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I was riding my bike with a friend on the way to another friends house. We were on our way, and he was about to go down a road that I remembered my parents have told me not to ride down (its busy). There was no convincing my friend to go a different way, so I decided to go a different way, and meet him there. A few minutes after I went the other way I realized that if I continued to go that way, I would end up just having to go across that road. So I had to choose;
1.) Turn around and go a different way, and leave my friend waiting for a long time.
2.) Keep going the way I was going, and cross the road so that I could make my way to the house without having to go all the way DOWN that road like my friend was.

I chose 1, and then when I got home told my parents what happened. They really wouldn’t have been that thrilled with 2, either. My question is, did I commit a mortal sin by doing this? I was kind of between a rock and a hard place with this one.
 
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I was riding my bike with a friend on the way to another friends house. We were on our way, and he was about to go down a road that I remembered my parents have told me not to ride down (its busy). There was no convincing my friend to go a different way, so I decided to go a different way, and meet him there. A few minutes after I went the other way I realized that if I continued to go that way, I would end up just having to go across that road. So I had to choose;
1.) Turn around and go a different way, and leave my friend waiting for a long time.
2.) Keep going the way I was going, and cross the road so that I could make my way to the house without having to go all the way DOWN that road like my friend was.

I chose 1, and then when I got home told my parents what happened. They really wouldn’t have been that thrilled with 2, either. My question is, did I commit a mortal sin by doing this? I was kind of between a rock and a hard place with this one.
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I don’t think you committed any sin at all, even venial. Sounds to me like you did your best to mind what your parents told you to do. I had a similar rule for my son: he was to walk his bike on the sidewalk when he had to navigate our local “Dead-man’s Curve” rather than ride in the street (extremely dangerous). He was a teenager at the time.

Were your parents upset when you told them what happened? If not, then you can be assured that you committed no sin. Sometimes we are in a rock and a hard place, like you say, and no one answer is perfect. We must always try to choose the best answer in the situation, after asking for the help of God and your Guardian Angel. You will become more confident in your judgements as you grown older.
 
Tennis42 said:
My question is, did I commit a mortal sin by doing this? I was kind of between a rock and a hard place with this one.
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I’m not completely sure, I mean in my opinion it seems pretty venial or small, but it could be a sin, most likely. If I were you I’d highly and mean highly recommend going to a priest and confess it just be on the safe side. Even if you don’t know if something’s a sin or not, it’s good to check with them…And also pray the “Act of Contrition.”

God bless,

David
 
If the road that your parents told you not to use is dangerous, yes it is a mortal sin not obeying your parents according to the book of Moses i.e. Ten Commandments.
 
Also, recently I was in a similar situation. About a mile down that road, there’s an area that I am allowed to cross at. I was waitingfor a friend by this area, but I was a little bit away from it. I couldn’t really remember if I was allowed to cross at that specific area, but the street was near empty so I crossed. Should I gauge, based on how my parents feel about this choice, whether it was mortal or not?
 
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Also, recently I was in a similar situation. About a mile down that road, there’s an area that I am allowed to cross at. I was waitingfor a friend by this area, but I was a little bit away from it. I couldn’t really remember if I was allowed to cross at that specific area, but the street was near empty so I crossed. Should I gauge, based on how my parents feel about this choice, whether it was mortal or not?
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PLEASE go talk to your priest. You have a serious scrupulosity issue.

You still haven’t said why you think this is in ANY way a sin.
 
1ke said:
PLEASE go talk to your priest. You have a serious scrupulosity issue.

You still haven’t said why you think this is in ANY way a sin.
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I’m not quite sure how do distinguish between disobedience in small matters and disobedience in serious matters. The issue isnt just what I did, it’s that I was told not to.
 
Tennis42 said:
I’m not quite sure how do distinguish between disobedience in small matters and disobedience in serious matters. The issue isnt just what I did, it’s that I was told not to.
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I don’t see where you did anything you were told not to.
 
1ke said:
I don’t see where you did anything you were told not to.
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I was told by them to only cross at that part, and I wasnt sure if I was allowed to fross at a part somewhat close to it, and did it anyway.
 
Tennis42 said:
I was told by them to only cross at that part, and I wasnt sure if I was allowed to fross at a part somewhat close to it, and did it anyway.
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scruples, for certain. Your parents are telling you something with a spirit of the law concept behind it: keeping you safe in heavy and dangerous traffic. You’re interpreting it in a very legalistic “letter of the law” way. Ask your parents if there is any wiggle room in their directive for you to exercise prudent judgement (in keeping with your safety) regarding that particular road/crossing. If they say yes (and I suspect they should), then you’re good to go. I sincerely doubt their intent was to be specific to the point that if you’re 6 inches from the EXACT place they said, that you’re disobeying them.
 
Tennis42 said:
I My question is, did I commit a mortal sin by doing this?
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did you intend to commit a mortal sin? no? then you did not commit a mortal sin?
did you intend to commit any sin? no? then you did not commit any sin
 
Tennis, after reading this post, I am more certain than ever that you have a classic case of the scruples. The questions you are asking are exactly like the questions I asked when I was dealing with scruples. You have not in any way committed a sin in either of these situations.

I would just like to say again that you need to find yourself a spiritual director. Because your conscience is so overly sensitive, you are unable to have sound judgment when it comes to deciding whether something is a sin or not. You need someone to make these judgments for you.
 
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