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Being “blind” is certainly objective. Whether a blind person wants to think of herself as “disordered” is up to her.😃
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The statement “Blindness is a disordered condition” does not equal the statement “Blind people are disordered”.

So the statement “SSA is a disordered condition” does not equal the statement “People with SSA are disordered”.
 
But if one is not acting on these inclinations they are healthy. There is nothing unhealthy about having either condition. I really don’t care anymore whether or not the Church wants to call it disordered. I consider it a healthy part of me that I can do nothing about except refuse to act on it and remain chaste.
If you can’t act on it without being quilty of a great sin, then how can it be healthy?
You are to be commended for making the right moral choice, to remain chaste.
That doesn’t alter the fact that the temptation to unchastity is itself something to be avoided as far as possible.
The sober alcoholic will refuse ever to take a drink. He is to be commended for that. But the impulse to drink is still a disordered thing, and I find it hard to believe that the sober alcoholic would pass up a chance to be forever feel of that impulse.
 
(Much clipped, since blessedtoo dealt with much of this)
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Paul believed in an invisible man in the sky, he couldn't have known better! I've been through the sky several times areonautically, and never saw angles, saints, Jesus, my dead loved ones or anything else there! When the Russians went into space in 1961, they said that "we went into Heaven, and we didn't see God there."
You and the Russians didn’t go into Heaven, you went into space.
Going as far as the orbit of the Moon and claiming there are no angels because you didn’t see any, is about like going to an American beach, wading out knee-deep, and claiming there is no Europe because you looked out into the distance and couldn’t see England.
The Holy Father has just recently declaired Darwinian Evolution to be true, which means there was NO Adam and Eve!
The Holy Father declared no such thing. He said that it was possible for a Catholic to believe in a form of the Theory of Evolution without being in violation of Catholic dogma. Not that it was true or even that it was likely, but that a Catholic might reasonably consider it as a scientific hypothesis.
Now is it just possilble that the Bible could be wrong about more things? And were does that leave original sin?
You haven’t shown that the Bible is wrong about anything as yet. Bald assertion is not evidence.
 
You and the Russians didn’t go into Heaven, you went into space.
Going as far as the orbit of the Moon and claiming there are no angels because you didn’t see any, is about like going to an American beach, wading out knee-deep, and claiming there is no Europe because you looked out into the distance and couldn’t see England.
:rotfl: Love it! Thanks for the chuckle!
 
If you can’t act on it without being quilty of a great sin, then how can it be healthy?
You are to be commended for making the right moral choice, to remain chaste.
That doesn’t alter the fact that the temptation to unchastity is itself something to be avoided as far as possible.
The sober alcoholic will refuse ever to take a drink. He is to be commended for that. But the impulse to drink is still a disordered thing, and I find it hard to believe that the sober alcoholic would pass up a chance to be forever feel of that impulse.
But to insist I am unhealthy implies I need some ongoing treatment. I don’t. And I fully resent those who think I do.
 
But to insist I am unhealthy implies I need some ongoing treatment. I don’t. And I fully resent those who think I do.
Ahh. :newidea:
But you’re not unhealthy, Goofyjim…nor did I mean to imply that you were.
A blind man is not unhealthy, just not able to see. It’s not an attack on him to say that it’s better to see than to be blind.
A sober alcoholic is not unhealthy, just unable to safely drink. It’s no insult to him to acknowledge that he can’t drink.

You’re not unhealthy.

I think what’s happening is that people (mistakenly) think you’re trying to justify SSA, while you think they’re trying to accuse you of being… “diseased”?/“tainted”?/“sinful”? (insert your derogatory term of choice here) which I never intended, and which I don’t believe others intended.
 
Ahh. :newidea:
But you’re not unhealthy, Goofyjim…nor did I mean to imply that you were.
A blind man is not unhealthy, just not able to see. It’s not an attack on him to say that it’s better to see than to be blind.
A sober alcoholic is not unhealthy, just unable to safely drink. It’s no insult to him to acknowledge that he can’t drink.

You’re not unhealthy.

I think what’s happening is that people (mistakenly) think you’re trying to justify SSA, while you think they’re trying to accuse you of being… “diseased”?/“tainted”?/“sinful”? (insert your derogatory term of choice here) which I never intended, and which I don’t believe others intended.
I justify SSA in that I believe it is something one is born with. There may be varying degrees and some may be able to act out heterosexually. There is nothing conclusive either way. Everyone is afraid of them finding proof of a biological cause of SSA. Why? When we found the gene for alcoholism it at least gave us the compassion that this not their fault. They just need support to stay sober if they were born with this gene. Well maybe we would take a different approach towards those with SSA if we found out conclusively they were born that way. We would have tons more of Courage groups yet not make anyone fit the social construct of heterosexual marriage. I for one believe God has a sense of humor and gives some of us SSA just to see how well we bear it up. He doesn’t do it out of malice or as a punishment but he certainly doesn’t intend for all of us to get married either.
 
I’d like to pitch in with my experience here. Although I never joined that lifestyle, my patterns of relationship were mostly male-oriented (and unhealthy) up to and probably including whe I started dating my wife. So I joined an ex-gay ministry and worked for years to change. I did receive some crucial insights into why I was the way I was. There may well be genetic factors in my case ( I have a sister and two male cousins who are gay), but also my upbringing, peer rejection, and a chemical anxiety disorder all contributed.

I went on to get married, but was largely disappointed with the results of my efforts to change my feelings - even though I do love my wife and thak God for her. I still suspect that a program for change that is intense and pervasive enough (I’m thinking a residential program lasting more than a year) might be successful, but the resources do not exist for that. So IMHO, most men and women with this issue who obey Jesus Christ must choose to build a chaste network of family and friends (and possibly marry), but should not feel guilty about how the feelings go and as Steve pointed out earlier, it’s mostly about LOVE, not sex, unless you’re a sex addict, which can be cured, or at lest brought into remisison.

I believe the it would be possible for the Church to become such a place of love that all the gays and prostitues in the world would happily exchange their ultimately empty lifestyles to come home to the embrace of their catholic brothers and sisters. Jesus himself suggested, no commanded(!) us to love one another and if we really took that command seriously, we’d offer to the world something more satisfying than any sin.
 
Ahh. :newidea:
I think what’s happening is that people (mistakenly) think you’re trying to justify SSA, while you think they’re trying to accuse you of being… “diseased”?/“tainted”?/“sinful”? (insert your derogatory term of choice here) which I never intended, and which I don’t believe others intended.
Not mistakenly. Regardless of how it is phrased or tactfully spelled out, there is no explanation of the words “instrinsically disordered” that will be accepted. You’ve made the same comparisons that I, and many other have in an attempt to explain that we all, to one degree or another, suffer from the disorder of original sin. It manifests differently in each person. In my case, I am disordered in that my fallen nature is driven to drink until I am unconscious. My beloved mother is disordered in that she is obsessive compulsive, and is driven to scrupulosity and ruminating on thoughts and ideas that are not healthy for her. You could give 50 different examples and it would still not be acceptable because there is a knee-jerk defensiveness of the orientation itself, as though in neutralizing the inclination everyone can be exhonerated of accountability. If I had never accepted that I had a disordered nature (or “disease” in the current lexicon!) I would have absolutely no reason to refrain from drinking alcohol.

It is not necessary to defend the entire homosexual community by denying that attraction to the same sex is disordered. Indeed, it seems to me that if one has successfully overcome the temptation to act on these attractions, one would want to disassociate themselves from those who proudly procalim themselves normal when they engage in this lifestyle. I would never tell an alcoholic that he did not have a disease. I would not attempt to neutralize his disorder with an “I’m ok, you’re ok” approach. And as I have asked this poster before, if there is nothing about the inclination itself that is disordered, what on earth would stop a person from acting on it? Why would God even prohibit such behavior if it is not opposed to His natural laws?
 
I’d like to pitch in with my experience here. Although I never joined that lifestyle, my patterns of relationship were mostly male-oriented (and unhealthy) up to and probably including whe I started dating my wife. So I joined an ex-gay ministry and worked for years to change. I did receive some crucial insights into why I was the way I was. There may well be genetic factors in my case ( I have a sister and two male cousins who are gay), but also my upbringing, peer rejection, and a chemical anxiety disorder all contributed.

I went on to get married, but was largely disappointed with the results of my efforts to change my feelings - even though I do love my wife and thak God for her. I still suspect that a program for change that is intense and pervasive enough (I’m thinking a residential program lasting more than a year) might be successful, but the resources do not exist for that. So IMHO, most men and women with this issue who obey Jesus Christ must choose to build a chaste network of family and friends (and possibly marry), but should not feel guilty about how the feelings go and as Steve pointed out earlier, it’s mostly about LOVE, not sex, unless you’re a sex addict, which can be cured, or at lest brought into remisison.

I believe the it would be possible for the Church to become such a place of love that all the gays and prostitues in the world would happily exchange their ultimately empty lifestyles to come home to the embrace of their catholic brothers and sisters. Jesus himself suggested, no commanded(!) us to love one another and if we really took that command seriously, we’d offer to the world something more satisfying than any sin.
I appreciate your honesty here, but I want to reiterate that we are not discussing reversion therapy, or advocating it. Catholics understand that it is not necessary for an SSA individual to undergo treatment to “change” their attraction. They need only fulfill their obligation to live chastely, as we all do.
 
Indeed, it seems to me that if one has successfully overcome the temptation to act on these attractions, one would want to disassociate themselves from those who proudly procalim themselves normal when they engage in this lifestyle.
I would agree with you completely, if it were the case that the sinful action was the only identifying feature of the "gay " community. In addition to the disordered act, I find that gay men tend to be warmer, more approachable, kinder and less threatened by affection between men than how most straight men are in our culture. I identify with these traits, I believe they are part of who I am and I’m not convinced that God wants me to eschew these personality traits. Taken to an extreme they naturally incline one to violate boundaries ordained by God, but one does not have to take them to extremes. If that essentially means I stick with the label SSA, well, OK. Maybe our culture’s image of the healthy straight man is a bit disordered.
 
I would agree with you completely, if it were the case that the sinful action was the only identifying feature of the "gay " community. In addition to the disordered act, I find that gay men tend to be warmer, more approachable, kinder and less threatened by affection between men than how most straight men are in our culture. I identify with these traits, I believe they are part of who I am and I’m not convinced that God wants me to eschew these personality traits. Taken to an extreme they naturally incline one to violate boundaries ordained by God, but one does not have to take them to extremes. If that essentially means I stick with the label SSA, well, OK. Maybe our culture’s image of the healthy straight man is a bit disordered.
Let me clarify. By disassociation I mean not searching for ways to defend a lifestyle that is clearly disordered. I mean using language carefully, including terms that are employed by activists who wish to force an agenda to gain approval for their lifestyle. I mean refusing to participate in activities or events which present the behavior as something to be proud of. I mean being careful to draw the disctinction between those who carry the cross and walk with Christ in spite of this disorder and those who willfully refuse to accept there is anything wrong with their orientation and indeed, are offended by the mere notion of a “cross”.

I have many, many homosexual friends who are most decidedly not living chastely. I understand your point about the sensitivity and warmth, but I am not sure I agree that is such a great thing. I do believe there has been a “feminization” of men that starts in grade school. Over the last 40 years, it has become almost anathema for men to be truly masculine. Despite what has been taught in schools and forced down our throast by radical feminists, the two sexes are NOT the same. And I appreciate a man who acts like a MAN. For me, the best example of manhood is Our Lord. He was sensitive and compassionate when it was appropriate, and tough as nails when it was necessary. The perfect expression of masculinity!
 
And as I have stated before I remain chaste. If the Church requires me to call SSA a disorder then I may consider renouncing my faith. The lifestyle is a disorder the attraction is not. Everyone is so adamant in their belief that there is an alcoholism gene, which there is, but if it is why did we have to spend the money to do the research for that lifestyle, which is also wrong. If we wasted money on that one we can certainly spend a little to find a biological cause of SSA. Unless we’re content to blame societal factors which don’t even have a common thread for everyone involved.
 
And as I have stated before I remain chaste. If the Church requires me to call SSA a disorder then I may consider renouncing my faith.The lifestyle is a disorder the attraction is not.
Okay, Jim. Let’s go with your definition. The orientation itself is just okey dokey. So why not the behavior? That makes no sense. If it’s fine to be attracted to the same gender, what stops one from following through?
Everyone is so adamant in their belief that there is an alcoholism gene, which there is, but if it is why did we have to spend the money to do the research for that lifestyle, which is also wrong. If we wasted money on that one we can certainly spend a little to find a biological cause of SSA. Unless we’re content to blame societal factors which don’t even have a common thread for everyone involved
Not everyone is convinced or adamant in their belief in the alcoholism gene. I am an alcoholic. Do you ever hear me online debating the origin of my alcoholism? Does it matter? And yes, I do consider it a disorder. I can’t drink like other people. That makes my inclination toward alcohol disordered. It doesn’t make ME disordered, just the inclination. And the behavior, if I were to engage in it, would indeed be a sin because it would lead to absolute drunkenness. Whether I was born an alcoholic or my culture, society, family, school, friends or whatever contributed to my alcoholism does not matter a whit.

There are probably studies being done on the origin of homosexuality but I suspect that there are many within the homosexual community that are opposed to such research. Think of it. If a homosexual gene is found, and research concludes it can be corrected in utero, how do you think most activist homosexuals would respond? In addition, studies to determine the origin of alcoholism were done because people recognized this as a DISORDER! Research was done in an attempt to find some cure. Homosexuality is currently being normalized to such an extent that there is no great push to discover it’s origin. After all, does the gay community want to be cured?
 
Okay, Jim. Let’s go with your definition. The orientation itself is just okey dokey. So why not the behavior? That makes no sense. If it’s fine to be attracted to the same gender, what stops one from following through?
Do I, of all people, really have to tell you, of all people, what makes something sinful in the eyes of the Church? An involuntary tendency cannot be considered immoral – everybody has those tendencies, and sexual attraction is quite definitely one of those. It’s the voluntary act which constitutes sin.

No, I don’t agree with the Church in this case, but come on, it’s not hard to understand, and if you’re going to crusade against homosexuality you should at least know what your faith teaches on the subject.
 
(Much clipped, since blessedtoo dealt with much of this)

You and the Russians didn’t go into Heaven, you went into space.
Going as far as the orbit of the Moon and claiming there are no angels because you didn’t see any, is about like going to an American beach, wading out knee-deep, and claiming there is no Europe because you looked out into the distance and couldn’t see England.

The Holy Father declared no such thing. He said that it was possible for a Catholic to believe in a form of the Theory of Evolution without being in violation of Catholic dogma. Not that it was true or even that it was likely, but that a Catholic might reasonably consider it as a scientific hypothesis.

You haven’t shown that the Bible is wrong about anything as yet. Bald assertion is not evidence.
May draw your attention to Lev. 25:42-46.This scripture was used by slaveowners from Clolumbus to U.S. Confederates, to justify slavery. So, tell me sir, does your God believe in human slavery? Mine does not! And those verses are of scripture are wrong. So, there you have it. Evolution is a theory, not a hypothesis. In case you your not aware, that means it has stood up against all tests to prove it’s false; which means it’s vertually a fact. I.T. can’t even stand up in court let alone in science class, because science it’s not. By the way, I was reffering to the Pope’s anouncement just two days ago. I think you should read it, because you obviously didn’t.
 
Do I, of all people, really have to tell you, of all people, what makes something sinful in the eyes of the Church?** An involuntary tendency cannot be considered immoral – everybody has those tendencies, and sexual attraction is quite definitely one of those. It’s the voluntary act** which constitutes sin.
An involuntary “tendency” toward something immoral is disordered, no matter what spin you put on it. Yes, we all have those tendencies and they are all, of a kind, disordered. As fallen human beings, we are inclined to envy, greed, lust, and the other seven deadlies. Our compulsion to sin is disordered. Get it? Oh wait, you would have to accept the Church teaching on original sin. You do accept that, correct?
No, I don’t agree with the Church in this case,
Shocking!:rolleyes:
but come on, it’s not hard to understand, and if you’re going to crusade against homosexuality you should at least know what your faith teaches on the subject.
Watch the rhetoric, Mirdath. Crusade against homosexuality? And pray tell, what can an agnostic teach me about my faith? Could you share the Catholic books, documents, papers, statements, and tracts you’ve availed yourself of to expand your knowledge of Church teaching? Oh, and let’s not leave out the seminars and groups you’ve attended. Can’t wait to hear…
 
May draw your attention to Lev. 25:42-46.This scripture was used by slaveowners from Clolumbus to U.S. Confederates, to justify slavery. So, tell me sir, does your God believe in human slavery? Mine does not! And those verses are of scripture are wrong. So, there you have it. Evolution is a theory, not a hypothesis. In case you your not aware, that means it has stood up against all tests to prove it’s false; which means it’s vertually a fact. I.T. can’t even stand up in court let alone in science class, because science it’s not. By the way, I was reffering to the Pope’s anouncement just two days ago. I think you should read it, because you obviously didn’t.
Do you have a link to the actual announcement? Because I can’t find one, even on the Vatican website. What did you read? I read his words from a news article on MSNBC. The article states:
But he said evolution did not answer all the questions and could not exclude a role by God.

“Above all it does not answer the great philosophical question ‘where does everything come from?’“

His comments appear to be an endorsement of the doctrine of intelligent design.
What else have you read?
 
An involuntary “tendency” toward something immoral is disordered, no matter what spin you put on it. Yes, we all have those tendencies and they are all, of a kind, disordered. As fallen human beings, we are inclined to envy, greed, lust, and the other seven deadlies.
‘Disordered’ and ‘sinful’ are two entirely different things in the eye of the Church. For an act to be a sin, it must be voluntarily committed. An inclination is not an action, nor is it necessarily voluntary. Disordered impulses are part of sharing in our fallen human nature; it’s what we do that matters.

Even Jesus was tempted. Why do you assume homosexuals should live up to a standard he didn’t?
Our compulsion to sin is disordered. Get it? Oh wait, you would have to accept the Church teaching on original sin. You do accept that, correct?
Nope 🙂
Watch the rhetoric, Mirdath. Crusade against homosexuality?
If you have a better way of putting it, I’m all ears.
And pray tell, what can an agnostic teach me about my faith?
More than you’d think! 😉
Could you share the Catholic books, documents, papers, statements, and tracts you’ve availed yourself of to expand your knowledge of Church teaching? Oh, and let’s not leave out the seminars and groups you’ve attended. Can’t wait to hear…
Oh, let’s see… the bible, of course; the Didache; the epistles of the early popes; the works of Augustine, Aquinas, and others; the Catechism, both the big brown book and the Baltimore (had most of the latter memorized, way back when); random readings from the Code of Canon Law; any encyclicals and bulls I found interesting, though the only one I can name for sure is Humanae Vitae; various ancient and modern philosophical and theological writings ranging from the sublime, as characterized by Ambrose, to the ridiculous, as characterized by Peter Kreeft; oh, and over a decade of trying to be a devout, knowledgeable Catholic! I was confirmed, I served at the altar for years, I helped out wherever needed at my parish; I was even thinking hard about entering the religious life before I realized my faith was a sham!

Do you take this to be a foundation upon which only ignorance is raised? How many of those have you read?
 
‘Disordered’ and ‘sinful’ are two entirely different things in the eye of the Church. For an act to be a sin, it must be voluntarily committed. An inclination is not an action, nor is it necessarily voluntary. Disordered impulses are part of sharing in our fallen human nature; it’s what we do that matters.
Mird, don’t you read my posts? Of course I make this distinction. Usually when word wrestling with beloved goofyjim, who, apparently like you, doesn’t understand that I am not equating disordered inclinations with sinful behaviors. I am pretty sure that my compulsion to drink to unconsciousness is, while VERY disordered, not sinful. However, getting hammered certainly is.
Even Jesus was tempted. Why do you assume homosexuals should live up to a standard he didn’t?
Help me Lord!:gopray2: I consistently put myself as well as all sinners in the same category. We are all subject to the disorder that has resulted from the fall of man. I’m disordered, you’re DEFINATELY disordered:rolleyes: , and so is everyone else (except Our Lord, of course). Homosexuals are called to the same thing we all are, perfection in Christ. I only take issue with those sinners who deny their sinful natures and/or behaviors and work feverishly to convince others that they are without the blemish of original sin.
Oh, let’s see… the bible, of course; the Didache; the epistles of the early popes; the works of Augustine, Aquinas, and others; the Catechism, both the big brown book and the Baltimore (had most of the latter memorized, way back when); random readings from the Code of Canon Law; any encyclicals and bulls I found interesting, though the only one I can name for sure is Humanae Vitae; various ancient and modern philosophical and theological writings ranging from the sublime, as characterized by Ambrose, to the ridiculous, as characterized by Peter Kreeft; oh, and over a decade of trying to be a devout, knowledgeable Catholic! I was confirmed, I served at the altar for years, I helped out wherever needed at my parish; I was even thinking hard about entering the religious life before I realized my faith was a sham!

Do you take this to be a foundation upon which only ignorance is raised?
I would never call you ignorant. I do believe you are book smart (sometimes) when it comes to the faith. But you are not heart smart. Somehow, your heart has been hardened (for now) to the truth. Which is why I am still happy always to see you here. And why I still pray for you!
 
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