Question for Men re: respect

[Rob_in_Oregon]

About once a week, I text my wife with this message: “You are a wonderful wife and mother. Thanks for everything you do for us. We love you…”

How about doing the same for your husband? These little acts of appreciation make a big difference.

• Rob in Oregon, married 32 years

 

[fpt]

First let me say that I SOOOO don’t want to start a debate about gender roles in marriage. That topic is discussed ad nauseum here on CAF so there is no need to go there again.

Some of you know me from around here, but in short I am in my 30s, with 2 children (3 and 1), and a wonderful husband of over 10 years. I believe in male leadership and female submission IN MARRIAGE ONLY. I have always struggled with this in practice however, as I am very opinionated and like things to go my way. At any rate, while I am not demeaning or shrew-like, I often feel like I don’t make DH feel appreciated & respected as much as I want to. Life just gets so busy that by the time I take care of work and kids and home that I am not nurturing that aspect of my marriage adequately.

So my question to the men is what makes you feel respected? What are things that your wife / significant other does (or could do) to show you that she respects and appreciates you?

Thanks!

In my opinion:

Woman has to assume her feminity, she has to want to be a female; Wife has to give her whole feminity to her husband; wife has to receive the virility of her husband;

The wife has to be an educator, a teacher, a professor, a doctor, a nurse, a master, a thinker, a philosopher, and a lover for her husband; the wife has to be a schoolgirl, a student and a follower of her husband.

The woman is or should be the New Eve of her Man - the Fiancée, the Bride, the Sweetheart, the Love, the Mistress, the Lover, the Beloved, the Muse, the Friend, the Best-friend, the Girlfriend, the Helper, the Soul-Mate, the Companion, the Partner, the Associate, the Wife and the Potential Mother, the Female Opposite Number, the Alterity, the Complementarity, The Person who reveals in me, my part of feminity and helps my masculinity -.