Have some of you NEVER made a friend through church?
Almost never. And the one couple-friend we have, that we met at church, we don’t see very often (they were our sponsor couple during marriage preparation). They’re nice people, they just don’t talk about themselves very much and we have very different parenting styles, so talking about the kids is sometimes tough to do.
We don’t stick around after Mass at all, mainly for one reason. Our young children have probably grossly misbehaved and we are completely embarrassed, so the last thing we want to do is hang out after constantly disciplining our children for the last hour.
I tried to join a mom’s group before my second baby was born (two years ago), but there were only 2 other moms in my area (I live in a rural area, so “area” could mean several square miles), and the get-togethers rotated through everyone’s home. At 8 months pregnant, I didn’t want to become part of the rotation and then have to suddenly bow out, for whatever reason, after the baby was born. Turns out, my husband and I went from being a 2-car family to a 1-car family a few months later, so I wouldn’t have been able to participate, anyway.
My husband suggested that I put an ad in the bulletin, seeking to form a mom’s group that invited women who only lived in our subdivision (so that we could all walk, instead of drive), or a group that was hosted at our home all the time. But since our parish already has the other rotating-hostess group, I’m not sure mine would go anywhere (especially if there’s only 2 other moms in my county – chances are high that they aren’t in my subdivision). Maybe I should ask the HOA to put something in the newsletter – that goes to every homeowner in the neighborhood.
At Mass, people are focused on worship; during R.E. the teachers are focused on their teaching. How do you meet Catholic mom friends?
