Questions about modest dressing

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I also still have a problem with the thinking that my immodesty compels a man to commit sin. He doesn’t have to look. If he truely doesn’t want to sin, it’s easy enough to turn his head the other way.
Kim
To that may be added that the mere gaze in any given situation may also be said to be morally neutral. It is the intentions of the will coupled with that gaze that determine the sinful nature of such deed. One could continue to look and not be contractual of any guilt or sin while another could turn away and, due to the entertainment of lustful thoughts, be subject.

In Christ - J.M.J.
Mapleoak
 
No. The Amazonian woman realises that’s breasts are for feeding her child. Period. She isn’t burdened by Western culture’s sexualized veiw of a woman’s breasts.

I would like for someone to point out to me were God told Eve exactly what to cover and by how many inches. The only verses I can find refering to Adam and Eve’s clothing are- Genesis 3 Verse 7 Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings. And Genesis 3:21 Also for Adam and his wife the Lord God made tunics of skin, and clothed them. I don’t see where God told Eve, “your tunic must cover you from forehead to ankle”.

Admittedly, I don’t know my Bible well. Please enlighten me.

I also still have a problem with the thinking that my immodesty compels a man to commit sin. He doesn’t have to look. If he truely doesn’t want to sin, it’s easy enough to turn his head the other way.

Kim
The fact is they knew to cover up. Regardless, they knew what to cover. You’re right that we don’t know how they did.

And your view of the fall must be pretty Pelagian, as if we aren’t born into original sin with the effects of the fall. Even a well-intentioned man who doesn’t want to look may not be able to turn away because his passions - his appetites - may be stronger than his reason. While his mind may say, “That is wrong to desire her” his passions may very well - and very commonly - override reason. Disordered appetites are part of the effects of the fall, in Christians and non-Christians alike. At very least out of charity we should not cause another to sin and revealing our bodies potentially does that, it is inviting the man to look. We are all weak and should help each other in our weaknesses. Concupiscence, the lust of the flesh, dwells in all our members. Humanity is not ordered and perfect, it is fallen and disordered even when we have the best intentions.

Christ’s peace to you.
 
Just to add a little tidbit also, total nudity can actually be more modest than dressing in a provocative and suggestive manner so as to incite others. The ‘come hither’ aspect as well as the stirring of the mind toward imagination can be much worse of a problem. Intentions are most definitely significant.

In Christ - J.M.J.
Mapleoak
The point is that indigenous people are working off of their own understanding of natural law together with their willingness to know what is right. They may sense modesty or the wrong nature of a sexual act but they may not. They do not have Revelation to guide them and make the moral code more explicit and well-known.

I mean, if Adam and Even intuited to cover up, why is it all of a sudden fine and dandy for people to be naked so long as it is their custom?

This reminds me of a lecture I heard at my university about people who said, following Mr. Christopher West, that they’d go to nude beaches because of the beauty of the human body and the goodness of it, etc. They ended up in trouble with it. Our professor, who is well-known and respected, said how we could never go around naked for one reason: because as long as we live on this earth, we live with concupiscence. That is why we can’t all be naked. If it were possible then why wouldn’t we all just do that? Just because we don’t want to? No, there is more reason than that. Clothing protects us from the potential ego-centric abuse because of lust which comes from the fall. If we reveal too much, another person may have lust towards us and want to use us.

You asked why it is your concern whether another person looks at you or not? John Paul II said the following in Theology of the Body:

"In the Sermon on the Mount, Christ gave his own interpretation of the commandment, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ This interpretation constitutes a new ethos. With the same lapidary words he assigned as a duty to every man the dignity of every woman. Simultaneously (even though this can be deduced from the text only in an indirect way), he also assigned to every woman the dignity of every man. Finally he assigned to everyone - both man and woman - their own dignity, in a certain sense, the sacrum of the person” (Theology of the Body 346).

He is saying that we are to care for each other’s dignity, the sacrum of the person, which means ensuring we respect each other’s dignity. Part of that is not causing a man to commit adultery with you in his heart because of seeing parts of you he does not want, nor should he need, to see. The Catechism says modesty involves not revealing what ought not to be revealed.

Intentions are significant. Yet arousal can occur without the intention for it, which is why a woman can reveal parts of her body and cause arousal in a man even when it is not her intention.

Nudity is more modest? Then why don’t we all dress naked? Because of concupiscence. I’m sorry but concupiscence is a big issue here and it seems to me like most people are downplaying it, as if we’re not fallen people. Sure, being provocative may be worse than simply being naked, but that doesn’t mean that nakedness doesn’t awaken lust at all in itself. One may be worse but doesn’t mean the other does nothing.

Christ’s peace to you.
 
The point is that indigenous people are working off of their own understanding of natural law together with their willingness to know what is right. They may sense modesty or the wrong nature of a sexual act but they may not. They do not have Revelation to guide them and make the moral code more explicit and well-known.

I mean, if Adam and Even intuited to cover up, why is it all of a sudden fine and dandy for people to be naked so long as it is their custom?

This reminds me of a lecture I heard at my university about people who said, following Mr. Christopher West, that they’d go to nude beaches because of the beauty of the human body and the goodness of it, etc. They ended up in trouble with it. Our professor, who is well-known and respected, said how we could never go around naked for one reason: because as long as we live on this earth, we live with concupiscence. That is why we can’t all be naked. If it were possible then why wouldn’t we all just do that? Just because we don’t want to? No, there is more reason than that. Clothing protects us from the potential ego-centric abuse because of lust which comes from the fall. If we reveal too much, another person may have lust towards us and want to use us.

You asked why it is your concern whether another person looks at you or not? John Paul II said the following in Theology of the Body:

"In the Sermon on the Mount, Christ gave his own interpretation of the commandment, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ This interpretation constitutes a new ethos. With the same lapidary words he assigned as a duty to every man the dignity of every woman. Simultaneously (even though this can be deduced from the text only in an indirect way), he also assigned to every woman the dignity of every man. Finally he assigned to everyone - both man and woman - their own dignity, in a certain sense, the sacrum of the person” (Theology of the Body 346).

He is saying that we are to care for each other’s dignity, the sacrum of the person, which means ensuring we respect each other’s dignity. Part of that is not causing a man to commit adultery with you in his heart because of seeing parts of you he does not want, nor should he need, to see. The Catechism says modesty involves not revealing what ought not to be revealed.

Intentions are significant. Yet arousal can occur without the intention for it, which is why a woman can reveal parts of her body and cause arousal in a man even when it is not her intention.

Nudity is more modest? Then why don’t we all dress naked? Because of concupiscence. I’m sorry but concupiscence is a big issue here and it seems to me like most people are downplaying it, as if we’re not fallen people. Sure, being provocative may be worse than simply being naked, but that doesn’t mean that nakedness doesn’t awaken lust at all in itself. One may be worse but doesn’t mean the other does nothing.

Christ’s peace to you.
If it had been sinful for them to run around naked, God would have clothed them from the get-go. It wasn’t the nudity itself that was wrong, but sinfulness brought on a sense of shame with it. In certain cultures it is not looked at as anything but normal - like wearing jeans and a t-shirt. They look at eachother and don’t think twice about it.

I admire your standing strong with your particular beliefs, but it seems to me that you might be more concerned with being the “right” one than to consider anyone else’s viewpoint as even possibly valid. Sometimes I have a very strong opinion on an issue, but then someone helps me to look at it from another angle. Then (sometimes) I discover that I had been wrong - or at least not 100% right. I mean, how do you think I became a Catholic after being a Southern Baptist for the majority of my life? It certainly was not easy to change my viewpoints, but I was open to learning.

It could simply be that you have been open but have yet to change your stance. In such a case, good for you by sticking to your guns - but your arguments have yet to change my stance, either. Maybe we’ll just have to agree to disagree. 🙂
 
I’ve just bought a 1920’s style “cloche” hat for winter…woollen…red. I like it very much indeed. 🙂
Love it! My mother has a photo of my grandmother which was taken back in the '20’s. She is wearing one of those cloche hats with her hair in a chin-length bob, and she has around her neck one of those fur pieces that has the intact minks strung together. She looks just darling in that picture! Granny was going to leave the fur-thing to me when she passed on, but being an animal-lover, I just couldn’t wear a string of dead critters around my neck. So we gave it to the local community theater’s costume department, and they were delighted to have it. I do wish I had that hat, though. 🙂
 
Love it! My mother has a photo of my grandmother which was taken back in the '20’s. She is wearing one of those cloche hats with her hair in a chin-length bob, and she has around her neck one of those fur pieces that has the intact minks strung together. She looks just darling in that picture! Granny was going to leave the fur-thing to me when she passed on, but being an animal-lover, I just couldn’t wear a string of dead critters around my neck. So we gave it to the local community theater’s costume department, and they were delighted to have it. I do wish I had that hat, though. 🙂
Vintage style is one of my most favorite things in the whole wide world! Anything from the 20’s-60’s (especially the 30’s/40’s, which is generally very conservative dress). And I have a particular love for hats! 😉

Oh, for the days when women dressed to go out, or even just for dinner at home… with hats and gloves and polished shoes… It would have been nice to grow up back then…
 
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I disagree. A bikini is immodest and there is no way for it to be modest. It reveals what should not be revealed, which the Catechism says modesty should concern itself with.
Nope. You’re seeing the bikini as immodest, which is your perception and your judgement, and then you’re projecting it on the Catechism’s injunction against “showing what should be hidden” - which is incidentally the objective substance of the matter. But once again: there’s nothing in the Catechism that says bikini is immodest. Personally, I believe bikinis are more modest than some of the “complete” outfits people wear.
Maybe there is agreement within civilized nations, but there is agreement.
Agreements about perception do not create objective reality. An agreement about what we see as immodest is in no way objective (objective is the fact we agreed), but intersubjective.
I would also argue that it would be immodest it any place.
Including the house when no one’s looking?
The problem is that nudity will always appeal to concupiscence because it is the nature of man ever since the fall. Even in doctor’s offices etc.
Most of the time but not necessarily, at least not necessarily in such ways as automatically to provoke a reaction against the beholders’ will. I don’t think your typical doctor struggles with that much temptation. In fact, an adult doctor seeing nude females every day probably still faces less temptation than a hormonally intense teenager.
We can speak of indigenous peoples and tribes that are naked, but we must then also speak of their sexual ethics. Do nations where they reveal their bodies by custom like chastely?
There’s no necessary link, for one. Then, if some of them kill people for even alleged violations of chastity, I guess they take it seriously.
I still think it is an objective fact of human existence that when we are faced with seeing too much of the other gender’s body - especially the sexual organs - we lust.
That’s correct, actually. Yeah.
That is what needs protected.
Also.
Even if we were raised to think that it is normal to be naked, the sight would awaken desire within us and it would be very difficult not to give in.
Depends. The situation does a lot. For example, relatives don’t work on us as much, neither do patients on doctors, statues and paintings in museums don’t work like porn does, either. The problem is more with people trying to be sexy than with the actual exposure to bodies.
I know you’re very intelligent. I wish I could defend my point better, more intellectually, but right now I am burned out intellectually.
Thank you. You appear smart and well-read as well, in addition to attachment to the moral virtues.
It seems to me the Church used to make statements on dress until now. It seems like no one says anything any more…each person is just to decide for themselves, which has led us to alot of difficulty.
Nope. Maybe individual clerics made them more often, but I’m not even sure of that. The Church has never legislated precise limits of skirt lenghts or cleavage area. Doesn’t mean the Church didn’t care - at all. See Vatican’s own rules for visitors. And yeah, it does appear like the decision is on individual conscience - doesn’t mean there’s nothing objective to base the decision on, such as let’s say, scientific research about human reactions, local traditions and whatnot. These things will not all be objective strictly speaking, but they aren’t subjective, either, so there’s nothing like the wearer’s own moral authority making it right to wear what he’s wearing.
 
That is problematic. The non-Christian Amazon woman is probably in darkness on a great many things. I’m sure her understanding of virtue and ethics is severely lacking to say the least.
Theological understanding, yup. Philosophical? Probably. Intellectual? Likely. But she probably understands them better than your typical American or Western European, I think.
Yet those who are not in Christ are not His children strictly speaking, but are His enemies born as they are into sin (Cf. Trent).
I don’t think the Samaritan woman was Jesus’ enemy. 😉
That is why modesty/immodesty becomes such an important issue. If we have true charity, we’d never want to lead another into temptation. We’d never want to reveal what is not to be revealed.
Yes, that is correct. And it should always, always be taken into account. But this still doesn’t set an objective limit on cleavage area or skirt length if you know what I mean. A girl, if she’s informed and well-meaning, when she looks at an outfit, she will probably know in her heart if she should wear it or not. Problems start when she starts thinking maybe she has a good reason to wear it that somehow trumps the dangers. Still, since people’s reactions change over the course of history and between places on the other, what is improper here and now will not necessarily be or have been improper at some other place on the map and in history. This is why there is no need for an artificial construct, a platonic idea of the right exact and ideal size of cleavage, for instance. What is really important and remains unchanged throughout time and space, is the need to guard ourselves and others.
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mapleoak:
Just to add a little tidbit also, total nudity can actually be more modest than dressing in a provocative and suggestive manner so as to incite others.
Yep. I can find a number of proper or theoretically proper or abstract and imaginary contexts where it would be proper or at least not obviously wrong to be nude, whereas I can’t find a proper context for come-hither clothing designs. Some people would argue it would be proper to use some of that as tools in foreplay, but in my view, it’s so objectifying to begin with that one had better stay away from it all. But our bodies are not inherently unclean.
mesquitemagic:
I also still have a problem with the thinking that my immodesty compels a man to commit sin. He doesn’t have to look. If he truely doesn’t want to sin, it’s easy enough to turn his head the other way.
For one part you are correct, that is, if the compulsion is complete (100%), he can’t be committing a sin. On the other hand, extreme imagery does awaken involuntary reactions and while the reactions themselves are neutral and not sinful, the situation which leads to them are not necessary similarly neutral. For example, if someone exposes himself, the audience is not responsible for involuntary reactions (but only for entertaining them, accepting them, enjoying them and so on), but he is still responsible for awakening those reactions in people. We cannot be held responsible for how other people are perverted if they are and we don’t know what temptations our sight puts them in, but we can be and are responsible for our intentions, plus we have no right to tease people sexually, so in the end, the woman in your example may well be sinning. The man, in so far as he makes the choice to, “look at her to lust after her,” “commits adultery with her in his heart.”
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strugglingalong:
They may sense modesty or the wrong nature of a sexual act but they may not. They do not have Revelation to guide them and make the moral code more explicit and well-known.
But they don’t necessarily need a revelation telling them that in the Western culture a woman’s breasts are heavily sexualised and so they need to adjust their own culture and start covering up. Our problems are not necessarily theirs and just because we see ourselves as more developed doesn’t mean our perceptions are objectively binding on whom we see as savages.
This reminds me of a lecture I heard at my university about people who said, following Mr. Christopher West, that they’d go to nude beaches because of the beauty of the human body and the goodness of it, etc. They ended up in trouble with it.
Yeah, that’s some delusional leftist ideology. It just can’t go right. The problem, however, is that they weren’t going there for the beauty of the body or the goodness of it, strictly speaking, but for the nudity, and using the beauty or goodness as an excuse. That’s where it started going wrong. The nominal cause was different from the actual cause and the whole thing went bonkers, scientifically speaking. 😉
 
Clothing protects us from the potential ego-centric abuse because of lust which comes from the fall. If we reveal too much, another person may have lust towards us and want to use us.
What is more, in knowingly dressing like that we actually abuse ourselves. We either make ourselves into objects of gratification for others, or even derive some masturbatory kind of pleasure from exposing ourselves.

This still doesn’t create an abstract and fully precise limit of coverage or exposure, though.
Finally he assigned to everyone - both man and woman - their own dignity, in a certain sense, the sacrum of the person”
That sacrum of the person would be the core of the matter. The inches are ancillary to it.
The Catechism says modesty involves not revealing what ought not to be revealed.
But of course, but once again, that doesn’t mean “N inches”. You have the inches in your head, so when you read, “what should be hidden,” you automatically associate and replace it with, “ah, that would be N inches here, X inches there and this or that exact point must be hidden at all times.” But that part is not in the Catechism and is synonymous with its words, in fact.
Intentions are significant. Yet arousal can occur without the intention for it, which is why a woman can reveal parts of her body and cause arousal in a man even when it is not her intention.
Of course, but the mere occurence of arousal, let’s say, by accident, doesn’t automatically mean some sin must have been committed somewhere and somewhen (except maybe the original sin). Sins always include intention. Immodesty may be a result of direct intent or negligence (culpable ignorance), but you cannot commit a sin without an act of will at some point in it. Without a choice in other words.
Nudity is more modest? Then why don’t we all dress naked? Because of concupiscence.
I’m sorry, but that’s wrong. You seem to think only exposure of body appeals to concupiscence, whereas all the “come hither” designs and devices do not. It is most certainly possible to lust after a fully covered person. It is also possible to make an all-covering outfit immodest as well. Everyone knows this. You can’t pretend it somehow doesn’t arouse. All those outfits two sizes too small, with captions on the butt and all sorts of devices to attract attention to the breasts or the crotch. Do you think it matters less than some skin?

Also, part of the reason the human body needs to be covered somehow is that it’s sacred. You mentioned that by quoting John Paul II. Whereas the human body is sacred in some ways, a G-string, let’s say, is not sacred in any way and in most cases will have been designed to titillate (and ultimately to lead into sin, whereas the human body wasn’t), not even to allow easier tanning. What’s more immodest, a statue from the Vatican museums, or a g-string photo? I would argue that what people wear nowadays is much more immodest than a Greek statue.
Sure, being provocative may be worse than simply being naked, but that doesn’t mean that nakedness doesn’t awaken lust at all in itself. One may be worse but doesn’t mean the other does nothing.
Yup, and if it’s worse in terms of leading to sexual sins, then it’s more immodest.

On a final note, no one here is arguing how fun and nice it is to walk around naked. Just that modesty is not defined in inches outside of time and space.

You do well in pointing out and reminding that a subjective decision that this or that is okay to wear doesn’t make an objective exculpation for the wearer. We can’t shed our responsibility by a unilateral decision that we are not culpable because that decision is not ours to make. Therefore, we can’t make our standards of clothing immune to any judgement whatsoever. The fact we think it’s fine for us to wear something doesn’t mean there’s no problem with it for other people - or even in our own minds (that we could be unable to notice in our ignorance). But this all doesn’t mean that there is some abstract standard measured in inches. Clothes are an expression of the modesty that is in our minds.
 
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