Question about adoption and gay couples

[BornInMarch]

Would it be better for a child in an adoption agency to be adopted by a gay couple or not adopted at all?

The consensus among the scientific community is that on average children raised by gay couples are as healthy, as well-adjusted, and grow up to be as successful as children raised by straight couples.

However, what is detrimental to childhood is being raised without any parents at all. Children who grow up in orphanages or the foster care system typically end up having psychological problems in adulthood, and the lack of a support network means they struggle financially.

 

[BornInMarch]

On this basis would you object single parents being allowed to raise children? I don’t mean single adoption, I mean households where the child’s mother or father for whatever reason can’t be in their life. One example of how such a situation could arise is if the single parent is a widow or a widower.

 

[annad347]

The state should not place children in the care of others on the basis of religious ideas.

They should do everything possible to do what is best for the child.

So, if a Jewish child needs an adoptive placement, you’d say it’s wrong for the agency to try to place that child with a Jewish family?

Of course…but what if a Jewish family never applies, how long should an agency wait for a proper couple from a proper religion?

Exactly. So when the government denies Catholic agencies adoptions to willing parents…because gay couples deserve children too…whose religion are we honoring?

do you know a situation when a willing Catholic couple was denied the opportunity to adopt a child because a gay couple wanted to adopt a child?

Well, I adopted one child many years ago, and fostered another. So I think I’m at least somewhat acquainted with it.

and you still think it’s better for them to not be adopted at all? That’s confusing.

Might be best for the children to be put in the care of Aunt A or Uncle B, who may ultimately adopt them, rather than sent off to live with total strangers.

Exactly, doing what is best for the child is always best… unfortunately most children in foster homes are not that lucky.

I wish I knew the answer, but consider the number of children who need adopting, compared to the number of “perfect” couples who want to adopt… allowing a gay couple, single people, people of a different religion &/or different race should be considered… as long as all the proper “stuff” takes place to make sure the person/people who want to adopt are good people.

To spend your life thinking you are unloved, unwanted, or no one cares about you cannot possible be what God wants for His children.

 

[FiveLinden]

So, if a Jewish child needs an adoptive placement, you’d say it’s wrong for the agency to try to place that child with a Jewish family?

Well, it depends. If a child is a practicing Jew, or identifies strongly as a Jew in the cultural or ethnic sense, the child is, all other things being equal, likely to be better off with a Jewish family of similar beliefs and attitudes. In placing such a child in such a family the decision would not be being made for religious reasons but on the basis of what makes the best sense for the child.

On the other hand if the child is a baby and therefore has no religious views there would be no reason at all to try to match the beliefs of the biological parents with those of the adoptive parents.

 

[FiveLinden]

Exactly. So when the government denies Catholic agencies adoptions to willing parents…because gay couples deserve children too…whose religion are we honoring?

Lack of a religious belief is not a religious belief.

 

[goout]

goout:

Exactly. So when the government denies Catholic agencies adoptions to willing parents…because gay couples deserve children too…whose religion are we honoring?

Lack of a religious belief is not a religious belief.

Yea I hear that a lot.

 

[BornInMarch]

Based on that, would you oppose a straight single parent from adopting?

 

[BornInMarch]

Okay then. It seems your position is consistent.