Receiving Communion While Still Living With Partner Who is Leaving

[JoshG]

My partner and I were in a relationship for five years, never married. We have a beautiful three year old daughter together. Unfortunately, my partner is completely done with the relationship and sees no future for our family.

While devistating and crushing it will finally allow me to receive the eucharist again. Right now she is actively searching for a new apartment and will be moving out in several weeks most likely. She is completely done with the relationship, we have not been sexually active in months, but we still live together. Would I be able to start receiving the Eucharist while we are still living together?

Thanks!

 

[JoshG]

Oh I have indeed! I’m just questioning now whether or not I should wait until she moves out. I’m really struggling with the situation. I trust in God that if I’m obedient he will see us through this and provide abudantly for us, I’m just not clear on church teaching on our current situation. We have been living as roommates essentially for months .

 

[1ke]

Would I be able to start receiving the Eucharist while we are still living together?

That is something to discuss with your pastor in confession as you reconcile past sins and move forward.

But there isn’t any sin in simply living in the same house with her as she makes arrangements to live elsewhere.

 

[goout]

How is your daughter handling all of this? She is the one who will bear the brunt of the fallout. If there is anything you can do to save the relationship, I pray that it happens.
For the Eucharist, go to confession, trust your priest.

 

[JoshG]

She definitely knows something is up. A couple of weeks ago during bedtime prayer she sat there quitely listening with her hands folded as I went through our prayer routine. I said, “honey , do you want to pray”, she said, very seriously, with a concerned look, “Jesus, I want my mommy and my daddy”. Yeah.

We all know the overwhelming potential negatives of a split home on children and it absolutely crushes me my partner is ok with that because she is currently unhappy. Crushes me. I love her very much and yes, this relationship could absolutely be saved and moved into true, authentic love pleasing to God in marriage. There is absolutely nothing irreconcilable between us. But she doesn’t want it.

I’ll never stop praying and asking God to bring us back , if it is his will, I will never give up, but man, it’s really hard to put one foot forward right now.

 

[Hereiam]

That is something to discuss with your pastor in confession

Discuss it in counseling before confession…the confessional is not the appropriate place for counseling.

 

[goout]

That is true and at the same time I’ve received life changing advice from priests in the confessional.

 

[babochka]

1ke:

That is something to discuss with your pastor in confession

Discuss it in counseling before confession…the confessional is not the appropriate place for counseling.

This is not counseling. It is spiritual guidance directly related to the confession and how to move forward. Such spiritual advice is entirely appropriate in confession.

 

[Gorgias]

Hereiam:

Discuss it in counseling before confession…the confessional is not the appropriate place for counseling.

This is not counseling. It is spiritual guidance directly related to the confession and how to move forward. Such spiritual advice is entirely appropriate in confession.

This!

And, of course, if your pastor wants to continue the discussion, at greater length, outside the confessional, then he’ll tell you so.

 

[babochka]

babochka:

Hereiam:

Discuss it in counseling before confession…the confessional is not the appropriate place for counseling.

This is not counseling. It is spiritual guidance directly related to the confession and how to move forward. Such spiritual advice is entirely appropriate in confession.

This!

And, of course, if your pastor wants to continue the discussion, at greater length, outside the confessional, then he’ll tell you so.

Yes! We need to start letting priests decide what is and isn’t appropriate in confession and how long confession ought to take, rather than scaring people off with the idea that they might do something inappropriate. Let the priest set the boundaries.

 

[1ke]

Discuss it in counseling before confession…the confessional is not the appropriate place for counseling

It is the appropriate place to ask if he may receive communion when he is confessing these sins. When I suggested confession, the OP had not specified he had already been to confession. My suggestion was to go to confession for the past living arrangement and then to ask about communion.

 

[TheOldColonel]

Yes, go to Confession. Let the priest know everything. He will guide you back to Communion. Hopefully, the Sacramental life of the Church will be a comfort to you as you grieve the loss of the relationship.