Purity and God's Mercy

[rymichael]

Hello all,

I am a college student trying to live a chaste life, (which is hard). I find that all my other friends are interested in just hooking up with girls, which I was the same way at some point. I am just struggling right now, does God love us no matter what we do?

I am just angry that I am trying my hardest to be a good person and be pure, but when I fall, I fall hard and I beat myself up over my sins. I’m not being scrupulous, I am just frustrated that I am over here trying to live a chaste life while all my friends are out doing whoever and whatever, will they get into heaven too. I am struggling because if we all get into heaven by spending a XXX amount of time in Purgatory or because they don’t know the gravity of their sins, why do I have to be over here struggling?

I don’t have a problem with saying my prayers everyday, I go to do daily mass, daily rosary, and do the St. Bridget 1 year and 12 year prayer. I have also started Divine Mercy and St. Gertrude’s prayer for souls in Purgatory.

I am not struggling with my prayer life, but I am struggling with the fact that I am doing all this and everyone else is just living their life not worrying about anything and I am over here beating myself up. I would just like some feedback or suggestions of what to do.

Thank you and God Bless you!

Please pray for me.

 

[Christy_Beth]

First of all, relax. I think you might be trying too hard. It’s ok to have a little fun sometimes. It’s just a matter of how you do it and with whom you’re doing it. Give yourself some breathing room, and stop comparing yourself with others. We all sin, and it’s all too easy to fall into the rut of beating ourselves up over it. I often do the same thing, but it gets me nowhere. Try volunteering somewhere. I don’t know if there is a Humane Society Shelter in your area, but the one here is grateful for all who do volunteer. I haven’t been volunteering for ong, and it seems like I miss more days that I go. Not that I’m scheduled, they will take whatever help they can get, whenever they can get it. I actually enjoy it for the most part. I’ve been working with some of the larger dogs. Now that’s work. Especially if they need to be taken outside. Sometimes I’m sure it looks like they are walking me instead of the other way around. But I wouldn’t trade if for anything. Well, almost anything.

 

[Lisa1967]

First of all, relax. I think you might be trying too hard. It’s ok to have a little fun sometimes. It’s just a matter of how you do it and with whom you’re doing it. Give yourself some breathing room, and stop comparing yourself with others. We all sin, and it’s all too easy to fall into the rut of beating ourselves up over it. I often do the same thing, but it gets me nowhere. Try volunteering somewhere. I don’t know if there is a Humane Society Shelter in your area, but the one here is grateful for all who do volunteer. I haven’t been volunteering for ong, and it seems like I miss more days that I go. Not that I’m scheduled, they will take whatever help they can get, whenever they can get it. I actually enjoy it for the most part. I’ve been working with some of the larger dogs. Now that’s work. Especially if they need to be taken outside. Sometimes I’m sure it looks like they are walking me instead of the other way around. But I wouldn’t trade if for anything. Well, almost anything.

I second this. I just adopted my second shelter cat after my first one passed away in 2011, and my cats have brought me out of myself.

I try not to worry about what other people are doing because only God knows our hearts.

 

[1filipina]

life, but I am struggling with the fact that I am doing all this and everyone else is just living their life not worrying about anything and I am over here beating myself up. I would just like some feedback or suggestions of what to do.

well i know a few catholics who – took care of this problem by getting married !

it resolves the problem of the sexual desire and looking for the perfect woman…

maybe you should pray for a wife-- so listen to the answer of prayer–

what do you need an answer to ? how to control your physical desires?

how you get an answer from God will help you in the rest of your life

 

[detoutcoeur]

Hello all,

I am a college student trying to live a chaste life, (which is hard). I find that all my other friends are interested in just hooking up with girls, which I was the same way at some point. I am just struggling right now, does God love us no matter what we do?

I am just angry that I am trying my hardest to be a good person and be pure, but when I fall, I fall hard and I beat myself up over my sins. I’m not being scrupulous, I am just frustrated that I am over here trying to live a chaste life while all my friends are out doing whoever and whatever, will they get into heaven too. I am struggling because if we all get into heaven by spending a XXX amount of time in Purgatory or because they don’t know the gravity of their sins, why do I have to be over here struggling?

I don’t have a problem with saying my prayers everyday, I go to do daily mass, daily rosary, and do the St. Bridget 1 year and 12 year prayer. I have also started Divine Mercy and St. Gertrude’s prayer for souls in Purgatory.

I am not struggling with my prayer life, but I am struggling with the fact that I am doing all this and everyone else is just living their life not worrying about anything and I am over here beating myself up. I would just like some feedback or suggestions of what to do.

Thank you and God Bless you!

Please pray for me.

I’m impressed with how seriously you take your faith–college is a tough time. Keep focusing on nurturing your prayer life and relationship with Christ. Confession makes a big difference; you could also look into spiritual direction. Is there a Newman Club or Catholic Center at your college? Being involved with other young Catholics who share your values and struggles would help. too.

Stay strong! You’re in my prayers.

 

[pwlj_christ87]

i can associate with your post, and im far from perfect but i have been given the graces from god to not live like that…

god gives you the grace to overcome impurity, impurity is NOT a good thing, dont let them decieve you to thinking it is good, what do you get out of it? you have a one night stand with no feelings attached, you basically use somebody for their body get emotions involved?

wouldnt you want to live pure, fulfilling to god and find the right one ?? have a amazing sexual relationship that isnt based on some perverted pronographic images or actions, but a sex life that is intimate close and amazing. that is what god wants, dont substitute what your friends aredoing as good…

i too fall like you, and the bottom line is you cant justify a sin… deep down you know or will know that it is wrong… the sin… and you will repent. the thing is satan twists our minds to thinking perversions are good… when the beauty of a women and eveyrthing good is outside of that…

keep the good fight,ill pray for you

 

[rymichael]

Thank you all for your responses, I guess what I am really asking is should I just go do whatever with my life and not worry about sinning so much and go to confession once every couple weeks?

Is God’s mercy so great where no matter what he will save all of us?

Who exactly gets saved?

When I think of this I think of the story of the return of the Prodigal son, where one of the boys is always faithful to his father, and then the brother returns home and is greeted with open arms, a big party, and the best things are used for his party.

 

[TomD123]

Thank you all for your responses, I guess what I am really asking is should I just go do whatever with my life and not worry about sinning so much and go to confession once every couple weeks?

Of course not! You have a strong faith, which is really admirable for a college student. You keep praying and build your relationship with God! It is so great that you are doing this!

Going on with sin and just saying “I can always go to confession etc.” is called presumption. For confession to even be valid, we have to have a firm purpose of not sinning again. Presumption is the sin where we don’t have any true desire to be holy so we sin and expect God to be merciful. It is taking advantage of God’s mercy and is often what leads people to hell. It is a very dangerous sin because it shuts us off from the source of mercy by making us think we are receiving mercy but we are actually using God. Of course God can forgive presumption, but it is especially dangerous. If we did this with any other relationship in our lives, those relationships would soon die.

So by all means keep building your relationship with God. Keep praying. Its awesome how much you do, stay strong!

Is God’s mercy so great where no matter what he will save all of us?

Who exactly gets saved?

No, God’s mercy is so great that no matter what he is willing to forgive us. No matter what sins we have IF we are repentent he will forgive us. No matter how many times we have sinned, He will forget our sins and raise us up if we are really sorry.

Who exactly gets saved? Those who die with sanctifying grace (love of God) on their soul. In other words, all mortal sins are forgiven. Impure behaviour is a mortal sin and if one is culpable for it and do not repent, they will certainly be damned.

When I think of this I think of the story of the return of the Prodigal son, where one of the boys is always faithful to his father, and then the brother returns home and is greeted with open arms, a big party, and the best things are used for his party.

The prodigal son returned. We are all like the prodigal son at times, we all need God’s infinte mercy and forgiveness. God pursues all sinners because He loves us all. But we should never forget that if the prodigal son did not return, there would be no party. Unrepentent sinners die and go to hell.

 

[Christy_Beth]

It’s ok to have fun, as long as it doesn’t lead to sin. Confession every two weeks?!?! I’m doing good if I go once a month. Actually, I used to worry about how God and everyone else thought about me. But I’m learning that what others think of me is their problem, not mine. The only opinion that really matters is God’s. And he isn’t so unforgiving that we aren’t allowed any leeway in life. Try to relax and enjoy his great grace.