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dfp42
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Yeah, I was thinking the same thing about the staff members comment. Personally, I just want to make sure she as a Catholic will have the ability to be blessed by the sacraments. I personally would say that the grandmother is lucid enough to be part of the discussion. However, I’m not 100 percent sure my father in law thinks that as to some of the comments made in the past about her. I feel as if it’s harder for him to see how important this is to Catholics because he himself has fell away from the Catholic faith. I will however try to make this discussion to both of them to see where they might stand on it. I think the hardest thing is that people are scared sometimes to get the anointing, or have an old outlook on it as if you only need it when you are about to die within the last hour. I just worry that sometimes the elderly can get stuck in a rut at a nursing home and be discouraged thinking to them selves that their suffering has no meaning and that all they need to do is wake up, eat, sleep, take meds and watch tv 24 hrs to ease the pain. I truly feel bad for them. I see countless people at these nursing homes living this type of routine and it depresses me because Jesus should be at the high point of their lives and often I feel he is not. And some indifferent family members look at their loved ones as old and useless stuck in a nursing home.I don’t think the staff at the care center are allowed to discuss or make arrangements through any directive other than the appointed care giver, but since your father in law has said that his mother is receiving communion, can’t you now discuss annointing with him and ensure that arrangments are in place for calling a priest in the event of extremis? Is the grandmother lucid enough to be part of such a discussion? I find most elderly do not fear death or talking about it. It’s we younger people who have trouble with it.