Question for women regarding mortal sin or not?

[fight_the_fight]

I know that it is wrong to dress immodestly but I bought a really cute dress and the neckline was one of those big scoop necks, low enough to show some cleavage. I thought I could wear my scoop neck tank top underneath and it would cover the cleavage. But when I put it on with the tank it didn’t look good. I was going out to dinner to a nice restaurant with my husband so I thought well, it is ok to wear it when I am with my husband. So I wore the dress and I felt kind of embarrassed because I never have worn anything this low in public. My husband kept saying things like “he’s getting an eyeful isn’t he”, when the waiter came to the table. And he said something like your showing off to everyone. But then when we got home and my conscience really started to bother me I said out loud that I might have to go to confession. Then my husband (who is not Christian) got mad and said there is nothing wrong with what I wore. I am not sure if I need to go to confession or not. Was this a sin? If it was, was it mortal sin?

 

[That_one_guy]

why don’t you ask your priest.
I’m not sure,but (being a guy)your husband either felt awkward or proud to show off his woman(as indicated by the getting an eyeful statement).As he told you later that there was nothing wrong with what you were wearing,if he’s telling you the truth, then he was proud.Unless he’s accustomed to being passive aggressive.

 

[Jennifer_J]

I would mention it in confession and then buy something nice to wear under it for next time!

 

[maslibertad]

I would go to confession either way in case it is

In order for a sin to be mortal, it must meet three conditions so ask yourself if it does:

* Mortal sin is a sin of grave matter
* Mortal sin is committed with full knowledge of the sinner
* Mortal sin is committed with deliberate consent of the sinner

This means that mortal sins cannot be done “accidentally.” A person who commits a mortal sin is one who knows that their sin is wrong, but still deliberately commits the sin anyway. This means that mortal sins are “premeditated” by the sinner and thus are truly a rejection of God’s law and love.

from what i read in your post it doesnt sound like a mortal sin (you didnt wear it with the intention to tempt men) but it was a sin because one most always strive to dress modestly and it sounds like you could have done better.

 

[Et_Cetera]

It sounds as though he was being passive aggressive and sending mixed messages.

 

[fight_the_fight]

First of all thanks for responding, all of you. My husband sounded mad when we were at the restaurant and I think he didn’t want them looking at me. I want to know if this is grave matter because I think I knew it was wrong and I did it anyways.

 

[Whitacre_Girl]

I know that it is wrong to dress immodestly but I bought a really cute dress and the neckline was one of those big scoop necks, low enough to show some cleavage. I thought I could wear my scoop neck tank top underneath and it would cover the cleavage. But when I put it on with the tank it didn’t look good. I was going out to dinner to a nice restaurant with my husband so I thought well, it is ok to wear it when I am with my husband. So I wore the dress and I felt kind of embarrassed because I never have worn anything this low in public. My husband kept saying things like “he’s getting an eyeful isn’t he”, when the waiter came to the table. And he said something like your showing off to everyone. But then when we got home and my conscience really started to bother me I said out loud that I might have to go to confession. Then my husband (who is not Christian) got mad and said there is nothing wrong with what I wore. I am not sure if I need to go to confession or not. Was this a sin? If it was, was it mortal sin?

I personally would vote definatly not. You weren’t doing this to flaunt your body or seduce anyone (except maybe your husband). You thought the outfit was nice looking, and you wanted to wear it. It’s not the same as some people wearing shirts that purposefully show cleavage for the sake of showing it to attract men. However, if you have a guilty conscience, you can always mention it in your next confession

 

[Et_Cetera]

How low was it? I honestly think you’re fine and getting worried about nothing. Just don’t wear it again if it causes you problems.

 

[fight_the_fight]

Et Cetera,
I had on a pushup bra too so that made it show more.

 

[Et_Cetera]

Fight the Fight, don’t let the guilt destroy you. Just resolve not to do it again. You didn’t harm anyone. You’re fine.

 

[fannypanny]

ola!
ok simple answer to your dress prob…
wear a bolero or some sort of shawl over the top that covers the necessary part of your body
or otherwise…wear a tube top inside…that is also a solution - so that it covers up the cleavage.
girl, you gotta get creative.

 

[leonie]

When it doubt, go to confession.

 

[Fidelia]

Et Cetera,
I had on a pushup bra too so that made it show more.

Try wearing a regular bra instead of a push-up.

 

[LittleDeb]

I agree, if in doubt, go to confession. But from everything else in the situation it sounds venial not mortal. Modesty is grave matter, objectively. But the level of modesty is subjective. There are some of us who can look “immodest” in a turtle neck.

 

[jfhh]

I know that it is wrong to dress immodestly but I bought a really cute dress and the neckline was one of those big scoop necks, low enough to show some cleavage. I thought I could wear my scoop neck tank top underneath and it would cover the cleavage. But when I put it on with the tank it didn’t look good. I was going out to dinner to a nice restaurant with my husband so I thought well, it is ok to wear it when I am with my husband. So I wore the dress and I felt kind of embarrassed because I never have worn anything this low in public. My husband kept saying things like “he’s getting an eyeful isn’t he”, when the waiter came to the table. And he said something like your showing off to everyone. But then when we got home and my conscience really started to bother me I said out loud that I might have to go to confession. Then my husband (who is not Christian) got mad and said there is nothing wrong with what I wore. I am not sure if I need to go to confession or not. Was this a sin? If it was, was it mortal sin?

It’d only be a mortal sin IMO if you were trying to seduce men with the aim of sending them to hell through mortal sin.

I don’t think it’s necessary to buy something new to replace it. That costs money. In very poor areas of the world, they wouldn’t care whether clothing were modest or immodest, as long as they had some.

Modesty is a strange animal. Modesty actually applies not just to sex, but to everything. Modesty is in essence the reluctance to fully unveil something good – whether it be the beauty of the body, some accomplishment of yours, or your socieconomic status. The reason why modesty is admirable is because modesty may conform to a greater apprecation of the good that one is keeping veiled. The greatest gifts are not put on display for everyone or to be bragged … the greatest gifts are cherished and because they are cherished and enveloped in greater mystery. A woman IMO should be self-aware of her beauty and appreciate of it. A man who looks at a woman’s body apart from her soul, is engaging in lust (inordinate sexual desire) – be that man her husband or a stranger. So being modest has the practical benefit of serving those men and also the objective benefit of doing justice to your body which is not to be loved apart from your soul. And it has the intrinsic spiritual meaning of cherishing one’s being as gift. A woman should know that her body is a gift from God to herself – first – and only second to anyone she ends up sharing it with.

 

[mark_a]

I know that it is wrong to dress immodestly but I bought a really cute dress and the neckline was one of those big scoop necks, low enough to show some cleavage. I thought I could wear my scoop neck tank top underneath and it would cover the cleavage. But when I put it on with the tank it didn’t look good. I was going out to dinner to a nice restaurant with my husband so I thought well, it is ok to wear it when I am with my husband. So I wore the dress and I felt kind of embarrassed because I never have worn anything this low in public. My husband kept saying things like “he’s getting an eyeful isn’t he”, when the waiter came to the table. And he said something like your showing off to everyone. But then when we got home and my conscience really started to bother me I said out loud that I might have to go to confession. Then my husband (who is not Christian) got mad and said there is nothing wrong with what I wore. I am not sure if I need to go to confession or not. Was this a sin? If it was, was it mortal sin?

This is gonna seem kinda harsh, but here goes.

No man dreams of having his wife publicly disrespect him enough to show cleavage in a push-up bra. Especially when he’s with her.

Is this the way for a Christian to present herself as an example to her non-Christian husband?

 

[Et_Cetera]

This is gonna seem kinda harsh, but here goes.

No man dreams of having his wife publicly disrespect him enough to show cleavage in a push-up bra. Especially when he’s with her.

Is this the way for a Christian to present herself as an example to her non-Christian husband?

Lay off of her; she already feels guilty and is going to resolve the issue in her own way. She knows that she was wrong.

 

[PaulinVA]

This is gonna seem kinda harsh, but here goes.

No man dreams of having his wife publicly disrespect him enough to show cleavage in a push-up bra. Especially when he’s with her.

Is this the way for a Christian to present herself as an example to her non-Christian husband?

I don’t get it. Disrespectful? Why? How?

 

[brigid12]

It’d only be a mortal sin IMO if you were trying to seduce men with the aim of sending them to hell through mortal sin.

I don’t think it’s necessary to buy something new to replace it. That costs money. In very poor areas of the world, they wouldn’t care whether clothing were modest or immodest, as long as they had some.

Modesty is a strange animal. Modesty actually applies not just to sex, but to everything. Modesty is in essence the reluctance to fully unveil something good – whether it be the beauty of the body, some accomplishment of yours, or your socieconomic status. The reason why modesty is admirable is because modesty may conform to a greater apprecation of the good that one is keeping veiled. The greatest gifts are not put on display for everyone or to be bragged … the greatest gifts are cherished and because they are cherished and enveloped in greater mystery. A woman IMO should be self-aware of her beauty and appreciate of it. A man who looks at a woman’s body apart from her soul, is engaging in lust (inordinate sexual desire) – be that man her husband or a stranger. So being modest has the practical benefit of serving those men and also the objective benefit of doing justice to your body which is not to be loved apart from your soul. And it has the intrinsic spiritual meaning of cherishing one’s being as gift. A woman should know that her body is a gift from God to herself – first – and only second to anyone she ends up sharing it with.

Agreed, and making sure that you realize that since putting yourself in the position to be a stumbling block to another’s journey to Him is not something you want to do again, I would find a shirt, chemise, top-of-some-sort to wear under it for the future. It may, in your case, have something to do with your DH coming to the Lord. Too, you want your husband to learn to cherish that which is God’s gift - you and your femininity. Plus, immodesty in dress is not only a sin against those of the opposite sex, but also a sin/blasphemous act against The One who created you. (Now, it sounds to me that this time you were not fully aware of all of the consequences, so it would only be a venial sin, this time.)

Just my :twocents:

 

[Eucharisted]

I know that it is wrong to dress immodestly but I bought a really cute dress and the neckline was one of those big scoop necks, low enough to show some cleavage. I thought I could wear my scoop neck tank top underneath and it would cover the cleavage. But when I put it on with the tank it didn’t look good. I was going out to dinner to a nice restaurant with my husband so I thought well, it is ok to wear it when I am with my husband. So I wore the dress and I felt kind of embarrassed because I never have worn anything this low in public. My husband kept saying things like “he’s getting an eyeful isn’t he”, when the waiter came to the table. And he said something like your showing off to everyone. But then when we got home and my conscience really started to bother me I said out loud that I might have to go to confession. Then my husband (who is not Christian) got mad and said there is nothing wrong with what I wore. I am not sure if I need to go to confession or not. Was this a sin? If it was, was it mortal sin?

Modest dress is the best Dress for God, not for creatures, and you’ll always be dressed your best.