Good evening,
This is long and I am appreciative for any help or thoughts on this. Thank you.
I was born to Catholic (Maronite/ Roman) raised parents who converted to Syrian Orthodoxy during their wedding ceremony, but never practiced the Orthodox faith. Upon my birth, they had me baptized Roman Catholic, but I was raised in presbyterian/ evangelical churches.
My husband was raised Calvinist Baptist/ evangelical.
As we journeyed together and tried to find our spiritual “home”, we ended up in a protestant church which had a “covenant renewal” liturgy (similar to a mass with weekly communion) and baptized + communed small children (the pastor has strong affection for EO).
Through several years of the Holy Spirit working on our hearts, we finally saw the need to enter into full communion with the See of Rome. The only church that fit that description in our small rural town, was the Roman Catholic Church. Even though we still desired infant communion, we did not want to drive long distances for church and desired a nearby community, so we decided to attend this parish. We received an abbreviated RCIA course, marriage validation, first reconciliation, confirmation, and first Holy Communion in this parish. We knew full well what both our particular archdiocese and the Latin rite’s rules regarding first communion/ first penance/ confirmation were, but did not think we really had any other choices, since the closest Byzantine churches are several hours away, We tried to see the bright side, saying things like, “maybe it will mean more to them if they are older and able to remember it,” “maybe they will appreciate it more if they can’t have it right now,” “first communion dresses are so pretty!” (well, okay, I said that last one, not my husband).
We are coming up on one year since our confirmation, and have grown increasingly uncomfortable with the way the Latin rite does the sacraments.As we’ve learned and read this past year, we have realized more fully that the three sacraments of initiation are Baptism, Confirmation, and Eucharist. It does not make sense to us that our children have to wait to be confirmed until they’re in high school, but will receive penance before the Eucharist.
As we have participated in the Eucharist and fallen in love with this Sacrament, it has become increasingly devastating to us to not be able to share this amazing gift with our little ones, as they were accustomed to receiving the protestant version of the Eucharist every week.
The closest parish to us which communes small children is a Melkite Church which is a 3 hour drive. As I have learned about the Melkite Church, I have also grown to desire to instill in my children an appreciation for their Lebanese/ Middle-Eastern heritage. (I have grandparents & great grandparents raised Maronite Catholic, Melkite Catholic and Syrian Orthodox). I grew up with exposure to Arabic culture and I also feel a desire to pass this onto my children in some way.
I know this would be up to the priests & bishops to decide, but my husband & I were wondering if anyone here had experience, thoughts or advice on making a transition from the Roman church to an Eastern church, especially if the Eastern church is quite a distance from one’s home. We would love for our children to receive confirmation & eucharist while they are still young (they’re 6, 4, and 1 now) and were wondering if it would be possible for us to become Melkite canonically & attend the divine liturgy there periodically but still attend the local latin rite parish for mass on a daily/ weekly basis since it’s only 2 minutes away.
Thank you again for reading.