do have this more passion sex, that we engage in activities that we should not, such as sex that does not result in conception (anal sex, oral sex, abnormal positions)

I have decided that I want to come out with this because I am pretty sure it is sin, I have decided that I want to get rid of this issue with the help of this big online community
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Watching the porn is making your physical sexual machinery run on “nitro”. While watching porn might seem to make the physical experience more intense, the truth is that you can achieve that same intensity by romancing your wife in the time leading up to going to bed. Porn also has a way of corrupting the real intimacy that you need to be experiencing together.

Porn is not strengthening your sexual bond, it’s just making you become physically aroused faster. Generally speaking, male physiology is more geared toward this than that of the female. Porn is a lot like eating junk food. It might taste great and it’s fun to eat, but it’s really not good for you and if you have enough of it, it can make you sick.

Avoiding porn is always a good idea, especially for married people. Your best course of action is to get rid of the porn. Turn off the lights and have a glass of wine together by candle light a couple of nights per week instead.

My gut feeling is that the Church is 100% correct on it’s stance on porn. Sex is not a spectator sport.

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Fnord said:
Basically it’s objectifying and degrading to women, as well as being naturally disordered. Lust is indeed one of the seven deadly sins. I understand what you’re saying and I get trying to have a more stimulating sexual life, but remember the purpose of sex isn’t pleasure.

Of course I’m no priest so I’m sure a priest can better explain it.
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It is not naturally disordered! Men are aroused mainly through the eyes. Rather than being naturally disordered, it is a perverted, commercial manipulation and sinful distortion of something God created for the good of mankind.

Nobody is more degraded than the poor soul who sits there, alone with paper towel in hand after watching this stuff. He has been far more degraded than the actress who willingly participated in order to finance her lifestyle instead of seeking honest employment.

Furthermore, it does not “objectify” women. It only objectifys the woman on camera. We need to develop a more mature attitude regarding this stuff because the one we have is not healthy.

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HTC said:
I would like to apologize in advance if this article offends anybody, this is an issue that I have struggled with

I am a married man without children. My wife and I have been married recently and we have been exploring each other’s sexual abilities. I am very faithful to my wife and have never looked at another woman in a lustful way as much as other men. She is my best friend like the lord. A new and unsure habit that we have come across is watching pornographic material with each other before we go to be bed. The nights we do watch the movies, we have more passion and intimate sex but unfortunately I feel very sinful in this manner. I think that the movies in a way strengthen our sexual bond. I feel that when we do have this more passion sex, that we engage in activities that we should not, such as sex that does not result in conception (anal sex, oral sex, abnormal positions)

I have decided that I want to come out with this because I am pretty sure it is sin, I have decided that I want to get rid of this issue with the help of this big online community[/Q:) 🙂 UOTE]

hello,

sex is basiclly from freedom and not from pornographic movies, never again watch it in future with your wife. sexual actions can be anything which are acceptable for both partners. no sexual actions which are agreed and accepted with ur partner is sin. so do not mess up sex with your spirituality. enjoy it with your wife but do not watch pornographic movies. god bless
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HTC said:
I would like to apologize in advance if this article offends anybody, this is an issue that I have struggled with

I am a married man without children. My wife and I have been married recently and we have been exploring each other’s sexual abilities. I am very faithful to my wife and have never looked at another woman in a lustful way as much as other men. She is my best friend like the lord. A new and unsure habit that we have come across is watching pornographic material with each other before we go to be bed. The nights we do watch the movies, we have more passion and intimate sex but unfortunately I feel very sinful in this manner. I think that the movies in a way strengthen our sexual bond. I feel that when we do have this more passion sex, that we engage in activities that we should not, such as sex that does not result in conception (anal sex, oral sex, abnormal positions)

I have decided that I want to come out with this because I am pretty sure it is sin, I have decided that I want to get rid of this issue with the help of this big online community
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u should go to confession, study the catechism and Bible.
 
From the Catechism of the Catholic Church:

2354 Pornography consists in removing real or simulated sexual acts from the intimacy of the partners, in order to display them deliberately to third parties. It offends against chastity because it perverts the conjugal act, the intimate giving of spouses to each other. It does grave injury to the dignity of its participants (actors, vendors, the public), since each one becomes an object of base pleasure and illicit profit for others. It immerses all who are involved in the illusion of a fantasy world. It is a grave offense. Civil authorities should prevent the production and distribution of pornographic materials.
 
HTC said:
I would like to apologize in advance if this article offends anybody, this is an issue that I have struggled with

I am a married man without children. My wife and I have been married recently and we have been exploring each other’s sexual abilities. I am very faithful to my wife and have never looked at another woman in a lustful way as much as other men. She is my best friend like the lord. A new and unsure habit that we have come across is watching pornographic material with each other before we go to be bed. The nights we do watch the movies, we have more passion and intimate sex but unfortunately I feel very sinful in this manner. I think that the movies in a way strengthen our sexual bond. I feel that when we do have this more passion sex, that we engage in activities that we should not, such as sex that does not result in conception (anal sex, oral sex, abnormal positions)

I have decided that I want to come out with this because I am pretty sure it is sin, I have decided that I want to get rid of this issue with the help of this big online community
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It’s a false sense of pleasure. When you and your wife can be intimate in such a way that your souls unite then you will have mastered the ultimate love which produces the ultimate pleasure. Right now you are falling short and that huge mask of porn blinds you from true intimacy. Trust me on this one…You are in my prayers. …teachccd
 
wow people, thank you so much for your replies sorry I couldn’t get back to you guys

I’ll first answer the questions, Scientology, it does not really cover much of this, or at least to what i have learned, I rarely go to their meetings or anything, I am very loosely scientologist, I put that down mainly because I didn’t want to leave anything blank. I am not very familiar with many of their practices but I feel that I agree on their philosophy regarding the human mind and thought.

I have not done this activity that I have spoken of after I posted about it, but my wife doesn’t know I’m here.

Maybe to better understand, what is the Catholic stand on pornographical content? I don’t find it degrading much as I do not pay for it and the deed was already done by the person who made it, I simply use it to have a better time with my wife, i understand that this may be seen as a sin, but please contemplate…

thank you
 
I can’t really imagine there being anyone here who will tell you that watching pornography is not sinful. While a few posts earlier there was a discussion about lust, the poster (I assume) was probably talking about “lust” as in arousal rather than the seven deadly sin “Lust”. I don’t see how there can be much debate about wanting to have sex with someone in the imagination when Jesus explicitly said that lusting for someone who is not your wife is as bad as actually having sex with her. The one question I have though, in terms of advice. is if it makes you feel bad, then why do it? and if you told your wife that it made you feel bad, could you communicate about it and work out something else that you both like that doesn’t make you feel guilty? Just the fact that you are on a forum with a bunch of Catholic people probably means that your conscience is nagging at you. Perhaps some friendly counseling or a meeting with priest, if you want more of the catholic view, may be in order. But whatever you choose, good luck and God Bless. 🙂
 
Is it uncharitable if I flag the person as a troll? Usually if a new member’s first post is about something sexual, it makes me think they just want to watch bickering people go nuts.

I apologize in advance to the moderator if this is an uncharitable response. But yeah, porn can be EXTREMELY addicting and can destroy your marriage in a heartbeat.
 
Thanks for the support, I do appreciate all the guidance, and to the troll thing, a troll would rampage through your site and post all sorts of nonsense, I made one topic because I had an issue and i wanted to see what the Catholic belief was on it because I heard that this forum was really big and helped people.

Sooo basically I have quit my habit on this watching movies, I haven’t done it in a while now, or maybe it just feel like a long time and its much better. If it too late to ask for forgiveness, I knew that what I was doing had to be sin but i kept going back to it with no regard to the doctrine… what should I do?
 
HTC said:
Thanks for the support, I do appreciate all the guidance, and to the troll thing, a troll would rampage through your site and post all sorts of nonsense, I made one topic because I had an issue and i wanted to see what the Catholic belief was on it because I heard that this forum was really big and helped people.

Sooo basically I have quit my habit on this watching movies, I haven’t done it in a while now, or maybe it just feel like a long time and its much better. If it too late to ask for forgiveness, I knew that what I was doing had to be sin but i kept going back to it with no regard to the doctrine… what should I do?
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It’s never too late to ask for forgiveness. If you were a Catholic I would advise you to go to confession. But since it seems that you might not be Catholic I would urge you to pray and seek forgiveness. And give up the porn. It serves no purpose other than to objectify the human being and remove the soul from the body. There is nothing of God in porn since love partakes of both body AND soul and sexual love should be only expressed in marriage. That is the Catholic stance and there is no other. Thank you for inquiring about our stance on this and I hope that you will find more reasons to visit us on this forum…God bless…teachccd
 
Since you are not Catholic and to be honest I don’t have any idea what Scientology is going on about I’m not certain what to tell you… Do you have anything similar to confession? or a priest that you could talk to? anything like an Act of Contrition? If you do have something like confession go, if you don’t just pray for God to forgive you, perhaps with your wife? If you don’t have something like a priest then find an older, more experienced, Scientologist? (I don’t even know if thats the right word, sry.) to talk to about it. Definitely don’t get into the habit because it is very hard to break and might harm your marriage.

Pax Vobiscum
 
Has anyone here had experience with this issue that they would be willing to talk about, not necessarily a porn addict, but someone who has dealt with something like this before.
 
HTC said:
Has anyone here had experience with this issue that they would be willing to talk about, not necessarily a porn addict, but someone who has dealt with something like this before.
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Sure! Here’s the deal. Men are visally stimulated… no if’s, and’s or but’s. Porn is extremely fun and exciting to watch because of the absolute beauty of the physically fit female form whether in motion or in photograph. The excitement is the result of us guys putting ourselves into “fantasy mode” in order to achieve one of the most intense physical pleasures known to mankind… the orgasm. Usually the more stimulating the image, the more powerful the pleasure and the resulting orgasm. This happens because our physiology has been manipulated into believing a great opportunity to pass on our genes with a healthy recipient (the porn model) is present.

Porn itself is really that simple at it’s core. The problem is that it is a shortcut to those pleasures and it completely eliminates the unity intimacy between man and wife that this pleasure is supposed to bring. Porn is really a counterfeit intimacy. Once the fantasy is over, reality hit’s home and it is only then that we realize that we have been fooled by the devil.

Porn should be avoided for many reasons. It can retard the social and spiritual development of young people. It can be extremely addictive. It can place unrealistic expectations on real women (wives). and last but not lease, God doesn’t approve if it.

Your best course of action would be to go avoid watching this stuff whether with your wife or by yourself. It’s really sort of like having another couple in the bedroom with you. It’s exciting to the flesh, but it is really bad for the spirit.

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