Heather, you are correct when you say the Catholic Church is so right. Jesus promised the Church would be “right”. Purgatory was one of the last hurdles for me, but I understand now that one cannot be in the presence of God Almighty if there is a stain of sin on our soul. Thus Purgatory for the ones of us who have not taken care of these stains prior to death. We will never know who goes through the state of Purgatory. Only God knows that.
I pray you will find peace with this, but mostly you have to decide that the Catholic Church is in fact the Church Jesus started. Once that decision is reached, it becomes a matter of obedience to accept Purgatory, the Immaculate Conception, Communion of Saints, all the things which might hang us up. God’s Grace will bring peace and accepttance once we have His Church in its proper perspective.
Peace.
Stan