Received communion from a girl wearing ripped tights

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ha! very good except the culture shouldn’t lead when it conflicts with the dignity of an occasion and /or of a human being I think anyway.
 
A dress code for a young woman or man who is a Eucharistic minister seems appropriate. Also, this seems like an appropriate discussion to have with a priest.

Perhaps limit the discussion just to that. I wouldn’t recommend telling the priest to enforce a dress code on every student. If this were suggested he’d likely get upset.

If it is any consolation, the vast majority of men will not likely notice the ripped jeans or tights of the woman giving communion.
 
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What if her tights tore on the way to mass? Should she have gone home? Hemlines rise and fall. My niece who is 6’3" has a hard time finding skirts that hit the knee. Skirts that are 4" above her knees still are modest considering how far her hem is from her groin area. To me, the fact that they are there is a great start.
 
thank you. Some thoughts you don’t share because you think people will attack the mess out of you but in the Catholic catalogue they had this gorgeous lady with full makeup modeling a beautiful long laced head covering! modesty should be in apparel yes but also in intent. She didn’t look modest to me, and i hate to say it but it looked like the veil was a prop to sensuality because of all the makeup.
 
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yes it’s a great start but it just looked like she climbed barbed wire to get there. It wasn’t a small tear.
 
Can you sit where you can receive from the priest? I rarely if ever receive from EMHCs. At the Parishes I go to the priests generally stand on the same side every Mass so I sit near the front on that side.
 
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You could email the priest and talk to him about this. It’s definitely reasonable to expect the Eucharistic ministers to dress modestly and respectful. They are handling the body of Christ after all.
 
Thank you. I did mention it to the Director of Ministry last year and unfortunately nothing has changed.
 
Why so judgy? They may be tights that have a pattern to them and she may think she looks great. Why not ask in prayer to see Christ in her. If you got to know her well you could compliment her profusely on her outfit when she does not wear those tights. You would have a hear attack if you attended the church I went to where there was a biker ministry. Lots of former biker gang members who found Christ. So the women have tons of tattoos from their former life. Etc. They now minister to other women. If you are horrified by ripped tights, you would not get to know some other sisters in Christ due to the fashion police barrier
 
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Thank you. I did mention it to the Director of Ministry last year and unfortunately nothing has changed.
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If that’s the case, they probably won’t change. They’re probably among the 70% of Catholics who don’t believe the Eucharist is the body and blood of Jesus. It’s issues like this and many others that drove me to the Latin Mass.
 
It’s about that in context and connection of being a Eucharistic minister.
 
As someone who has very often attended Holy Mass on college campuses (being that I was in college not too long ago), this is a complaint I share.

I am not a particular stickler when it comes to what people wear since I understand that folks come from all sorts of different backgrounds and personal situations. A Protestant friend of mine once mentioned to me that he often didn’t feel welcome at his community’s services on account of how people would judge based on so many trivial things, clothing included. He is a farmer, with the wardrobe to match, so I can see how he might look out of place, especially among some Protestant communities. My standards are even lower during the week, since I don’t (for the most part) expect people to change their outfit specifically for Mass (although I think such an effort would certainly indicate a high degree of piety).

But I do draw the line somewhere. Even if what my fellow students wear to Mass doesn’t tempt me, I am still distracted by gym shorts and bare midriffs (it has happened).

The immediate solutions to this problem seem fairly clear:
  1. Leave the distribution of the Blessed Sacrament to the ordinary ministers—that is, the clergy.
  2. If you must have extraordinary ministers, train them properly and enforce a dress code. Dressed inappropriately? Then we’ll have to do without you.
  3. Post a message in the bulletin. My parish’s bulletin has the same message about clothing/etiquette every week.
Obviously, this problem also reflects on our culture, and changing that will take a lot more time and effort. But the above should at the very least improve things at Mass.

This topic has been discussed a billion times on and off the internet. There was a ruckus on Twitter this past June about a priest having the audacity to tell women to cover their shoulders in church. Still, I think it’s important to talk about, considering the Mass is the apex of the Catholic faith.
 
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Over the summer, I was at a Latin Mass and a woman sitting near me had kind of a low cut tank top on. During communion, she knelt at the communion rail and when the priest went to give her communion, he declined to do it because she was dressed so immodestly. This is the kind of respect for the Eucharist we need.
 
Here’s the game plan folks, it works perfectly with how it’s always been in Catholicism: Only the clergy should distribute the Body and Blood of Our Lord. I don’t mean to diss any extraordinary ministers out there but I think we should all just take this whole thing in perspective, looking at the universal practice of the Church since the beginning and the horrible abuses in the Church today, and then recognize what is proper and fitting in regards to the Holy Eucharist and the Mass itself. . . . I just want everyone to recognize the truth, goodness, and beauty of the faith and then work together to preserve and defend this rich trust that is our faith.
 
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We have a large parish and if only the two priests could give out Communion, not only would they both have to attend all 5 masses on the weekends), mass would be an extra half hour to an hour long just to get through everyone. For the size of our parish, we should have 3 priests, multiple deacons, etc and we do not.
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Anyway, in do not think the answer is posting a dress code…it’s taking young women under your wing in a supportive way. Heck i see boys in sports t-shirts and we could not do that as kids but i say to myself "but they are happy to be here. " They could be home kicking and screaming about a tie so they can’t come or we can have them joyfully attend in their neat and clean t-shirt
 
Yes, you make a good point, we do need to be supportive to people who perhaps do not understand the true practices of the faith and their importance. However, I don’t see why we need to stop there. If we believe that the Holy Eucharist is the Body, Blood, Soul, and Divinity of Our Lord Jesus Christ and that the Mass is the representation of His sacrifice on Calvary, then we need to act and dress appropriately, like we would for a King. I mean, that’s what the Mass is: Worshiping our King and God.
 
Lex orandi Lex credendi Lex vivendi

How you pray is how you believe is how you live.
When you start treating the body of Our Lord as a piece of bread people will start treating it as a piece of bread and believe that is only bread.

but when you treated it as the real presence of our Lord you get on your knees as an act of humility before God.

 
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