Purity and Lying: I need help

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Monsignor explained it during one of his homilies once much better than I can re-tell it. Let me just say that it was well received by most present. I just may not be communicating it properly, for which, I am sorry.
 
Sir Knight:
You can take this for whatever it is worth and draw any conclusions that you wish …

Our Msgr asks each 8th grade girl in our grammer school three times to marry him and instrusts them to say ‘no’ each time. He does this so that when they are in high school or college or beyond, they can “honestly” say that they’ve been asked to be married three times and they turned it down.
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:rotfl: Everyone has had at least window friend in their life. (Anne of Green Gables)
Believe this or not I was embaressed to tell my husband I was a virgin when I met him. I did not tell him until a year after our marriage.
Pressure is a difficult thing and after my friends and family humilitated me I did not want the embarassment from him as well. Amazing how things change in life.
I am sure your boyfriend will be happy in the end but tell him the entire story.
 
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AlanFromWichita & deb1, last year monsignor celebrated his 50th year in the priesthood so his “emphasis” may be different but that doesn’t make it wrong and I think it’s a nice act on his part.
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During Mass this morning I was thinking about this, and realized that it could just be that this charming priest has this ritual that he thinks is good for the girls. I’m not sure I see a great deal of harm in it.

Sure, it is dealing with some powerful issues: marriage and honesty. Therefore, it is automatically true that it could have significant effects either positive or negative. That said, it could be a very “charming” exercise that, when taken with its presentation, sounds bizarre to those who hear it described in a linear fashion with words on a discussion forum.

I still think it’s a bit strange, at least on the surface, but I’m not particularly concerned that this man is scarring young women for life. He could be, ceremony or not, the greatest positive influence they’ve ever had. I think I’m still learning to quit being so wary of everything that a religious person does that is new to me. Otherwise I risk being quite the hypocrite, and there is a good chance that I would not have been concerned had I known the man personally. If I described some of the methods I have used to get points across to my own children, some of them would undoubtedly sound strange to hear described out of context.

Alan
 
thanks for the prayers guys. all is well! <3

if a mod could delete this that would be grand.
 
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