Question for men-would you leave your wife if she lost her looks?

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Would you leave your wife if she lost her looks (whether by disaster such as fire,very bad aging changes,obesity or any other cause) and you were not longer attracted to her?

As a side note-what do men look for in a woman apart from the obvious of honesty,faithfulness & moral?
I don’t know how applicable this is to the real world though because single Christian men that are “deep” and arnt married or too old are pretty much non existing anymore I think…
 
Elena321 said:
Would you leave your wife if she lost her looks (whether by disaster such as fire,very bad aging changes,obesity or any other cause) and you were not longer attracted to her?

As a side note-what do men look for in a woman apart from the obvious of honesty,faithfulness & moral?
I don’t know how applicable this is to the real world though because single Christian men that are “deep” and arnt married or too old are pretty much non existing anymore I think…
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How about some therapy?
 
More to your question, we all lose our looks eventually, and plenty of wrinkly, fat old people are happily married to each other.

Nobody goes to the grave at 90 looking like a dewy 19-year-old–that would be weird.
 
And op, do you really think any guy on CAF is going to answer this question with a yes?

And–

Op would you leave your husband after marriage if he lost his looks?
 
Elena321 said:
Would you leave your wife if she lost her looks (whether by disaster such as fire,very bad aging changes,obesity or any other cause) and you were not longer attracted to her?

As a side note-what do men look for in a woman apart from the obvious of honesty,f aithfulness & moral?
I don’t know how applicable this is to the real world though because single Christian men that are “deep” and aren’t married or too old are pretty much non existing anymore I think…
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To leave someone because they aren’t attractive any longer is a poor reason to leave someone, and an invalid reason in the eyes of the Catholic Church.

One should look for someone who will be their guide and companion in getting to heaven, and raising a family to get to heaven.

In light of matrimony, people may be familiar with:
“Love endures all things”

Have a good Saturday:D
 
mommy_k said:
And op, do you really think any guy on CAF is going to answer this question with a yes?

And–

Op would you leave your husband after marriage if he lost his looks?
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I think maybe because its anonymous they may feel comfortable to answer honestly.

No,i personally wouldn’t but that’s just me.
 
Xantippe said:
More to your question, we all lose our looks eventually, and plenty of wrinkly, fat old people are happily married to each other.

Nobody goes to the grave at 90 looking like a dewy 19-year-old–that would be weird.
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Obviously not but even amongst “old” people some retain an attractiveness while others age much more poorly.
 
Absolutely not. For MANY reasons…

When two people get married, they make a binding commitment to each other for better or worse, etc… Only a man whose word is worth less than nothing would leave his wife for such a superficial reason.

Our looks change over time. That’s a fact of life. Mature and rational people accept that. It may not always be easy, but it’s life. I can honestly say that I don’t look and feel the way I did when I was 20 (I’m almost 42, now), and I wouldn’t want my wife to ditch me for that reason.

I can’t speak for other men, but my wife and I share a connection and a bond that was built over time and cannot be replicated by anyone else. We’ve done too much, and shared too much, and grown too much together to ever have it be the same with someone else. Finding a better looking woman could never replace the memories and emotional ties forged between us.
 
Elena321 said:
I think maybe because its anonymous they may feel comfortable to answer honestly.

No,i personally wouldn’t but that’s just me.
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So why the question?

I’m much fatter, older, and saggier since I first met my husband 20 years ago. Actually, so is he. And we love each other more now than we did on our wedding day.

A marriage based on looks is doomed to failure and a person who would leave his/her spouse over looks is shallow and immature and an overall ****** person.
 
Is there any value to this question?

No-one really knows what they would do in an extreme situation until they face it.

ICXC NIKA
 
Some of my happiest memories as I sit knitting behind my market stall watching people enjoying their holiday are of old coupled, hand in hand clearly as much in love with each other as when they married… “Grow old along with me, The best is yet to be…” Wonderful…
 
Elena321 said:
Is therapy Americans answer to everything?
It just a question.If you feel you have nothing to value to offer you don’t have to answer it.
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Not literally everything–but it is a good answer when somebody seems obsessively worried about an issue and needs some outside perspective.

This isn’t the first thread you’ve started on looks and how much you worry about it.
 
Elena321 said:
Is therapy Americans answer to everything?
It just a question.If you feel you have nothing to value to offer you don’t have to answer it.
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I don’t know about Americans, but, it seems to be an almost knee-jerk reaction on these forums. Which, I don’t get considering you just asked an honest to goodness question and not a personal life scenario in which you can expect some people to answer with therapy. Anyway, I’m a lady, so, I can’t answer your original question. I just saw this and thought, “Just let the question stand as a question, not respond to something that, for all we know, may not even be there.”
 
Regina7 said:
So why the question?

I’m much fatter, older, and saggier since I first met my husband 20 years ago. Actually, so is he. And we love each other more now than we did on our wedding day.

A marriage based on looks is doomed to failure and a person who would leave his/her spouse over looks is shallow and immature and an overall ****** person.
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Yes. I may be much fatter, but I’m a much kinder and forgiving person than I was when I got married 18 years ago. Also, I understand my husband much better.

That’s got to be worth something.
 
redbetta said:
I don’t know about Americans, but, it seems to be an almost knee-jerk reaction on these forums. Which, I don’t get considering you just asked an honest to goodness question and not a personal life scenario in which you can expect some people to answer with therapy. Anyway, I’m a lady, so, I can’t answer your original question. I just saw this and thought, “Just let the question stand as a question, not respond to something that, for all we know, may not even be there.”
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Irks me too but I put it down to a cultural difference, like the frequency of medical tests they seem to have in the US…

Cannot here in ireland imagine asking for therapy; would be given meds is all and not going down that road. NB I am a “public patient” so many things are delayed or not available…
 
Xantippe said:
More to your question, we all lose our looks eventually, and plenty of wrinkly, fat old people are happily married to each other.

Nobody goes to the grave at 90 looking like a dewy 19-year-old–that would be weird.
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Although it would seem many are trying to achieve this!😛
 
Elena321 said:
Would you leave your wife if she lost her looks (whether by disaster such as fire,very bad aging changes,obesity or any other cause) and you were not longer attracted to her?

As a side note-what do men look for in a woman apart from the obvious of honesty,faithfulness & moral?
I don’t know how applicable this is to the real world though because single Christian men that are “deep” and arnt married or too old are pretty much non existing anymore I think…
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No. I’m already ugly enough for this to be a non-issue. 😃
 
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