Your priest was not thorough in his prenuptial investigation and counseling. Confirmation is a canon law requirement.But you don’t have to be confirmed to be married. At least, I wasn’t.
I doubt the parish info says marriage prep is going to take a year, I rather think it says the couple should notify the parish and priest no later than one year before their scheduled date, and that this advice is based on past experience of realistic timelines.Marriage prep of one year is in no way unreasonable.
Many churches are booked up one year in advance as are the marriage prep classes/retreats. And, meeting with the priest to discern marriage a year before making a lifetime committment is not unreasonable.
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yes you do, except in extraordinary circumstances, and even then should complete confirmation asap after the wedding. Failure to seek confirmation can raise legitimate doubts in the mind of the priest about that person’s willingness to accept the adult demands of marriage and raising children, if they are not even willing to complete their own Christian initiation. Won’t necessarily invalidate the marriage, or even slow down wedding plans, but the priest is entitled to investigate further that applicants readiness for marriage.But you don’t have to be confirmed to be married. At least, I wasn’t.
What if one of them is non-Catholic? Obviously, the church can’t demand that a non-catholic get baptized and confirmed. Also, it would be fairly irresponsible for a person who isn’t sure of their beliefs to get confirmed simply because a priest says he/she isn’t going to be a good husband/wife because they aren’t baptized or confirmed. In my observation of marriages, religious spouses aren’t any better spouses or any better at being married than non-religious spouses, especially when you consider that Catholics have a divorce rate that’s no better than non-Catholics.yes you do, except in extraordinary circumstances, and even then should complete confirmation asap after the wedding. Failure to seek confirmation can raise legitimate doubts in the mind of the priest about that person’s willingness to accept the adult demands of marriage and raising children, if they are not even willing to complete their own Christian initiation. Won’t necessarily invalidate the marriage, or even slow down wedding plans, but the priest is entitled to investigate further that applicants readiness for marriage.