Rebuking on Facebook

[JackVk]

So, I have some Facebook friends, who, though they claim to be Catholic, have posted pro-gay marriage posts, or at least claiming “intolerance” and “judging”. I want to confront them, but I feel it would have little effect on Facebook. So I posted this as my status:

“I judge no one. I simply tell the truth out of love. Because those who do not love you will tell you what you want to hear. Those who do love you will tell you the Truth.”

Do you think this was a good way to show my disapproval?

 

[livingwordunity]

So, I have some Facebook friends, who, though they claim to be Catholic, have posted pro-gay marriage posts, or at least claiming “intolerance” and “judging”. I want to confront them, but I feel it would have little effect on Facebook. So I posted this as my status:

“I judge no one. I simply tell the truth out of love. Because those who do not love you will tell you what you want to hear. Those who do love you will tell you the Truth.”

Do you think this was a good way to show my disapproval?

I think it’s a good way to do it. If you say it directly, they will most likely do it even more just to spite you. That’s how people of the flesh are.

 

[Robertanthony]

So, I have some Facebook friends, who, though they claim to be Catholic, have posted pro-gay marriage posts, or at least claiming “intolerance” and “judging”. I want to confront them, but I feel it would have little effect on Facebook. So I posted this as my status:

“I judge no one. I simply tell the truth out of love. Because those who do not love you will tell you what you want to hear. Those who do love you will tell you the Truth.”

Do you think this was a good way to show my disapproval?

Yes, very much so. Trouble with our anything-goes, permissive, sin-no-longer-exists, relativist society is that disapproving of a behaviour that is socially accepted yet clearly sinful is equated with being judgmental. That’s like the worst insult anyone can throw at you. You’re not judging anyone by saying that their actions are sinful. That is being charitable, but our present world has got many things upside down, sadly. Fear of being labeled intolerant and political correctness is one of the Devil’s line of attacks against the Church these days. You’re a courageous young fellow.

 

[MTKM]

I have the same situation. I actually am surprised / disappointed by some former Catholic school classmates due to their pro gay marriage comments. They seem to be lost.

I like your status statement. I see nothing wrong with it. You are just promoting the Truth over lies.

 

[JackVk]

This includes my aunt, and I am friends with both her and my parents, who have seen her post. My mom got mad at me for posting “anti-gay” (in reality, pro-marriage) things on fb. My parents think it’s okay, and it’s clearly obvious they won’t change their opinion.

 

[KCT]

If the posts are on your wall, delete them. If the posts are on their walls, stop looking at their walls.

 

[JackVk]

If the posts are on your wall, delete them. If the posts are on their walls, stop looking at their walls.

They’re just on my news feed. Please pray for me, this is really frustrating and I fear it will lead to sins against charity.

 

[presidentjlh]

They’re just on my news feed. Please pray for me, this is really frustrating and I fear it will lead to sins against charity.

As someone who is involved in politics and often debates with those I disagree with, take this advice, as it will save you much in the way of pain and frustration: Take none of it personally. I do not believe these are bad people, misguided, perhaps, but not bad. Their intentions are good, although the ends do not justify the means, of course. One can still be friends with these people. Your original response was perfectly fine.

My personal opinion on the matter is that the state should get out of marriage in general. Marriage was never meant to be something that was a legal process. For the Catholic faith, it’s about the joining of a man and a woman together in union with God. The state should not recognize that marriage nor any other marriage, because that’s not the job of the state. Marriage should be up to the churches and such organizations. That will provided the proper balance between separation of church and state and the sanctity of marriage.

 

[TheWatcher]

As someone who is involved in politics and often debates with those I disagree with, take this advice, as it will save you much in the way of pain and frustration: Take none of it personally. I do not believe these are bad people, misguided, perhaps, but not bad. Their intentions are good, although the ends do not justify the means, of course. One can still be friends with these people. Your original response was perfectly fine.

My personal opinion on the matter is that the state should get out of marriage in general. Marriage was never meant to be something that was a legal process. For the Catholic faith, it’s about the joining of a man and a woman together in union with God. The state should not recognize that marriage nor any other marriage, because that’s not the job of the state. Marriage should be up to the churches and such organizations. That will provided the proper balance between separation of church and state and the sanctity of marriage.

I have a friend who supports the idea of civil unions where no one is legally married through the church. Everyone must marry in a courthouse to have legal benefits. Afterward, if you wish to marry within a church, you may do so.