Re: Repeating Sins

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some troubles have come back to me from the past and i need some help.
I had looked at some porn maybe 2-3 weeks ago and after confession last week i swore i will not look at it again and still to today i still say i will not.
But today in Class some people were talking about some stupid things which i hate “Sexual” things and out of my memory i remembered the porn thing i viewed i did not want to remember and and i tried forgetiong it and about 15 sec later i had my mind on something else which is good, i did not want this thought to come it just came out of no where, but i never felt like masturbating or anything but i did get a feeling when you see a very pretty girl and you like just think about it type of thing but it stopped very quickly and i never had the urge to masturbate because i know what it feels like first you look at an image you feel attarceted and then if you keep viewing it you see the little details you liek about her and there is the urge to masturbate.
I just want to make sure i didnt fall into the sin of lust but i always thought lust is when you look at someone and later you get an urge and you really dont think of anything but masturbating no matter what is around you nothing really will stop you from doing so and you are shaking from the adreniline etc i think that is when lust gets you but what happend to me was that it?
 
You my friend are suffering from one of the effects of viewing pornography. It really is not much different in some ways then Post Combat Stress Disease. Something in your environment triggers the old memory and it all comes back. I am seventy two years old and if I choose can still recall the mental image of a center-fold from Playboy that I drooled over when I was 2 years old. How you handle such memories becomes important. Pray. Do something or think of something to break the thread of that old thought process. It is not a good thing to get obsessive about these memories as that will only make things worse. Love God, move on, and there is no sin. Be careful of what you put into that wonderful mind with which God has blessed you because stuff does “stick” and can pop back into ones consciousness at any time. 👍
 
dazzi said:
some troubles have come back to me from the past and i need some help.
I had looked at some porn maybe 2-3 weeks ago and after confession last week i swore i will not look at it again and still to today i still say i will not.
But today in Class some people were talking about some stupid things which i hate “Sexual” things and out of my memory i remembered the porn thing i viewed i did not want to remember and and i tried forgetiong it and about 15 sec later i had my mind on something else which is good, i did not want this thought to come it just came out of no where, but i never felt like masturbating or anything but i did get a feeling when you see a very pretty girl and you like just think about it type of thing but it stopped very quickly and i never had the urge to masturbate because i know what it feels like first you look at an image you feel attarceted and then if you keep viewing it you see the little details you liek about her and there is the urge to masturbate.
I just want to make sure i didnt fall into the sin of lust but i always thought lust is when you look at someone and later you get an urge and you really dont think of anything but masturbating no matter what is around you nothing really will stop you from doing so and you are shaking from the adreniline etc i think that is when lust gets you but what happend to me was that it?
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These images are literally seared into your brain and will unfortunately keep popping up. Jason Everett has some good advice on combatting this problem in his work. His website is pureloveclub.com and he has a number of video and book tools to help you. Also, go to trueknights.org for advice and support. I’ll pray for you.
 
The main weapons are prayer - as constant as you can make it - and reception of the sacrament of confession frequently (even if you only have venial sins, going every two weeks is probably a good iea) and Mass as often as you can go, preferably daily.
 
The most infamous serial killer…Ted Bundy was addicted to pornography.

This is a web that can have a person sink into different egregious forms of sin. The producer and director of all porn is Satan himself.
 
Old thread but I don’t feel like starting a new one, anyways I done a general confession a 2nd time and it took quite a bit of time and as usual I am once again unhappy as I have found a sin that I have skipped, I had about 20 pages or 17 to be precise of stuff to say and I scribbled on some of it to fix it up as I was running low on ink etc, the list sin I put down was that I blamed god for my sins and that I said and thought if god was real and that if he didnt want me to sin he would stop me… anyways I put this as the last thing because I wanted to simply use this as a summary for my whole confession and all my sins at the end BUT, there was an arrow pointing below it because I had put in another sin which I wanted to say before I said this final summary and I saw that skipped the sin that I was gona say last, said the last one on paper and I said another one Out of my head afterwards and I don’t know I simply didnt say it because I didnt have a slightest thought of it :S I remembered the sin 2 hours later at the gym which I just got home from and it sent a horrible anxious feeling through my body like the worst fear possible. I don’t trust myself enough to say that I didn’t lie but surely after I said so many things that were 150x worse and more embarasing I would never keep something like this away, yet I blame myself as I didnt read it out when I saw it but wanted to say it after the next sin which I didnt :S and I feel so confused as to how I managed to not say it or forget.
I confessed pretty much every mortal sin ever blasphemy and ever commandment I am not sure if this would come under one of those I really hope it does :S…

Thanks alot hopefully someone has some light on this :S…
 
dazzi said:
Old thread but I don’t feel like starting a new one, anyways I done a general confession a 2nd time and it took quite a bit of time and as usual I am once again unhappy as I have found a sin that I have skipped, I had about 20 pages or 17 to be precise of stuff to say and I scribbled on some of it to fix it up as I was running low on ink etc, the list sin I put down was that I blamed god for my sins and that I said and thought if god was real and that if he didnt want me to sin he would stop me… anyways I put this as the last thing because I wanted to simply use this as a summary for my whole confession and all my sins at the end BUT, there was an arrow pointing below it because I had put in another sin which I wanted to say before I said this final summary and I saw that skipped the sin that I was gona say last, said the last one on paper and I said another one Out of my head afterwards and I don’t know I simply didnt say it because I didnt have a slightest thought of it :S I remembered the sin 2 hours later at the gym which I just got home from and it sent a horrible anxious feeling through my body like the worst fear possible. I don’t trust myself enough to say that I didn’t lie but surely after I said so many things that were 150x worse and more embarasing I would never keep something like this away, yet I blame myself as I didnt read it out when I saw it but wanted to say it after the next sin which I didnt :S and I feel so confused as to how I managed to not say it or forget.
I confessed pretty much every mortal sin ever blasphemy and ever commandment I am not sure if this would come under one of those I really hope it does :S…

Thanks alot hopefully someone has some light on this :S…
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Since you didn’t remember the sin at the actual time of your confession, but only hours later, then rest assured that it is absolved regardless. You would have to have deliberately omitted it (in other words recalled the sin specifically while in the confessional AND deliberately chosen not to mention it) for your confession to be invalid.

God doesn’t expect us to have perfect recall, He simply expects us to confess all the serious sins that we DO remember whilst in the confessional, and to be sorry for the sin (remembered and unremembered) that we have committed in the past.

And to not want to sin any more, of course.

Sounds like you’re good to go. Just mention the forgotten sin next time you’re in confession. You don’t need to go back specially to confess it, and you ARE forgiven of it already, but it shows your sorrow if you do mention it next time.
 
But that is the thing, I did see it read it and then I skipped it as I wanted it to be the last thing I say as it went something along the lines of I blamed god for all the sins that I have mentioned however I am completely shocked how I managed not to say it only about 40 seconds later…
Would this sin fall underneath another catergory? just so I can have some relive knowing I confessed that category…

Thanks alot, really worried though 😦
 
johnstown_johnn said:
The most infamous serial killer…Ted Bundy was addicted to pornography.
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Whatever this statement is trying to accomplish is hilarious and ridiculous. I realize this person is banned, but my goodness, what nonsense.
dazzi said:
no matter what is around you nothing really will stop you from doing so and you are shaking from the adreniline
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:eek: As Marvin Gaye had sometimes said: “When I get this feeling, I need sexual healing.” 😉
 
I wish that was my problem these days hahah back in 2007… these days I can’t seem to say everything in confession when I try everything to do it… I just simply can’t understand how I didnt end up going back to that sin…
 
dazzi said:
But that is the thing, I did see it read it and then I skipped it as I wanted it to be the last thing I say as it went something along the lines of I blamed god for all the sins that I have mentioned however I am completely shocked how I managed not to say it only about 40 seconds later…
Would this sin fall underneath another catergory? just so I can have some relive knowing I confessed that category…

Thanks alot, really worried though 😦
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Why are you worried? The essential point, as I said earlier, is that you didn’t INTEND to omit that sin. On the contrary you actually had every intention of confessing it. You simply and genuinely forgot.

And yes, I can easily imagine being so nervous that you can forget something that quickly. A lot of people get nervous in the confessional. Not to mention that you had pages and pages of stuff to get out.

You’re fine, don’t lose any sleep over it. Just mention it next time.
 
I know I just don’t trust myself because I read it and then I knew that it was the last thing I had to say to summaries everything and then I didnt do it, now Im blaming myself because I feel as though Iam at fault for not saying it when I saw it rather than leaving it for the last thing -.-.
I did confess however that I said things against god and that I had bad thoughts regarding god, would you say that this sin of thinking that if god wanted it to be different he would change it, would come underneath any of these two?
Thanks alot.
 
Just looked at the paper I took into confession… I didnt mention I said bad things about anyone, I did mention I did say particular bad things but not in general but that was truly forgetting because I would have said that without a hitch, that worries me about this thing I skipped and forgot to mention at the end… unless of course that could fall under I disrespected God?

Thanks.
 
dazzi said:
Anyone :(?
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I can only repeat, you did not intend to omit (not confess) that particular sin. That being the case, there is no fault on your part. Stop worrying.

Remember, God is looking for every possible chance to forgive you. He wants to grant you His absolution and mercy so much more than you could possibly want to receive it. He’s certainly not looking for reasons to deny you forgiveness.

So you really would have to deliberately decide to conceal a sin for it to render the confession invalid. Conceal as in totally not mention at all, not just leave for last.
 
I don’t think I wanted to conceal it, I had the thought of saying it then but I thought I’ll say it last because I don’t want to worry that it didn’t include my 2nd last sin and I simply can’t think of any moment I thought of that sin afterwards, I was more worried about the last sin I said if I said it correctly… then when I went to the gym it came to me and I remembered I didn’t say it, I am still blaming myself for not saying it at that second but I can’t see why I would hide such a sin, it was not even a embarassing sin or anything, I mentioned things much much worse.

Is saying that If god didn’t want me to sin he wouldn’t let it happend and believe that a mortal sin? Looking at it I can think it might come under things like being lazy or sloth towards God, disrespecting God, committing Blasphemy against God, all things that I did mention…
 
Look, Hon, if you have this much anxiety about your confession, and you say it was your second general confession, that points to the possibility of a case of scruples. If that is the case, what you need is not answers from strangers on the net, but the advice of a good spiritual director or regular confessor. It is not normal to get this tangled up in worry about how and what you said. Find a priest you trust to guide you and obey him, no matter what he tells you. That’s the only way to peace.
 
Having a bit of an issue, if someone could please help me out. When I went to my general confession I stated I had bad friends, the priest told me to leave them. The fear that I am faced with is that I will have to repeat my general confession a 3rd time :(. I had a few ‘emo’ people who I talked to at high school, and I had them on my friends list on facebook, I had the thought of deleting them after the confession but I left it and I only done it yesterday, this is 4 weeks after my general confession and after 2 more confessions. What bothers me is that these people are a part of some satanic group or something like that, I don’t know if they are a big part of it or if they just do it casually, but I can tell you they dislike all religions except this utter rubbish (never understood why someone would worship the evil, seeing as they already believe why not be a part of the good side…but anyways), that is the main issue and the fact that I only deleted them off my facebook yesterday, 4 weeks later, 2 confession later, I however did not go anywhere with them, I did not really talk to them if I remember correctly after the confession, I had 2 or 3 of them comment and like my posts but they were comments on videogames and prior to that I did talk to one occasionally who I went to school with, but always about videogames, cars or photography, never about something evil, nor did he ever explicitly to me complain about me being a Catholic (if he knew) but I do have Catholic clearly stated as my religion and liked, and have also liked various pages such as WYD 2008, 2011 and the canonization of Pope John Paul II, I know he did state his worship to satan and that he had been to the satanic church on his wall, but he never talked about it explicitly to me.

The 2nd issue regarding this sin I have, is one of my friends, former after yesterday if it really is a sin, is he has taken a obviously bad path in life, would like to put it nicely but he really does simply bludge, never really put effort into anything but world of warcraft and now gambling where he wastes all his money. Anyways at the start of the year me him and a few went for lunch in the city, where in all honesty I felt attacked, I was questioned on whether I had slept with girls/women yet constantly, I was called ‘gay’ for having a pink puma logo on the back of my t-shirt and as always pushed to believe that I am once again ‘gay’ or a ‘sissy’ because I would not go attack some random top less try to be ‘cool’ male in the city… anyways this was in February, so 2 months before my confession, I done nothing with him until 2 weeks ago, or 2 weeks after my 2nd general confession. As a bit of background, he seems to believe that Christianity is to blame because we haven’t discovered everything, because apparently we are the cause of technology in the middle ages being bad, not to mention when I argued with him (all this was in high school back in 08-09) that everything has to start somewhere, which is what scientists have never and will never explain, his response was so where did God come from? to that I simply responded that it is what God means, he has always existed and that is unthinkable to some humans. However back to the recent situation, a girl, a so-so friend, was having a birthday party, I didn’t want to show up alone, so I asked some of my friends whether they were going, one said he wouldn’t because he had given up meat for lent and this was a German restaurant so there was obviously meat primarily, I also however asked this person who I am talking about, anyways I ended up driving him, on the way there nothing really offensive was said, we were just talking about stuff that had happend around us and had a good time at the party. On the way back he was in a bit of a hurry and I left 30min early, because as a gambler he was in a rush to get to a poker tournament 50 km away which I drove him to. As we drove past one of those Christian sects which in no way do I support, the building says “Jesus is the answer” , he responded by saying, that angers me or I would hurt or beat that person who put that up, up. I have no seen him since, I have blocked him on facebook, deleted his number.

However, I fear that I have invalidated my 2nd general confession, could someone please clear this up for me, I know this is a MASSIVE post, but I wanted to be specific, I am confused in what respect having a bad friend is sinful, is it only when you partake in their wrong doings? in all honesty I would never be attracted to a satanic church simply on the level of how depressed these people and thats just on the skin of it. The 2nd person I talked about, I would never become a gambler, nor would I ever become an atheist… which is what I think he is plus hes a very flawed arguer as I exemplified above. What should I do in this situation? is it sinful to actually be around these people? and if so what type of sin, venial? mortal ? the priest has told me to keep away from bad friends, however I never asked him to explain anything which I need to do next time, but my mother has also said that the 2nd example shows that I was a good person as I asked him if he needed a lift to get to the birthday dinner, even after he insulted me.

Thanks alot.
 
Is there anyone who can help me out please, really stressed about this at the moment.😦
 
Got the last one sorted out…

However as with all people who worry the worrying just moves on and now onto probably something more realistic…

I work in an office, as a casual data entry person while I am at uni. And I have to admit I was not doing the best job for most of the time, when I started I attempted to get to the target number of forms to check and was failing badly, and was told by a co worker that they dont care about the accuracy just the number of forms I do… so I pretty much did not check most things and no one seemed to care. I had my general confession on the 2nd of April when I confessed to the priest that I was not doing my work properly, which was a Saturday, so I must have had a thought which I can’t say for sure… that Its wrong to do… Monday came and I done the same thing again until the 12th of April… and then have to say luckily I got in trouble when they had found out… they gave me a warning and ever since I have been doing the forms correctly and not rushing etc… is this something I should speak to my priest about? I have a strong feeling that I have invalidated my VERY VERY long 2nd general confession I had in 2 weeks that I had. As a side note I did do my penance on the spot with the priest. Looking back at it I feel like this was very wrong of me to do, it started with trying to be better than the others and keeping my job as people were getting laid off in large numbers until the last 10 or 15 remained… I can do the job fine now properly matching the targets, but I dont know what to do in this situation. I fear that I am going to hell, and I am also fearing having to do a 3rd general confession in 3 weeks.
Also If i were to explain this to the priest in all its detail, and he were to say that another general confession is not needed ( I will be scared of not doing it, but I think I have been scrupulous lately) and I follow his advice and never do another general confession, will I go to hell if he ends up being wrong? that is all I pretty much want to know and if someone has any ideas for the above scenario but I have been told that its best to only get the priests advice in these situations?
 
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