Prohibition on marriage

[Soontobebride]

Hopefully over the next few days I’ll figure out what the secret stuff is. I still don’t think it’s right to blame me for the abuse.

 

[dollysro]

I have to agree with others that you are not being blamed for anything.
The fact that you suffered abuse raises a red flag with the tribunal and they want to make sure you don’t suffer again.
The purpose of the counseling is just that.

unless I’m to believe my ex (when everytime he beat me he said it was my fault)

^^^That is the sort of the thing they explore.
Please have more faith, in yourself as well as with God.