Rebuilding trust in marriage

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I think there are two options to rebuilding trust:
The person who did the betraying acts more trustworthy.
The person who was betrayed trusts more.
In most cases, probably a combination of the two are needed.

This reminds me of a profound conversation in an otherwise throw-away movie, Don’t Tell Mom, the Baby-sitter’s Dead. An upper-teenage boy and girl are dating, but he is becoming frustrated because she is being secretive.
Their conversation goes something like this:

boy: Why won’t you tell me where you work?
girl: I just don’t want to, alright?
boy: Why won’t you tell me?
girl: Why are you so nosy?
boy: I wouldn’t be so nosy if you weren’t so secretive.
girl: Well, I would tell you more if you didn’t want to know so much.
 
Still working on it. I have to say it is a daily choice. Today’s one of the hard days, I think I would be better off alone but I have close to 30 years into this marriage and keep trying. I ask God for his grace to love my husband it is not always easy. His betrayal cut deep and we have spent much time in counsoling etc. I have to say that I don’t know if I will ever really trust him again, it was pretty easy for him to lie to me for years.
 
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