Rats, mosquitoes, cigarettes, abortion

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I do NOT know why these rats are here. I DO feel engulfed in Jesus’s Love. I understand that the mosquitoes (I thought they were to remind me of my mother) are God’s little messengers.

As far as cigarettes, although they are a comfort to me they also give me pain as they were a cause in the second abortion. I believe my little lost son (I asked the Lord and He said it was a boy, not a girl as I always tend to think) cries for my born son, whom he LOVES, I realized today, rather than being jealous (like me and my baby sister); he cries for him when I smoke.

I am trying to figure it out about smoking. I have so very many very good reasons to smoke but also to begin to try to control it, and so many very good reasons why I must not.

I am alone tonight. My son has bronchitis and prefers other company. I have pain over the abortion. It was so bad and confused for so long I just slogged through, but now things are breaking up and I am beginning to feel the feelings. Please pray.
 
quit smoking
  • even chewing tobacco is better - you still get the nicotine which is mostly why people smoke
I Don’t understand your first part of this post but it sounds like smoking is harming your life

pray and stop smoking - there are many programs out there

ANY time you wanna smoke - go for a 1 mile jog

youll quit in no time !
 
I will certainly pray for you. You sound a little confused and lonely. I pray that the Holy Spirit will surround you and bring you to Jesus.
 
Chewing tobacco is bad as well. It clearly says on dip cans: “this product is not a safe alternative to cigarettes.”
 
It seems obvious that you have some serious issues to deal with right now so trying to stop smoking at this juncture might not be a good idea.

I’m not exactly sure what you mean by the smoking being a factor in the abortion. I do sort of know what you mean about the feelings about the abortion starting to hit.
This might require some counseling.
Check with your local Catholic parish and they can probably guide you to a support group to help.
Once you start to get some of this under control you will feel more able to get the smoking issue taken care of.

Peace
James
 
Dear lynnehelen,

friend, you are suffering from some serious emotional traumas right now.
The pain over an abortion, and other things. From your tone, and I am not a Shrink
but have been seeing one for many years, you sound like you are experiencing
BOTH some Depression as well as the onset of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Let me say something here, for which I am liable to get flamed, but I don’t mind.
Smoking is not good for you, we all know that.
But smoking, and I smoked for 35 years, is very, very relaxing (yes, nicotine is a stimulant, but the act of smoking, the deep inhalation, slow exhalation, something to do with your hands) IS very relaxing and calming.

What will happen probably, if you quit right now, is that you will become much more nervous and your depression and PTSD will be greatly exacerbated by the stress of trying to maintain the willpower to give up cigarettes.
When I quit smoking once in the late 90s, after having a bad, horrible nervous breakdown,
it had a horrific effect on my nerves, and I had to start back. Quitting smoking, especially cold turkey, when you suffer from serious emotional problems, is not the best thing to do. Though smoking ages your skin, and if done to excess can badly damage your lungs, quitting in a high-stress state could make your suffering and trauma very, very much worse. I know this, I’ve been there, done that. It was nonsmoker friends at work who saw the condition I was in, who advised me to start back smoking immediately. They had been smokers in the past and knew from experience the trauma that quitting smoking can cause, and when dealing with serious emotional issues and already traumatized, you don’t need the additional trauma of (a) breaking a very relaxing, calming habit and (b) the nicotine withdrawal, which contrary to often repeated statements, does not last a mere three days and then disappear. It recurs and recurs, often for several weeks. You don’t need that in your current condition.

Wait until your emotional traumas are resolved before quitting smoking.
It’s great to quit, but do not put yourself through additional stress and emotional hell right now. It could push you over the edge.
And do, please do, see a good, preferably Catholic, counsellor.
And be assured that your aborted child IS praying for you.
Love to you,
Jaypeeto4
+JMJ+
 
And, JackVk, in his post, is absolutely correct, Chewing Tobacco is not a safe
alternative to cigarettes.

In fact, it is much, much, much more dangerous than smoking is.
Back in the 80s (I don’t know if this is still happening),
the use of chewing tobacco by young baseball players was all the rage.
Nearly all young male baseball players were taking up the chewin’ tabacky / snuff
habit.

You should have seen the young men who VERY QUICKLY developed horrifying
mouth cancer from this habit. Some of these young men died unspeakably painful deaths.
Others quickly got cancers that were so bad that, though not fatal (they were fortunate),
they had to have their MANDIBLES surgically removed.
Chewing Tobacco is extremely dangerous stuff.

If you ever try it, you’ll see quickly what I mean, too.
Put a good sized pinch of it in your mouth. Immediately, your tongue starts
to burn and sting. Then, (as most who use it do), when you manuever it into the space between you side teeth and your inner cheek, the skin on your inner cheek begins to burn and sting like crazy. This is because your skin is, in fact, being burned by this stuff.
It is raw tobacco, and does not belong in your mouth, stuck between your teeth and your inner cheek, for an hour or more. The damage it does begins immediately and is very fast acting. Those young men who died, or who had to have their jaws removed, only used it for a few months before their horrifying cancers developed.

Cigarette smoking takes 20, 30, 40 years,usually, for heavy smokers, before damage begins to show up. The risk of damage from cigarettes is also impacted by your genetic predisposition to, or lack of predisposition to, cancers. I know of people who were never exposed to second hand smoke, never touched a cigarette or cigar, and developed and died from, lung cancer. And I know smokers, who smoked for 60 years or more, who died at extreme old age, from purely natural causes, with no cancers or lung troubles at all.
My paternal grandma smoked full-strength KENT cigarettes and lived to 97 years old.
Nothing “killed” her, not even old age. She WANTED to go, to be with her departed loved ones, and LET HERSELF pass away, deliberately. She told my aunt, who was taking care of her, I want to go, I want to be with the rest of my family, and a couple of days later, after we all went to see her and she held our hands tightly (telling us bye-bye), she let herself pass away. She let go.
On the other hand, newscaster Peter Jennings smoked for around 30 years or more,
quit smoking for 10 years, then started back after 10 years, and immediately his body reacted, he quickly and suddenly developed cancer, and passed away shortly after starting back smoking. I have been told by many that if you quit for a VERY LONG time, after having smoked for a very long time, your body is likely to turn on you if you start back.

But I’m off on a tangeant. I apologize. The point is, Chewing Tobacco is not only NOT a safe cigarette alternative, it is much, much, much more dangerous than Cigarette smoking. The damage is much more immediate, much more deadly, and the death is horrifyingly painful. Don’t let anyone tell you differently.
Plus, seeing people walking down the sidewalk spitting that brown liquid onto the sidewalk, is absolutely disgusting.
Peace to you.
Jaypeeto4
+JMJ+
 
JackVk said:
Chewing tobacco is bad as well. It clearly says on dip cans: “this product is not a safe alternative to cigarettes.”
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I was talking about Chewing tobacco as an alternative in the aspect that since his son cries when he smokes for his little brother who has bronchitis leads me to believe that the kids are subject to second hand smoke -

Chewing tobacco is not better - however I don’t believe it is worse and its safer for those who are around you that is a fact!
 
Mother Mary, I recommend Lynnehelen to you. Please help her to find Project Rachel so she can heal from her painful abortion. Please obtain for Lynnehelen strength, peace, the deepest faith, surrender to God’s holy will and abandonment to his divine providence. Amen.
 
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