Question about dating a non catholic

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How old are you? If you are 16 or 26, the answers may be different.
 
We haven’t got that far yet . So I don’t know. I think that he wants to someday im praying for his conversion to the Faith someday.
 
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We haven’t got that far yet . So I don’t know. I think that he wants to someday im praying for his conversion to the Faith someday.
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I was a born and brought up Methodist and married a Catholic wife. She prayed daily for 10 years for me to convert. God must have heard her. I converted in 1992.
 
I wouldn’t advise. I dated non Catholic girl not that long ago. Big mistake. I’d invite her to Mass but she was just pretending to want to go and later said didn’t want to. Then you had times where your values would clash , particularly in romance dynamics (staying over, physical affection, etc) of a couple. If they’re not open to being Catholic I just don’t see any reason.
 
It’s pretty simple. If you want a Catholic spouse, then date Catholics.
It’s not fair to him to wish that he was Catholic.

You are free to choose who to date and who to marry.
I wanted a Catholic spouse who went to the sacraments so I made a decision after the first date on that detail. It wouldn’t be fair to keep dating, get attached, and then wonder what to do when he doesn’t want to get married in the church. That’s a lot of heart ache that I wanted to avoid.

What do you want? Be honest with yourself and with him.
God bless and strengthen you.
 
Is he religious? As in does he attend church regularly or not, whatever faith it may be?

As far a limiting your dating to Catholics only, that doesn’t necessarily guarantee a good marriage or a lasting one, contrary to some beliefs. The number of divorces of Catholics certainly confirm that.

You won’t know where he stands on issues until you get to know him, talk about things, and that only comes with dating and spending time with one another.

If your faith is strong, and he sees that, there is opportunity for him to choose to convert. Many do. My wife is one of them. I know of several couples who have been married a long, long time with one of the spouses not being catholic. Under this type of circumstance, the couple just has to make certain that are in agreement as to what faith the children will be brought up in.

Good luck to you.
 
Yes, you may date non-Catholics. I would caution against doing so personally.

I think it is best to think in terms of old fashioned courting rather than dating, difference being that with courting the purpose is to get to know someone and ascertain whether the two of you are suitable for marriage. Instead of trying to make them into your dream date, you are just spending time letting them be themselves and learning about them, seeing how they handle different situations, all the while having an idea of the life you want to build for yourself. If you see they aren’t right for you, you move on respectfully instead of fault finding them to death.

It is difficult to be with a non-Catholic if being a faithful Catholic is important:; if you one day want to attend weekly mass as a family, if you want your spouse to participate in raising your children Catholic, and if you want your marriage to be a covenant between you, your spouse and your God through the church. Will you say Grace at dinner? Hang a crucifix in your child’s room? Will you consider Catholic schools for your kids? Will your spouse respect your priest’s advice, or support your wish to go to confession?

I married a non-Catholic and learned our marriage was a civil contract in his mind. We ended up divorced. If I had it to do over again, I would only have dated Catholic men when I was young.

I believe that today many people just date whomever they like and don’t think about these things. They go too deep into the relationship too fast, then try to “make it” work.

Of course we have to compromise and may disagree in any relationship, but the shared core values should already be there. Different religions is a huge thing to overcome.
 
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I’m 36 and Catholic, I have dated before (in my years as lapsed) non Catholics and former Christians. I’m so glad I didn’t marry any of them.

Right now I am seeing a Catholic not at least practicing Christian woman who is sympathetic to my Faith. It’s not that easy (i find).

I would probably avoid dating a non Christian though and I juts feel there are so many amazing single Catholic women out there, why would I not just wait and try meet one of them? Instead of just date whoever is available or seems appealing.
 
I personally wouldn’t. Waste of time and can cause massive problems later if one has no foresight.
 
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I wouldn’t date a non Catholic unless she respects my Faith and accepts that it’s a huge part of my life.
 
Yes it is OK…you can even marry them.

I’m not Catholic and my wife is, we’ve been together for 20 years (married 16 of it). I’ve always said I’m glad she never came here for relationship advice…we may have missed out.

The biggest thing is whether or not you can respect each other’s faith, if so, you’ll be successful.
 
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