Protestant vs catholic marriage

[nymfan6986]

I need some help from anyone who reads this. I am a very devout Catholic and truely love everything about my faith. My girlfriend who belongs to an assembly to God church is starting to consider becoming Catholic in the future but is unsure. We both are planning to get married and whatever happens will get a dispensation whether we get married at her church or the Catholic Church and it will be a valid marriage my priest told me. I was wondering if anyone could explain to me the difference between protestant marriage and Catholic matrimony. Why did Luther and Calvin reject the sacrament of Marriage? Thank you for whomever can help me with this. Also as a Catholic, if I did end up getting married with permission in my girlfriends church would that be a bad thing for me to do as a practicing catholic even though it would still be validated. Thank you for your help. My heart says I should get married in the Catholic Church but I want to respect my girlfriends feelings but hopefully we both can learn more from this.

 

[Andreas_Hofer]

For Luther part of the story was taking the scholastic definition of a sacrament to a literal extreme. A sacrament is an outward sign instituted by Christ to confer grace. Luther saw no explicit institution by Christ for anything other than baptism (the great commision) and the Lord’s supper, so these were the only two to pass muster. That’s not the full story, but it was involved in his thought process.

 

[stbruno]

Being a Catholic, I don’t know the Protestant side of the story of marriage, however I do have a link to validate that your marriage will be considered sacramental if you receive the dispensation from canonical form for your marriage from the Catholic church.

You can read this document from our diocese regarding mixed marriages…Marriages between two Christians fully baptized.
familyministries.org/www.inthespiritofcana.org/2.6.10.htm

I also found this long link that details Calvin’s idea of marriage. Perhaps this will help you. latter-rain.com/archive/11-28-2000.htm

 

[chrysostom15]

First, there is no one protestant view of marriage, each person has their own opinion and that is how it is. The main differences, however, are:

-Catholic Church teaches that marriage is between a man and a woman. Some protestant denominations think it is possible between two people of the same gender

-Catholic Church teaches that marriage is until death do you part, and that a valid marriage cannot be ended except by death. Most protestants do not agree

-The Catholic Church teaches that marriage much be open to children, and that one cannot validly marry and also plan to use birth control. Most protestants no longer howl that view

-The Catholic Church teaches that married people cannot engage in sexual relations with other people (only spouse) and that if one intends to do so, he/she cannot marry. That is different from a few denominations.

-The Catholic Church believe that marriage gives graces to both the man and the woman supernaturally; most protestants do not.

-The Catholic Church holds that the sexual union of a man and a woman (each time) is a renewal of their matrimonial covenent; most protestants do not.

I’ve found that it is best for a mixed marriage (one Catholic and one protestant) to marry in the Catholic Church.

 

[kage_ar]

As someone who WAS in the Assemblies of God for many years, I’d advise you do wait for marriage until she completes RCIA. The wedding will be one thing, but the marriage after will be very difficult for a practicing Catholic and a practicing Assmebly of God. Search the forums here for stories of “mixed marriages”.

Pray.

 

[InLight247]

In addition to all the good postings above, consider this:

Getting married in a Catholic Church, you will receive the Sacrament. Holy matrimony is a very precious Sacrament. Isn’t this Sacrament important to you?

Also, wedding is such a solemn occasion, wouldn’t you want our Lord Jesus’ physical presence be with you? Having a Mass, and Holy Communion, you will have the union with our Lord on your big day, isn’t that significant to you?

If you believe Catholic Church is the true Church, wouldn’t you want your wedding take place in the true Church?

If your answers are yes to these questions, then you definitely should get married in the Catholic Church.

 

[gvogt4]

. My heart says I should get married in the Catholic Church but I want to respect my girlfriends feelings .

Hey. Regarding your heart:

2563 The heart is the dwelling-place where I am, where I live; according to the Semitic or Biblical expression, the heart is the place “to which I withdraw.” The heart is our hidden center, beyond the grasp of our reason and of others; only the Spirit of God can fathom the human heart and know it fully. The heart is the place of decision, deeper than our psychic drives. It is the place of truth, where we choose life or death. It is the place of encounter, because as image of God we live in relation: it is the place of covenant.

2611 The prayer of faith consists not only in saying “Lord, Lord,” but in disposing the heart to do the will of the Father.70 Jesus calls his disciples to bring into their prayer this concern for cooperating with the divine plan.71

 

[nymfan6986]

Thanks guys for all your help and suggestions they def have been worthwhile