Received communion from a girl wearing ripped tights

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Hi all,
I have lurked here a while and I know there is heated discussion on people like me needing to mind my own business and not care that the body, blood, soul and divinity of our Lord is handed to me by young ladies wearing revealing clothing.

Sorry if I upset you, trust me I TRY really hard not to let it distract me but as a momma, I get upset. Also as a mom I wish my teen girl were up there even if she didn’t know better as far as dress. The Mass I attend is at a college campus and this occurs daily.

All that aside (please) , I am ignorant and I ask forgiveness for any rudeness this may sound like but…Is this ok? I love the TLM but it’s too far and my only choice is to attend the Novus Ordo and every single day I receive from miniskirts, tight short dresses, tights and now ripped tights.

Am I crazy, for those who tell me to mind my business ok I will try but if anyone has another kind of insight to share…it’s like night and day the reverence they show our Lord in the TLM and tight minidresses. I know this is a public forum and some folks will be hurtful perhaps but I am taking that risk because I’m confused as to how this is ok. I’m not that bright I really don’t understand I’m not trying to be rude.
Someone told me to just go on the line with the priest (please don’t get offended, I don’t even know why i’m writing this in parenthesis, this is what the world has come to i guess)
Anyway, I appreciate very much your thoughts.
God bless
(oh boy, I don’t know why i feel someone is going to say “Just ignore them and focus on Christ it’s not your concern what they’re wearing”. My response is yes, you are right, thank you, but I’m hoping someone else can sort of understand what advice I might help me the most.
Thank you
 
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It’s probable that it will not be in your power to make a change so the best option would be to ignore and go find a place where it doesn’t happen if it’s possible where you live.
 
Can’t drive it’s two hours away. Most people would consider almost sheer tights with holes a bit inappropriate as a Eucharistic minister but as suspected someone calls me judgemental. You sound like your judging me on an honest question. I can handle it , and I have , it’s not about me handling it so poorly that I have to drive two hours and yes I have been working on it through prayers and I am already thankful for being in a country where we can receive communion and have prayed this thanks as well. So you’re telling me to “be thankful “ as if you’re judging me to be thankless.
 
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You aren’t crazy, Mama Bear. unfortunately a lot of the young women even in my Parish lack modesty. I don’t know if it’s just them or that they were never told to dress modestly by their parents. If I were you I would try to find like-minded people and then bring it up with your pastor. Let him know that the immodesty of some of the parishioners is upsetting people. Help your pastor understand that the virtue of modesty is something that should be encouraged.

Link embedded is a good sermon on modesty and how One Pastor decided to enforce dress codes in his Parrish.


Immodest clothing could drive a lot of young men to lust. That’s actually one of the reasons why Saint Paul suggested that women wear veils in church. It’s the help men not be distracted by a woman’s beautiful hair.
 
Theresa1 said:
The Mass I attend is at a college campus and this occurs daily.
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People usually attend daily Mass in the clothes they wear the rest of the day. That may mean they show up in uniform, a business suit, or…at a college campus…in the clothes they wear to class.

Perhaps it will make you feel better to realize that at least this youn woman attends Mass and is involved in parish life enough to volunteer for a ministry. Many people fall away from the Church when they experience the freedom on college; this young woman is there. She’ll grow up and her clothing choices will change.

Pray for her.
 
Talk about it with the pastor. I don’t always like what people wear to Liturgy but I don’t get wrapped up in it emotionally. We can’t always change people, but we can change and control our reactions. That’s what you might have to do.
 
Can’t drive that far for health reasons. I already accept they won’t change their attire, I don’t think your responses speak to what is helpful for me, perhaps I worded my question wrong so I’ll stop responding to you since I sense there is a gap, but thanks for replying.
 
You are absolutely correct that the attire you describe is inappropriate, even for Mass let alone to distribute communion. That said, this is sadly just the reality of today’s Church. Especially on a college campus, I don’t see what you can do about it. Is there no other church nearby that you end up attending on a college campus?

My advice would be to find another parish, even if not TLM, but at least a regular neighborhood parish. If this is not possible, you could try talking to the pastor, but I wouldn’t get my hopes up that anything will change.
 
I’m sorry too if I seem all over the place, on the one hand I wish it were my daughter up there even if she didn’t know better as far as dress. I have prayed regarding this, for the young women as well as for my emotion. Still, receiving the Lord from them, God forgive me, I feel she shouldn’t be allowed to serve, I feel she should be taught wisdom in that regard and it’s ok to teach our young women better. I accept that I can’t change their hearts but it’s hard to accept that it’s “ok” for them to be allowed to be so casual.
 
Thanks so much, I appreciate your response very much. I need Mass as often as I can and it’s terrible that every day has to be a battle with my annoyance at this accepted practice of allowing super revealing outfits on a daily basis “just because” it’s a college.
 
another thing that came to me is many of the saints like Padre Pio had the same concerns, current and past Popes mentioned this and why am I the judgmental one? Are they judgemenal too. I ask sincerely.
 
I’m presuming you mean ripped tights and nothing else on bottom (ie not covered by something more modest like a skirt or long shorts)? And that they are deliberately ripped, not possibly-had-an-accident-5 minutes-ago-and-no-time-to-change ripped?
 
It has been documented that some people are attracted to veils in a lustful way. I can’t link to the site that documents this phenomena without violating CAF regulation.
 
Yes, these jeans are ripped as in fashion. The tights also ripped as in fashion, the tights are also not very opaque which is baffling to me, one of the dresses was so short so was a bit startled. these young women stand in front of the priests. And I feel weird like I’m the bad guy for not being neutral. For not accepting well enough. For speaking against it. (i’m not directing this at you…just thinking out loud) And not even long shirts to cover.
 
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People will have varying fetishes that appear odd to many, this would be a separate issue though. Thanks for responding
 
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It has been documented that some people are attracted to veils in a lustful way. I can’t link to the site that documents this phenomena without violating CAF regulation.
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I asked one young women what draws her to wear a veil to Mass. I kid you not, her response was, “I feel pretty in it.”
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every day has to be a battle with my annoyance at this accepted practice of allowing super revealing outfits on a daily basis “just because” it’s a college.
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First, think of it as something cultural. A college campus has a culture to it. Culture is what allows and enables some African women to attend Mass with their midriffs exposed. Culture dictates that in one time and place, Paul asked women to cover their heads during worship . . . and that over 2000 years later, that’s simply not a Church requirement.

Second, remember the phrase custody of the eyes, are in your eyes. Keep your perspective in check. You’re not at Mass to observe a fashion show, and you shouldn’t give young people oblivious to your annoyance so much power over you. You’re there for the Eucharist. Make sure you’re in good standing before you receive it by wishing the peace to the scantily clad . . . and meaning it.

Finally, if you really wish to make a political statement, follow the commandment to clothe the naked and bring some long, Amish skirts to donate to the students. Kidding. Don’t do that. 🙃
 
Well, thanks everyone for responding, I’m going to sleep now. I trust God will help me in this matter, He’s always faithful. Although I think these women are dressed wrongly for the occasion I know God can use them to draw others to Him, and one day I pray they will live to not offend Him in any way. And I pray I don’t offend God in any way just because my sins are different. It’s time for a night snack and one more check to see if anyone has insulted me and then it’s off to bed. Thank you so much everyone
 
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