Raising boys vs girls

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carol marie:
Pets. Pets are definatly easier to raise than boys or girls. Pets and houseplants.

🙂 CM, Mom to 4 beautiful children I wouldn’t trade for anything! 🙂
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:rotfl: :rotfl::rotfl:I can not tell you how many times I said this to my husband through every new trauma I would look at him and say oh puppies are much easier to raise then children.
But by far boys are easier in the younger years, after being raised with so many girls I asked God not to give me one, but he knew best and gave me one and she is the best daughter any mom could ask for. But it took many years and many tears to get there. The boys well when they hit those teenage years everything changes and they are the toughest because of those strong hormones.
But I would have to say carol is right pets and houseplants are the easiest but I certainly would not have traded that once my grandchildren were born. It suddenly makes it all worth while.
 
I do think it has a lot to do with temperament. My daughter is easier in some ways than my son, but I don’t think it is only because she is a girl. I love them both so much I wouldn’t want to change anything about either of them.

I once dated somebody who came from a family of two girls and four boys. He said the boys just punched each other and got it over with, but the girls complained and whined and shouted all day long in their room at each other.
 
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Toni:
But it took many years and many tears to get there. The boys well when they hit those teenage years everything changes and they are the toughest because of those strong hormones.
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My daughters are raised and your line about many years and tears really hit home. My three daughters are wonderful to me now and they are as good as can be, but it was not smooth sailing. I have a million stories and there were times I didn’t think I would make it. My son is just beginning high school and so far has been easier. However I had more time for him because he was my surprise baby and is much younger than the girls. I fear your last line about once the hormones hit, and don’t you know I will have to pray my way through that because now my husband and I are older!
 
Actually, GRANDCHILDREN are the easiest to raise!

Skip the kid part and go straight to grandchildren.
I prefer boy grandchildren but then you can still send the emotional, sassy girls home when you want to.

I also like my white dove, she is a girl and loves my husband the best, my two cats, male and female and my old mare. They are all pretty cool and I have no wish to send them away after a day or two.

Then of course there are my African Violets. They just plain love me. I nurture them, they respond with piles of colorful displays. Don’t even wonder if they are male or female.

I still vote for Grandchildren. They will do.
 
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bapcathluth:
I once dated somebody who came from a family of two girls and four boys. He said the boys just punched each other and got it over with, but the girls complained and whined and shouted all day long in their room at each other.
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See, that’s the logic I’ve used with my husband when telling him that I hope we have all boys. I’d rather have them have it out in five minutes than have to deal with it for days. I was a girl, and boy, can we ever sulk!
 
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K-McD:
I know a certain individual who tell me she thinks girls are easier to raise than boys. Even the “experts” have said the same thing.

I posed the question to several mothers including my mother, (raised 4 boys and 4 girls) and they say no difference. While boys are more physically active, girls are more moody. It all depends on what you can deal with. I should say the “certain individual” I know has 5 girls and 1 boy.

What do you think?
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I have one of each and I never thought of it as whether I could better handle activity or moodiness. Guess for me it’s activity because I find my daughter much more difficult.

In Christ,
Nancy 🙂
 
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bapcathluth:
I once dated somebody who came from a family of two girls and four boys. He said the boys just punched each other and got it over with, but the girls complained and whined and shouted all day long in their room at each other.
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Ha- ha!! I come from a family of 5 kids- 4 guys and me! My 13 yr old daughter has gone through “not speaking” to one of her close friends. I don’t get it. In my house full of boys, that never happened. They fought and got over it like your friend said. —KCT
 
My mother raised 4 boys and 2 girls. She still insists to this day that all 4 boys put together didn’t give her as much trouble as any one of the girls.

I’m kind of seeing the same thing with my son and 2 daughters. It’s very early to tell, being the oldest is only 6 (the son), but the boys you can just send outside to play, they take care of their own problems, and dump 'em in the bath before bedtime.

The girls require a lot more high maintence, and I expect it to get a lot worse when the teenage years come.
  • oh yeah, DW and I have yet another daughter due in January - That’ll mean I’ll have 17,15 and 13 year old daughters in 13 years :eek: . I think my son and I are going to get our own apartment. About the only thing stopping us is boyfriends. We fully plan on being in the living room cleaning the rifles in our NRA hats each time a boyfriend comes over.
 
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Brendan:
  • oh yeah, DW and I have yet another daughter due in January - That’ll mean I’ll have 17,15 and 13 year old daughters in 13 years :eek: . I think my son and I are going to get our own apartment. About the only thing stopping us is boyfriends. We fully plan on being in the living room cleaning the rifles in our NRA hats each time a boyfriend comes over.
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LOL!:rotfl: In my family there are 17, 15, and 1 year old girls, and then a 7 year old boy. My dad says the same exact thing about him and my brother getting an apartment! They’ve already started making plans!
 
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Brendan:
About the only thing stopping us is boyfriends. We fully plan on being in the living room cleaning the rifles in our NRA hats each time a boyfriend comes over.
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Seriously, my friend’s dad used to do just that when her dates would come to pick her up. He was a federal agent, and would conveniently be “cleaning” his service weapon at those times.😃
 
So far I only have a 2 year old boy and one baby on the way. I don’t know the gender yet. From what people tell me, girls are most difficult during their teenage years and boys are most difficult during the pre-teen years. I can’t tell yet, my son has been great.

-PTP
 
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pprimeau1976:
So far I only have a 2 year old boy and one baby on the way. I don’t know the gender yet. From what people tell me, girls are most difficult during their teenage years and boys are most difficult during the pre-teen years. I can’t tell yet, my son has been great.

-PTP
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I have been told by many parents of post teenagers that “you are not a parent until you have parented teenagers.” Boy! I can hardly wait! :nope:

Kevin
 
I’m not a parent, though I’m married and hope to be a parent soon. 😉

I worked for a few years as a residential counselor/behavioral interventionist for a group home/shelter facility with 20 girls and 20 boys, housed separately, aged 12-17.

The residents were rotated in and out, so it wasn’t the same bunch for the entire duration of my time there, but the teens often stayed for a good number of months and sometimes up to a year or more.

Staff ratio was 1:10 while asleep and 1:7 when awake; so, we often had either 2-3 staff members on hand at any given point. (But these same staff members were “running” the house: cooking dinner, supervising chores, checking in new residents, giving out meds, etc.) Anyway, …20 hormonal, moody, emotional, uprooted, neglected teenage girls can often cause quite a bit of chaos…! And for the boys, a lot of physical anger and at times, destruction or violence.

However, one thing I quickly noticed as I began my work there was that expectations were so important. If I “expected” the residents to have their immature squabbles, screaming matches, to act moodily or if I accepted even a small amount of disrespect–they took that expectation and ran away with it. BUT, if I took an attitude that simply didn’t allow for ridiculous and nonsensical behavior, it was amazing how much they all chose (for the most part) to behave as young men and women.

I also never referred to them as “teenagers” while in their presence. They were young ladies and young gentlemen. (Keep in mind most of these kids were from the inner city ghettos, many of whom were gang members, and I don’t think any of them had ever considered being termed anything more than a “street rat” as many of them referred to themselves as being.) I made it clear that I expected them to ACT as young ladies and young gentleman. (This wasn’t always easy–I was a very sheltered, very young white girl with a private school education and very little exposure to any of this. I was also barely older than the oldest resident when I began working in the environment. But, it’s amazing how welcoming these kids were when confronted with structure and boundaries.)

We often spoke candidly about treating ourselves and others with respect. This includes the way we speak, think, dress and act.

I often think about how these principles will be used in how I raise my own children. Sad as it is, residential counselors at these group home facilities sometimes act as mom and dad–these kids are either orphaned, abandoned or abused. I think if I have certain expectations with my own children, it won’t be a matter of who is “easier,” it will just be a matter of mutual respect and little tolerance for punching matches or moody pouting. Behavior modification is very easy when one figures out the child’s currency.

Just my two cents!
 
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pprimeau1976:
I don’t know the gender yet.
-PTP
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[Nit picking]

A gender is a logical grouping of nouns.

Thus words have a gender, people have a sex.

[/nit picking]
 
I vote that boys are easier to raise, although I have only one child, a teen-aged boy.

I am basing my selection on the fact that my son is amazingly self-reliant, self-motivated, and a generally great person. When I was his age, I was manipulative, arrogant, sneaky, moody, childish, and generally a horrible girl. My poor parents! I was the youngest of six, and I’ll bet they were thrilled after I got over the teen years (and we all lived to tell about it).

What I like about boys is that they are completely up front. What you see is what you get. They don’t bother with artiface. Girls, on the other hand, always have some hidden agenda.

The above paragraph is obviously stereotyping, and my own observation and opinion.

'thann
 
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Brendan:
A gender is a logical grouping of nouns.

Thus words have a gender, people have a sex.
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A wise man once said…

WELL LAAA DEEEE DAAAAA!!! :rotfl:
 
We have 4 kids, 2 boy - 2 girls, with twin boy /girl 3yr old. They can have good days or bad days. Boys have issue that girls don’t have & Vise - versa. They are angles one minute & Hellions the next, but we would not change a thing. They are a Blessing from above. Still, there are not teenagers yet. My view is Parenthood is a Ministry in itself.

God Bless our children, our parents, and us as Parents - that we may have patience, compassion, & faith on this Journey.
 
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