Prolife obituary for miscarriage

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Oh my goodness! I have just read this whole thread. I cannot believe that you have been through all of this and people cannot acknowledge your little Joseph. You held him in your hand! He was your child!
For people like me, who never saw their baby on a scan or held them, it is even harder for people to understand your grief. I feel like I shouldn’t be sad about my miscarriage anymore. I feel that people would think I am being melodramatic to grieve the loss of my child.
But I do feel sad… I miss what I would have had.
dkoinzan, your obituary was absolutely beautiful. Just beautiful. Your dear son and daughter would certainly know that they were very much wanted by their mother and father and dearly loved. It has touched me so much.
I know I read this thread when you first started it, but the pain and the loss is not something that I could understand until it happened to me.
I must confess, I was one of those women who never understood the sense of loss felt by those I knew who miscarried. Now I feel it myself.
God bless you dkoinzan. God bless your family, your husband and your five children.
 
To the OP,

You have suffered much, my prayers to your family,

I have had one abortion, and one miscarriage, very early one at 6 weeks, and I have 4 living children.

In 2003, I went to a Rachels Vineyard retreat weekend, it is open to women and men who have suffered loss from abortion and miscarriage and stillborn babes, that they cannot hold in their arms.

Please look up their website, or go to Priests for Life, their website will link to it.

I can still feel your pain. May God continue to keep on healing it.
 
Thank you for the prayers! Most days are good, but the stress of the past year sometimes catches up to me. As a result of the stress, my thyroid isn’t working quite right. My hair is beginning to thin. Yesterday morning the shower was full of hair. I was pretty upset. In the end, I called my Dad. He is bald and he loves it. By the time I got off the phone, he had me laughing about how we could soon look more like eachother.

I will have to ask my babies to pray for their Momma. I really wouldn’t look all that sweat with no hair.😊
 
Hi,

I just read your post, please call Rachel’s Vineyard, I think their number is 1-800 hope 4 me. try their website. I know they can help, they can link to your state, they have a retreat there, I hate to push you, but you sound so sweet, let someone help you.

God Bless
 
The hair has stopped falling out!:rotfl:

monkey 6 thank you for your concern. I really am fine. There are going to be some days that are hard. That is life. If I didn’t have some sorrow over the loss of two children, there would be something wrong. I have been working with two doctors to try to get my health back. Some issues are stress induced and some are not. The hard part is that it is taking so long to get this all figured out. At first my doctor felt it was all stress although I continued to assure him it was not. As more symtoms have surfaced I am being taken more seriously. I pray we have more answers before Baby Joseph’s birthday. I will be totally frustrated if I have no answers a year after his death!

God gave me this experience to draw me closer to him and I am thankful! There is a peacefullness and a joy even in great suffering. God is good! I have two little saints in heaven. I ask Theresa and Joseph to perpetually pray for their family. What comfort to know that I have prayer partners.

After Baby Theresa was born dead I spent hours in adoration praying for hope. I would cry out to Momma Mary to tell Jesus to give me hope. At one point I picked up a book of Marian Prayers and opened it up. The page I opened it to had feast days of Mary. One of the feast days was Jan. 17th, my birthday. I read on to find out that Jan. 17th is the feast day of Our Lady Of Hope. I then began to search for an image of Our Lady Of Hope. I couldn’t find one on the internet and so I asked Jesus for one. While shopping for disguarded Catholic pictures at Good Will, the cashier brought out a beautiful plate with the image of Our Lady Of Hope. I HAVE HOPE! Mary asked Jesus and I have Hope!
 
Island_Oak said:
I am sorry for the loss you expereinced. But this response strikes me as unusual. Is it not the case that an estimated 1/3 of all pregnancies terminate through miscarriage in the first trimester? There are apparently many blighted pregnancies which never survive until term for any number of known and unknown reasons. I am not suggesting that you are not disappointed or grieving. I’m just wondering whether this is something to make the subject of public grief or a more private and intimate matter.
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Why in the world does this mother’s response strike you as “unusual?” She gave birth to, and said goodbye to, a fully formed baby. In 2002, I also had a “miscarriage” at 19 weeks, 6 days - just one day shy of the limit for being considered a pre-term birth. Let me assure you that she was fully formed and recognizably a human baby, not just some “blighted” pregnancy or some such thing.

I am sure that women who have early miscarriages experience plenty of grief as well, and we know that babies are ensouled and fully human at the moment of conception, but IMO the grief is often much greater when you actually hold and see your fully formed baby. Would you have made the same comment if her baby had died at term?
 
I am so thankful my babies will be celebrating in heaven tomarrow, and that there are no tears in heaven. I miss him here and the loss of my babies fills me with tears. I miss Joseph and I wish I could be with him on his birthday and give him hugs and kisses as I do for his brother and sister. Tomarrow for his birthday I will offer up the tears to Jesus to shower graces down on the children of mine who I am still raising. I pray they become stronger in their faith.
 
I just have to share. November 6th was the day I gave birth to my son Joseph Marie. While I was pregnant I used to place him at the feet of Our Lady Of Guadalupe and ask her to please keep him safe and if it be God’s will let him live. Anyway, I had been struggling to find a way to celebrate him during this month. Of course I placed his name and his sister’s name in the book of the dead, but that just didn’t seem like enough. The parish we attend also allows us to place funeral cards on Mary’s alter, but I really don’t have one for Jospeh. The kids and I took the ultrasound pictures of both children and made a card for them. I asked a Nun to place the card on the alter for me because the church was locked. As it turned out, she placed it way up high on Mary’s alter right at her feet. Sometimes I get worried that because they weren’t baptized, they may not have made it into heaven. It is a little gift to have someone, who doesn’t know me, also place them at the feet of Mary. I will continue to pray for them until my last breath, but I know Mary is taking care of them.
 
I just wanted to encourage you to be at peace about where your children are now. They are in Heaven, with God and His angels! I was told that our children have been given the gift of Baptism of Desire. If they would have been alive, you would have baptized them, and God understands and honors our requests and desires that lead us ever closer to Him. So, please be at peace, and now, ask your sweet children to start praying for you and their Dad and siblings:)
God bless you. I know that it is hard getting through these times, but, we are never alone, and God is always with us. Soon, we will at last get to rejoin our loved ones in Heaven:) I will say a prayer for both you and your husband, that God will just extend His comfort and care and healing during this time of sadness…
 
For the most part we are at peace about our children, but we are human and sometimes doubts slip in. I am confident that God chose them to be in the moment that they are in and that he has always wanted them with him. I can’t stop praying for them, because that is one way I can show them I love them and God will use my prayers as he sees fit. We ask our little Saints to pray with us each night and to continue to pray for us always. Thank you for all the prayers. We can always use them.
 
This thread has touched me on numerous levels - our little honeymoon baby miscarried on November 21st … even though I was not quite six weeks along, DH and I felt that we had to give our little one a name and an identity. I too, have written our little Saint an obituary, although I have not made it too public. I feel like some people - those caught up in the culture of death - think that DH and I are absolutely nuts. But every life is precious, no matter how small. And if someone realizes that just because a person may not look like a person, they still are a person; and that they are worthy of love and being cherished and remembered - then our little one’s mission will be fulfilled many times over.

God bless. :angel1:
 
mylo said:
This thread has touched me on numerous levels - our little honeymoon baby miscarried on November 21st … even though I was not quite six weeks along, DH and I felt that we had to give our little one a name and an identity. I too, have written our little Saint an obituary, although I have not made it too public. I feel like some people - those caught up in the culture of death - think that DH and I are absolutely nuts. But every life is precious, no matter how small. And if someone realizes that just because a person may not look like a person, they still are a person; and that they are worthy of love and being cherished and remembered - then our little one’s mission will be fulfilled many times over.

God bless. :angel1:
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I am sorry to hear of your babies death. The name you chose is just beautiful! One day I pray that is is more accepted that we are parents from conception! Your baby is a gift! My oldest son loves to brag up how his baby brother is a Saint. The most amazing thing is that my love for all my children grows each day. Love isn’t bound to life or death. It goes on growing always.

God Bless
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With the feast day of Our Lady Of Guadalupe, it marks a year since his fisrt placed in our church bullitin. While pregnant with him, I used to place him in the folds of the clothe at her feet. What a blessing to have her image!
 
Joseph’s due date was in April of 2007. He is a year old! Happy birthday my baby boy!
 
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