Really Sad

[scoobydoo6v92]

I learned that my former employer died four years ago. I quit on her and she took me back. Then I gave her my two weeks notice Then she asked me to stay 4 times, She owned a horsefarm, She trained horses in Dressage. I begged her to teach me and she wouldn’t. I hated her and quit. She was a very honest and good person. She would go to France and bring me back gifts and such. I worked for her when I was a young teen. Anyway fast forward twenty years, stil lholding resentments and all that mess. I come to find out that she had died. Talked to her friend and employee who now has the facility and confirmed she had passed. Her friend told me how much she liked me and the reasons why she didn’t teach. Anyways I realised that I was the one that was wrong. and it has really hit me hard. How do I let go of the past. Does she know how sorry I am for being so wrong? This is more of an opinion than a theological question although if some of you that are theologians I welcome any answers. Thanks

 

[Victor2211]

Dear friend,
I’m very sorry for the loss of your friend. Just a suggestion, but why not ask the new owner of your friend’s facility where your friend is buried. Then you could go to your friend’s gravesite, talk to her, and pray. I have found comfort in praying at the gravesites of my father, brother and grandmother. Maybe it could bring you similar comfort. God bless you during this difficult time.

 

[Loving_disciple]

She can hear you in heaven just say your sorry talk with a priest if you want to. I am sure if you ask her she will pray for you to God even if you did bad things

 

[Evania]

Why not have a Mass said for her? That’s one of the greatest ways to help our deceased family and friends. Also, you can pray a rosary for her.

I’m very sorry for the loss of your friend.

God Bless you!

 

[klm120861]

I learned that my former employer died four years ago. I quit on her and she took me back. Then I gave her my two weeks notice Then she asked me to stay 4 times, She owned a horsefarm, She trained horses in Dressage. I begged her to teach me and she wouldn’t. I hated her and quit. She was a very honest and good person. She would go to France and bring me back gifts and such. I worked for her when I was a young teen. Anyway fast forward twenty years, stil lholding resentments and all that mess. I come to find out that she had died. Talked to her friend and employee who now has the facility and confirmed she had passed. Her friend told me how much she liked me and the reasons why she didn’t teach. Anyways I realised that I was the one that was wrong. and it has really hit me hard. How do I let go of the past. Does she know how sorry I am for being so wrong? This is more of an opinion than a theological question although if some of you that are theologians I welcome any answers. Thanks

Obtain a plenary indulgence for her. Even if she wasn’t Catholic, if she was Christian, she is either in heaven or purgatory. Obtaining a plenary indulgence for her soul in purgatory would work. It will also be freeing for you. Also, if you have carried resentments for years, I personally would take that to the confessional. But then I take most everything to the confessional.
Kris

 

[Lief_Erikson]

Yes, I’m sure she can hear you. If she is in Heaven, or in Purgatory, the Lord will surely illuminate for her exactly how you feel.

You actually have a BIG opportunity now to help her now, as she tried to help you. If you offer prayers for her soul to rise swiftly to Heaven, and especially if you obtain indulgenced prayers for her as well, you will rescue her from pain and help her to enter everlasting happiness.

If she is already in Heaven, your prayers will be used on behalf of others who are in need, probably those dear to your friend, and not one will be wasted.

They will be so, so grateful to you, if you turn this into an opportunity to show great mercy and generosity by praying for those who have died.

Here are some short indulgenced prayers:
keepingitcatholic.org/short.html

 

[Reuben_J]

I learned that my former employer died four years ago. I quit on her and she took me back. Then I gave her my two weeks notice Then she asked me to stay 4 times, She owned a horsefarm, She trained horses in Dressage. I begged her to teach me and she wouldn’t. I hated her and quit. She was a very honest and good person. She would go to France and bring me back gifts and such. I worked for her when I was a young teen. Anyway fast forward twenty years, stil lholding resentments and all that mess. I come to find out that she had died. Talked to her friend and employee who now has the facility and confirmed she had passed. Her friend told me how much she liked me and the reasons why she didn’t teach. Anyways I realised that I was the one that was wrong. and it has really hit me hard. How do I let go of the past. Does she know how sorry I am for being so wrong? This is more of an opinion than a theological question although if some of you that are theologians I welcome any answers. Thanks

Yes, there are things that we did that we regret. If we could turn back the clock, we may not do the same thing again. But do not feel too bad. Life moves on and the same for her too. You could offer a prayer for her though for the repose of her soul. You could also ask for forgiveness virtually from her in your prayer and pray to God that he may heal any wound as a result of your action.

 

[Chantal25]

God knows that you feel sorry and remorseful, she is with God, i know he already told her.

All the best!