Question for all you Catholic men out there...(or anyone who wants to answer)

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Maybe this question should also be in apologetics, but is it unattractive or against natural law if a woman tells a man she has feelings for him?
I hear a lot of mixed things either from the “feminist” perspective saying “wear the pants” or from people who say men should lead, or from personal experience where I’ve always seen a guy reject a girl and makes her feel really awkward after she admits her feelings for him.
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Well, I don’t know if there is a faith-based or natural answer to this, but I personally see nothing unattractive about “broadcasting interest”.
 
I think men should generally lead and make the move but a women can express if she has feelings, not upfront but drop hints that she is interested in him.
 
Can see nothing wrong in any way for a woman expressing her feelings toward a man. I don’t know about your experience about a man rejecting a woman Fierla her expressing such feelings; could be the man did not want more than a casual relationship.
 
For some, unless it is a piano falling from the third floor, it can go unnoticed.
 
guys seem kinda afraid more than anything when a girl gets too honest…i mean BOYS seem kinda afraid. Maybe I should rephrase my question as it’s probably more directed at men that still act like boys…
 
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guys seem kinda afraid more than anything when a girl gets too honest…i mean BOYS seem kinda afraid. Maybe I should rephrase my question as it’s probably more directed at men that still act like boys…
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I think it goes beyond boy/man, or mature/immature. There are some who believe the man should be the lead in a relationship, and some welcome the woman’s initiative (that may not be the best choice of a word)

Neither is wrong or bad, they are just different believe these ebb and flow in the course of a relationship.
 
And some women.

I read a book, Understanding Women, by a researcher Alison Armstrong. It was an interesting read on the hardwired differences in men and women and relationships.
 
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Yeah…the problem with that is that the writings on that were developed during a time when the family of a young lady around the age of 16 would arrange a suitable marriage for her to a man that they approved of.

If a woman is interested in a man, she should be forthright about it and speak to him.
 
Well biblically speaking the groom pursues the Bride like Christ pursues us
 
Well if not we wouldn’t have been married, No?
I took the first step,and no one cared. It was fine.
 
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is it unattractive or against natural law if a woman tells a man she has feelings for him?
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In principle, I don’t see a problem with this, and I don’t think it is unattractive. It’s surely not against natural law.

In practice, it depends on the situation. It depends on the man, the woman, how the man feels about the woman, how and when the woman expresses her feelings for the man, etc. But I certainly don’t think that it is always wrong for a woman to express her feelings for a man. In many cases, it probably would be received positively.
 
I just believe in more traditional roles of male and female. Nothing wrong with a girl expressing interest like another poster said most guys cant get a hint or wont believe if a girl likes them lol. But guys should generally do the asking out and pursing.
 
How old are you if I may ask?
The ot women also weren’t shy and passive all the time 🙂
 
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