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PrAyFoRpUrItY
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Wait…cold showers help you to release? And cold temperatures? I don’t think I understand this right…lol
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PrAyFoRpUrItY
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i couldn’t just let this go…the Catholic Church does believe it is a horrible thing when a priest does this. and priests are on the BOTTOM of the list in this situation!!! look at the facts!
you’re not.“Trust the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.”
we seem to be of a like mind on the issue
its good too know im not the only one
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ainjell
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Emlif
I am an 19 year old girl and, have always been a very conservative catholic. I have a severe problem that I have been trying to fix for a few years. I have an abnormally, ridiculously high sex drive that I can’t seem to overcome no matter what I do. I have been with a young man for 2 years now, who is now my fiancee. We lost our virginity to eachother when we first started going out, which we dreadfully regret, and we made a commitment to purity ever since then. But for some reason within the last few months I want nothing more but to have sex with him again. Sometimes all I have to do is look at him and I am overwhelmed with sexual desire. I masturbate almost every day and am constantly filled with impure thoughts. Recently, I nearly seduced him because I wanted it so bad. I have tried everything to make it go away, because I know its so sinful. I have prayed novenas, begged the Blessed Mother for help, and talked to a priest about it. I don’t want to be in Purgatory for 10,000 years because what I do, and I don’t want him to think I’m becoming a slut. I even cry when I’m praying because I can’t stop thinking about sex. I don’t know what else to do, I know I need to stop, but I don’t know how. I love God, and I love my fiancee very much and am doing everything to keep myself from bringing him down with my impurities. Is there any possible way to calm my sexual urge?? We arent going to be married for three more years, so its a long commitment. Feel free to pray for me as well!!!
My dear Emlif,
You have received some good advice here. Confession, Mass, Communion in the state of grace, rosary, some beautiful prayers, a referral to St. Maria Gorreti, some web site referrals, advice to avoid the occasions of sin and to keep occupied. You were also advised to work together with your fiance on this issue. All good. I can only add: avoid tight fitting underpants, jeans etc. wrap your hands in your rosary beads when tempted, pray to St. Michael the archangel. Go outside, look around and mentally list what you see, what you hear, and what you smell.
You are a good girl. I think you will become strong with God’s help and if you follow the good advice here and because the people here are praying for you.
Originally Posted by Emlif
I am an 19 year old girl and, have always been a very conservative catholic. I have a severe problem that I have been trying to fix for a few years. I have an abnormally, ridiculously high sex drive that I can’t seem to overcome no matter what I do. I have been with a young man for 2 years now, who is now my fiancee. We lost our virginity to eachother when we first started going out, which we dreadfully regret, and we made a commitment to purity ever since then. But for some reason within the last few months I want nothing more but to have sex with him again. Sometimes all I have to do is look at him and I am overwhelmed with sexual desire. I masturbate almost every day and am constantly filled with impure thoughts. Recently, I nearly seduced him because I wanted it so bad. I have tried everything to make it go away, because I know its so sinful. I have prayed novenas, begged the Blessed Mother for help, and talked to a priest about it. I don’t want to be in Purgatory for 10,000 years because what I do, and I don’t want him to think I’m becoming a slut. I even cry when I’m praying because I can’t stop thinking about sex. I don’t know what else to do, I know I need to stop, but I don’t know how. I love God, and I love my fiancee very much and am doing everything to keep myself from bringing him down with my impurities. Is there any possible way to calm my sexual urge?? We arent going to be married for three more years, so its a long commitment. Feel free to pray for me as well!!!
My dear Emlif,
You have received some good advice here. Confession, Mass, Communion in the state of grace, rosary, some beautiful prayers, a referral to St. Maria Gorreti, some web site referrals, advice to avoid the occasions of sin and to keep occupied. You were also advised to work together with your fiance on this issue. All good. I can only add: avoid tight fitting underpants, jeans etc. wrap your hands in your rosary beads when tempted, pray to St. Michael the archangel. Go outside, look around and mentally list what you see, what you hear, and what you smell.
You are a good girl. I think you will become strong with God’s help and if you follow the good advice here and because the people here are praying for you.
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NTOT
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Basically, if you are freezing to death (not literally), lusting will likely be something far removed. But keeping your thermostat set at 40 degrees is very effective at controlling ones desires.
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SoulRebel777
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why does this thread have the most posts then any other topic?
Something to Consider
Something to Consider
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benedictus2
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That is not correct. I did a quick look and Sola Scriptura has 297 at this time. And that is just a very quick look at the threads I’ve subscribed to.
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sseason
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#1 It doesn’t have the most posts.
#2 What shall we consider? Ignore the subject at hand?
Quite frankly I don’t even think that person exists as they have represented themselves. But if she is who she says she is, ok then. There has been some good solid Catholic advice here. And for the advice that was not true to Catholic teaching, good members here have tried to correct those errors. And thus the thread goes on…
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JPUSC
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The subject line catches our attention.
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Dave18
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I’m a 19 old male and for me, the thing that led to lustful thoughts and masturbation was missing mass. Which kind of created a barrier between the Lord and would lead me to look at naked women on the computer. I was always frusterated that the church made masturbation of sin until i realized that the things that led to masturbation were sinful themselves. this made me realize that i do have some control over my drive.
I know your a women but avoiding situations and even actions that could increase your sexual drive could help.
Keep close to the Lord and do not give up.
I know your a women but avoiding situations and even actions that could increase your sexual drive could help.
Keep close to the Lord and do not give up.
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saieditor
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If you were conceived in lust by your parents you will have lust in you.
That’s lust. Is that all life is about? If you focus your mind on lust, the lust will only expand. Turn the mind elsewhere.
Where is your relationship with God in all of this? Where is your love for God? Do you turn to God with love for God?
As the feeling, so the result. If you focus on lust, you will be overtaken by lust.
So what are you doing to manage your mind and manage your lust?
Do you manage your mind or are you a slave to your mind? Is it your master?
I hope not, because it is your SERVANT. You can steer the mind to some other topic, something else until the lust passes away. That is what devotion is there for. It is a tool for you to turn your mind to God. That is the sole purpose of the church in fostering devotions and providing devotional practices to you. They enable you to manage the mind, turn it to God, and remain in control of the senses …
Manage the mind. What good is lust to you?
Start early; drive carefully, arrive safely.
When the lust approaches, drive carefully, start managing the mind, do some other activity, take a drink of cold water, stand in front of the mirror and say, “I am a human being, not an animal” ten times.
Repeat as many times as needed.
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Dave18
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I did not know this.
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TotallyConfused
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What? Where did you hear that? Cite this please?
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sseason
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:tiphat: :clapping: You made my day!
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Joe_5859
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I concur. I have never heard that idea espoused before. I find it a tad suspect. If there are some Church documents to back it up, it would be nice to see them.
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sseason
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It is true that our sins affect other people. And it may be true that unconfessed and unabsolved sins may get passed down from generation (Adam and Eve being the first example). But God, through the New Covenant and His priests gave us power over satan and his temptations. God gave us the Sacrament of Confession and the Sacrament of the Eucharist to strengthen us.
If we mark ourselves with the Blood of The Lamb (the Eucharist), satan has no power over us.
We have power to cast him out in the name of Jesus, our King.
(note-I’m not talking about extreme cases like possesion, that requires a PRIEST.)
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By_His_Mercy
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I’m a guy, also with a high sex drive. Don’t feed it. Focus on God…not on fighting it. Trying to fight it brings it on more. Focus on God, on other things (hobbies, friends, etc.). Being with your friends should help…call them, visit them, etc. When they’re over, you won’t have time to focus on feeding it.
I’ve gotten great victory over all of that. I’m married, but with two kids we don’t have much private time. I just don’t feed it. I look away when I need to look away … I don’t care if they think I’m mean (I used to…some people dress so seductively…and seem to really put their egos on the line…I thought I had to raise an eyebrow so they woudn’t get their feelings hurt…but not any more).
It’s the Lord’s battle. Remember how He told David (I think) not to count his army. It wasn’t David’s battle…it’s the Lord’s battle.
God bless you,
-BHM
I’ve gotten great victory over all of that. I’m married, but with two kids we don’t have much private time. I just don’t feed it. I look away when I need to look away … I don’t care if they think I’m mean (I used to…some people dress so seductively…and seem to really put their egos on the line…I thought I had to raise an eyebrow so they woudn’t get their feelings hurt…but not any more).
It’s the Lord’s battle. Remember how He told David (I think) not to count his army. It wasn’t David’s battle…it’s the Lord’s battle.
God bless you,
-BHM
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benedictus2
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Yes, the whole fashion these days seems to have the devil for a coutourier. I have told a staff off for coming to work dressed in-appropriately.
And then they cry uncle when men oggle them.
The most ridiculous one I’ve seen was a girl all done up in what could be described as a very pretty camisole in the depth of winter. You could tell she was freezing but in the interest of looking sexy she did not even have a coat to cover herself up.
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Antrim
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I would advise you to gat married as soon as possible. Three years plus the time you have already been going together is to long. I beleive the church discourages long engagements. My wife and I went together eleven months. That was fifty one years ago. Back in those days every one got married within a reasonable amount of time because they wanted to have sex but not loose their Souls.
Ask your Priest about the Churches standing on that and see what he says. No matter what the reason for waiting so long to get married it is not worth loosing your Soul over. Your eternal Salvation comes first.
Antrim
Ask your Priest about the Churches standing on that and see what he says. No matter what the reason for waiting so long to get married it is not worth loosing your Soul over. Your eternal Salvation comes first.
Antrim
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kejwiorro
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hi.
I’m 18 and i’m new here. I’m a catholic and i have a serious problem with masturbation. I’m looking for someone at a nearly age who has similar problem and would like totry to solve it together by talking by mails and praying for each other. If someone would like to help him/herself and me please write me kawiorro123@interia.pl
Bye
I’m 18 and i’m new here. I’m a catholic and i have a serious problem with masturbation. I’m looking for someone at a nearly age who has similar problem and would like totry to solve it together by talking by mails and praying for each other. If someone would like to help him/herself and me please write me kawiorro123@interia.pl
Bye
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4given
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Here is an obvious solution:
GET MARRIED SOONER!
The Bible says to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife and every woman to have her own husband. If you can’t control this, you need to get married now. Not in three years.
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