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I have been studying Catholicism for the last year and really want to start RCIA this fall, but my wife is hostile to the idea. I’m a 2nd generation non-denom “bible fellowship” guy and my wife is a calvinist baptist. I’ve tried to answer her objections some, but she really hasn’t given me that many because she doesn’t even like to talk about it, and gets angry whenever the subject is breached.

I really enjoy this forum, and would appreciate your advice. Should I start RCIA without her? Or should I just give it more time?
 
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RonRule:
I have been studying Catholicism for the last year and really want to start RCIA this fall, but my wife is hostile to the idea. I’m a 2nd generation non-denom “bible fellowship” guy and my wife is a calvinist baptist. I’ve tried to answer her objections some, but she really hasn’t given me that many because she doesn’t even like to talk about it, and gets angry whenever the subject is breached.

I really enjoy this forum, and would appreciate your advice. Should I start RCIA without her? Or should I just give it more time?
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Since RCIA is not a commitment but an exploratory opportunity, unless your wife would set your car on fire over it, I would say go for it. It is rare that a couple is equally yoked in this situation; somebody has to be the leader. Many marriages experience severe stress over it. Some marriages actually survive! I am sure you are aware that Kimberly Hahn came into the Church 4 years after Scott, and that their marriage almost didn’t make it. You might enjoy reading their book, Rome Sweet Home.

Nobody ever said this would be easy.
 
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Since RCIA is not a commitment but an exploratory opportunity, unless your wife would set your car on fire over it, I would say go for it. It is rare that a couple is equally yoked in this situation; somebody has to be the leader. Many marriages experience severe stress over it. Some marriages actually survive! I am sure you are aware that Kimberly Hahn came into the Church 4 years after Scott, and that their marriage almost didn’t make it. You might enjoy reading their book, Rome Sweet Home.

Nobody ever said this would be easy.
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I’m definitely the leader… I’ve already led us into the Anglican church and that was a big step for my wife and only 5 months ago! Now I’ve been reading non-stop about the catholic church for a couple months, and met a catholic guy that lives near me from this board, and want to go to “this class”…I think it’s just too much for her at once. She thinks I’m going tonight to RCIA, but I’m wondering if I should tell her I won’t go if she feels this strongly against it. I wouldn’t be giving up, just moving slower.
 
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RonRule:
I’m definitely the leader… I’ve already led us into the Anglican church and that was a big step for my wife and only 5 months ago! Now I’ve been reading non-stop about the catholic church for a couple months, and met a catholic guy that lives near me from this board, and want to go to “this class”…I think it’s just too much for her at once. She thinks I’m going tonight to RCIA, but I’m wondering if I should tell her I won’t go if she feels this strongly against it. I wouldn’t be giving up, just moving slower.
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:rotfl: Don’t give the poor woman whiplash! If she sees that you are earnest and patient, that may go a long way towards winning her heart. Keeping her respect is important. Your manner, your personal integrity will mean a great deal. If you can credibly present your approach to RCIA as part of an information gathering process, she may be more amenable. Try to assure her that you will not violate her personal integrity . . . No forced conversions!
 
there has been a lot of change going on in the Catholic church since vatican II, much of it is “not cool” to many Catholics-such as communion in the hand, alter girls, communal penance etc.So, i suggest you read about the true catechism of the Catholic Church and the best form of that that I know of is the Baltimore Cathechism. this can be ordered through “Our Ladys Book Service” or I’m sure you can find it at Catholic Book sites on the internet. Really get to know the Catholic Faith and the older traditions (pre-1960). You will love being Catholic-you’ve received a gift from God wanting to become Catholic!!! 😃
 
While some Catholics are disillusioned by Vatican II, I’d stick with the current Catechism, the one promulgated and approved by John Paul II and the rest of the Magisterium. The Catholic faith is ancient and its dogmas are unchangable, but the Church finds ways to express these immutable truths in language which each generation can understand. If the Deposit of Faith is like a seed that grows and develops throughout history, the current catechism reflects this faith at its most complete and mature. In short: the Baltimore catechism is outdated. No offense, piercina.
 
Well, I feel foolish now…I showed up for my first RCIA course…ONE WEEK EARLY!!! :banghead:

Guess I must be anxious to get started. 😛
 
We had our first meeting last Wed. We are starting with a really good group. Keep them and all attending RCIA this year in your prayers!
Mike
 
The second meeting was with the Priest at the Parish I go to. It was pretty good.
 
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