Question about martyrdom

[traillius]

I know avoiding martyrdom by denial is a mortal sin. What if you avoid martyrdom by defense and possible violence, without denying Jesus, because of, for instance, not wanting a disabled love one to be left alone. Is that a sin?

 

[Sailor_Kenshin]

I wonder about this, too.

Must we all desire to die a martyr’s death?

 

[traillius]

to boil it down : when if ever is it okay to avoid martyrdom for "other " reasons, and if so, what are ways to avoid it aside from denial(mortal sin) , that would be acceptable and not gravely sinful