But what does Jesus tell Catholics about her that He doesn’t tell all?
Returning to the theme of “Gebirah”:
We see this in the Gospel story of the Wedding Feast at Cana (
John 2:1-12). Mary, hearing the needs of the newlywed couple, approached her Son and simply said “They have no wine.” Jesus said to her, “Woman, how does your concern affect me? My hour has not yet come.” To that, Mary simply turned to the servers and told them to do whatever he said to do.
The word translated as “Woman” is actually an honorific. He’s not being scornful, He’s saying “Honored Lady”. She is fulfilling her role as Gebirah, relaying the needs of the people to the King, and now having done that, they both know that if it is in His power He must grant her request, even if it was not the right time to reveal Himself as the King.
I have this image that as Jesus tells her, "My hour has not yet come,” Mary gives him THAT look, that every good Jewish son knows. She then turns to the servants, tells them to do whatever he says, and walks a way. I picture Jesus saying something like:
“Ma? What are you doing, Ma? Come back here, Ma! I know what you’re doing! You’re still angry because I stayed behind at Temple that one time, aren’t you? Ma? It was 20 years ago, Ma! Give it a rest, already! Ma! Ma?! Oy, meshugga.” (That last part is delivered under His breath.) Then, He blesses this wedding with His miracle of turning water into wine.
(I’d also like to point out that the text specifically mention’s Mary’s presence at the wedding. Jesus and the disciples are included almost like an afterthought. To me, this means that Jesus was making a point on the honor that is His Mother’s due, that She was listed before Him as attendees. When you’re listing the people attending an event, you DON’T list your 3rd cousin’s daughter before the President of the United States. Additionally, John was making a point about Mary’s role as Gebirah and intercessor for the people.)