Questions

[malphono]

Could somebody please provide me the canon where it says that one takes the rite after his father?

It’s Canon 29 that was mentioned earlier:

Canon 29

1. By virtue of baptism, a child who has not yet completed his fourteenth year of age is enrolled in the Church sui iuris of the Catholic father; or the Church sui iuris of the mother if only the mother is Catholic or if both parents by agreement freely request it, with due regard for particular law established by the Apostolic See.

I have my husbands baptism record in the house, because as you said we had to provide it when we got married. However, I do not quite understand what you meant. So if the record does not mention anything about the rite of his parents, then I can presume he is a Roman Catholic given that the baptism was in Roman Catholic church?

Unfortunately my husband is not the least bit interested of these things, and if I ask he says, well what do u mean, we are Catholic…

Before making any assumption, one thing that would need to be determined is which Church (Syro-Malabar or Latin) was the parish part of at the time of his baptism. (That is information is not necessarily part of the parish name or on the parish seal.) If, in fact, the parish was part of the Latin Church (meaning actually a Roman Rite parish and not a Syro-Malabar parish under the administration of a Latin Diocese as is the case in several places in India, mainly outside of Kerala) at the time, and absent a notation in the records to the contrary, he was enrolled in the Latin Church at baptism. If the situation were reversed, he would have been enrolled in the Syro-Malabar Church.

 

[Vico]

… Given my own experience and that of others I’ve run into regarding parish records, West and East, were I OP I would follow up now while the kids are young and get their status clarified and properly recorded.

I agree. I found out that the parish I received Confirmation did not report it to the parish where I was baptised, so I had to request then to send it.

What I discovered is that every parish is required to maintain records of baptisms, confirmations, marriages, and deaths. A register of First Communions is optional, but not required by Church law. Also change of ritual church, defection, or reunion is noted in the baptisimal records.

 

[babochka]

We know OP’s wedding took place in a Catholic Church. The Church is, excuse me, proud of the good record keeping they do. (FYI I found good record keeping to * not * be the case both times I needed to acquire records for myself and for my daughter.) Given my own experience and that of others I’ve run into regarding parish records, West and East, were I OP I would follow up now while the kids are young and get their status clarified and properly recorded.

I have also found this to be the case. Our priest, whose daughter was baptized in our parish prior to his ordination, says that records indicate that she was baptized before she was born. My daughter was Chrismated 4 years ago and the record was sent to the parish of her baptism. They responded with a note that they had no information on her baptism. A few weeks later, I requested a copy of her baptismal certificate. It arrived in the mail a week later. My priest again sent the information on her Chrismation. I haven’t checked yet to see if it has been recorded. Thank you for the reminder.