Questioning my Faith

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Hi All,
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 I usually post my threads on the prayer intentions forum as I need a lot of prayers. I have been having a problem lately. It seems that everythime I ask for something from God, He usually comes through (though I do have to wait for my prayers to be answered). However, when my prayers are answered, He seems to change His mind. Let me explain, after He answers them I give Him praise and thanksgiving, but then, my prayers are turned into curses it seems. I asked Him to allow me to fix a relationship with a physician and to allow me to get necessary back surgery, which I had. But then, the relationship with the dr. went south and I am in worse shape now than from before the surgery and the surgery did not completely treat the injury. I also prayed that a person would stop abusig their position to slander me and follow me around, but the person keeps doing it. I also prayed that this person would face justice (i.e. by possibly loosing thier licesure), but that has not happened. I also prayed for some good friends, which I thought I had found over the summer and I praised God for them, however, it turns out they were not who I thought they were. It was like they had catfished in person (just like Mati Teo's online fake girlfriend, but in person and not a romantic relationship), and the person used their position to stay stuff about me behind my backs to others (it was like a really big misunderstanding with me being devastated), but now we cannot have any type of friendship because of thier job and company policy and he did not want to be friends with me, he only did it because I did not go and see a psychologist for psychotherapy for my back. I'm having a difficult time holding onto my faith, as it always seems God turns my blessings into curses. I need advice.
Thanks and God Bless
 
You are having a really tough time right now. I know what it’s like to be where you’re at right now. Currently, I have one person still mad at me for something I said three years ago, and I know he’s still bad mouthing me. But I’ve gotten to the point where this one person’s actions are no longer my concern. Not everyone listens to him. As for friends, I have a hard time there as well. Growing up, my family moved several times, not because my dad was in the military, he was just never satified with where we were. So, it’s hard for me to make friends. Especially ones that will last.

You might try to see another doctor for your back problems. Also, it sounds like you might be depressed about the whole situation, which would be fairly normal. Next time you see a doctor, ask about that as well. As well as getting a follow up on your back problems.
 
You will be in my intentions for tonight’s rosary. I am deeply sorry, but never despair in hope.

Christus est spes nostra *“Christ is our hope”.
*

I am too young to give you advice, as a teenager I am not yet wise enough to know life’s true hardships. Instead, I will pray for you.

We, even I, have doubts in faith; The Lord will provide. Attend the Holy Sacrifice of Mass and go to confession. That does it for me.

In magnam fidem,

DeusSalusNostra :signofcross:
 
Try repeating “Sacred Heart of Jesus, i place all my trust in You” and pray that God’s will be done through your prayers
 
Too little information to give much advice…By that I mean - we don’t really know you or the totality of your life. It does seem that you are having some tough times.

Two things…first a question.

I love that you say how you praise God for the good things and answers to your prayers. This is an excellent thing to do. In fact it is an excellent thing to do whatever is happening in your life.
Why?
Because we learn to be more Christlike through adversity. Trouble helps us to understand the sufferings of others. Suffering ourselves helps us to better understand the sufferings of Christ and can cleanse us of many faults.

Something else to consider is how prayers of petition are, in a sense, trying to control things. Naturally when things go our way, we feel elated, but when they don’t we feel disappointed - and out of control.
Perhaps this is what God is helping you to work on. He needs you to trust in Him more. To not try to control things – - - take things as they come…
So - instead of asking for specific things, try just saying prayers of praise and thanksgiving and only ask for the opportunity to serve God by serving others and ask God to give you and understanding heart and the grace to endure your health issues.

Then - just meet each day with an open heart and as things come up, think What is the Christian thing to do. You can’t control what others do or say…you can only control what you do and say.

So - praise God in good times and bad. Thank Him for the day, His blessings and His challenges. Thank Him for the opportunity to serve Him.

Finally - I would suggest discussing these issues with your confessor. You and he can get more deeply into specifics and since he will come to know you better than we can, he will be able to give you much better advice.

Peace
James
 
There will always be people “better off” and “worse off” than you.
Think about the suffering Christians and Catholics all around the
world, especially in the violent areas such as the Middle East and
in Africa, and parts of Asia where they are dying for the Faith !!
Your problems are nothing compared to so many others.
Personally I think you need to be stronger. Strength comes by
realizing that God isn’t going to fix every problem for you in this world.
Keep your eyes fixed on eternity and you will never be led astray.
 
I agree with most of the advice provided by everyone else.

It seems like most of your problems concern other people. Unfortunately, evil does exist in the world. God does not control what people do, which means some will choose evil over good. I believe that God offers guidance to people, but guidance is not control. I am reminded of a saying I once heard “Jesus is knocking on the door to our hearts, but it can only be opened from inside” or something like that.

Although asking God to help you find good relationships might make sense, people make their own decisions. Sometimes these are bad decisions. The result is we cannot escape bad relationships. So I advise praying for strength to deal with these problems, including health problems. Concerning bad friends, it is important to be patient. Good friends are not easy to find, but it is important not to stay in a fake friendship.
 
The things that come to me when i read your post is that there is a lot of attachment with the outcome.

You must trust God that he knows what is best for you, sometime, he will grant a prayer so we can experience the outcome and it isn’t necessary what is best of us.

Here is what i suggest how you can pray. First ask from the heart, from love, then surrender to the outcome. Don’t forget to pray for others. For instance, if you struggle at work, pray for others that have similar struggle.

Pray to trust God and to do his will, it will help you with your prayer about your needs.

Blessings and love!
 
Parobek82 said:
Hi All,
Code: 
 I usually post my threads on the prayer intentions forum as I need a lot of prayers. I have been having a problem lately. It seems that ***everythime I ask for something from God, He usually comes through (though I do have to wait for my prayers to be answered). However, when my prayers are answered, He seems to change His mind.*** Let me explain, after He answers them I give Him praise and thanksgiving, but then, my prayers are turned into curses it seems. I asked Him to allow me to fix a relationship with a physician and to allow me to get necessary back surgery, which I had. But then, the relationship with the dr. went south and I am in worse shape now than from before the surgery and the surgery did not completely treat the injury. I also ***prayed that a person would stop abusig their position to slander me and follow me around***, but the person keeps doing it. I also prayed that this person would face justice (i.e. by possibly loosing thier licesure), but that has not happened. I also ***prayed for some good friends***, which I thought I had found over the summer and I praised God for them, however, it turns out they were not who I thought they were. It was like they had catfished in person (just like Mati Teo's online fake girlfriend, but in person and not a romantic relationship), and the person used their position to stay stuff about me behind my backs to others (it was like a really big misunderstanding with me being devastated), but now we cannot have any type of friendship because of thier job and company policy and he did not want to be friends with me, he only did it because I did not go and see a psychologist for psychotherapy for my back. ***I'm having a difficult time holding onto my faith***, as it always seems God turns my blessings into curses. I need advice.
Thanks and God Bless
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I don’t mean this rudely, but…God is not the proverbial ‘Genie in a bottle’, here to grant you whatever you wish for. Life is tough. It is full of evil, pain, challenge, deceit, loss, hurt, betrayal, and immeasuable heartache. That’s just life.

Seems your prayers are mostly petitions for temporal assistance, which you think God has granted, then denied. Maybe the Lord is granting you your petitions, in order to show you the futility of what you seek.

Hence I suggest examining your conscience, and thinking long and hard about what you pray for next.

Perhaps rather than asking God for what you want–you may try asking God what HE wants, from and for you. Surrender your will, to HIM…

…and then listen.

Patiently.

Pax Domini sit semper vobiscum.
 
Trust that God knows the big picture, that He knows which way your way needs to go right now. There may be turns we do not understand. In the end, He will lead us where we need to be. And have you ever experienced that looking back on something that was really hard and painful… you realize the purpose of the experience?
May God bless you

Kathrin
 
I know this might seem hard to do right now but repeat this throughout your day, “All things work out for good for those who love God.” Romans 8:27
 
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