Qualities for a husband I have come up with.. :)

[dakotagirl]

I guess so! I tend to believe in meeting people naturally, but my father criticises this outlook on theological grounds. He says I overemphasise nature as per facts observed. I must come up with an intelligent counter!

What do you mean by “naturally”? The definition is vague. Because people don’t go to parties anymore unless they mean to meet somebody. Wait, wait, my jaded act is sticking out again - I better rectify that immediately. I also don’t understand what theological grounds have to do with “overemphasise nature as (according to) facts observed.” (English please: it’s not a foreign language.)

 

[chevalier]

What do you mean by “naturally”? The definition is vague. Because people don’t go to parties anymore unless they mean to meet somebody. Wait, wait, my jaded act is sticking out again - I better rectify that immediately. I also don’t understand what theological grounds have to do with “overemphasise nature as (according to) facts observed.” (English please: it’s not a foreign language.)

I prefer things to happen more or less as people pop up in the normal course of life, as opposed to things being arranged (e.g. singles’ club). Dad seems to think that I believe something is natural because it simply happens (the homosexual dolphins problem) and that I value naturalcy above finding a good mate. In reality, I just want some spontaneity in the whole thing (ironically).

 

[Jay82]

I prefer things to happen more or less as people pop up in the normal course of life, as opposed to things being arranged (e.g. singles’ club). Dad seems to think that I believe something is natural because it simply happens (the homosexual dolphins problem) and that I value naturalcy above finding a good mate. In reality, I just want some spontaneity in the whole thing (ironically).

I see what you are saying, but consider this scenario…

Lets say you have a hobby/activity you enjoy, but you do it on your own or with a friend. You decide that it would be nice to find some others who also enjoy the same activity, so you join an organization/club that runs those sort of events. After a month or two you start to get to know the people there. Then someone invites you out to a birthday dinner or social gathering. At this gathering are some people you know from the organization, plus some friends of friends who happen to be single women. Now all of a sudden you have met some possibly nice women via a contact/friend in a new organization you recently joined. It may not work out, but you have expanded your social network and have a better chance at meeting other nice people.

The aforementioned scenario, in my opinion, is generally a ‘natural’ process. You aren’t going into the organization with the mindset of - I really hope to find some single women… you are just looking to enjoy your free time and have fun. If you happen to meet someone who could be a potential girlfriend, that is great. If not, oh well, it isn’t a big deal at all.

When I talk about ‘branching out’ I mean something like this rather than going to various singles events.

 

[chevalier]

In my opinion too that is a natural process. In fact, I am currently going through one.