Receiving this weekend?

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Some advice please guys? I missed a holy day of obligation in the uk (nov 1st) due to me moving house and no later Masses that day. There was a vigil mass the night before but I had taken my dad to speech therapy and it was Halloween and getting dark, going to mass would have meant me going emotionally drained on the bus and back through a dodgy neighbourhood. Do I need to confess do you think before I take mass in my new parish ?
 
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I’m overwhelmed by it all honestly. Became a New Catholic as of this April. My Mother died last month. My dad has dementia and he’s being awful to me and quite dependant on me . I don’t drive right now and I live in a town that’s not great when you’re relying on public transport at night. But still I could have gone, even though I was moving house . Sometimes I wish I’d just stayed as a Methodist when I thought and was convinced I was saved
 
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I know we like to receive as much as possible but if you’re not sure you’re in a state of grace it’s probably better to wait until you can confess. Confess as soon as you can. I’ve been in the situation more than I care to admit where I attended Mass but could not receive.
 
halogirl said:
Some advice please guys? I missed a holy day of obligation in the uk (nov 1st) due to me moving house and no later Masses that day. There was a vigil mass the night before but I had taken my dad to speech therapy and it was Halloween and getting dark, going to mass would have meant me going emotionally drained on the bus and back through a dodgy neighbourhood. Do I need to confess do you think before I take mass in my new parish ?
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I would highly suggest that you go to confession before receiving communion again. It’s just better to be safe than sorry. 🙂

God bless
 
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on_the_hill said:
You didn’t sin, in my opinion as a layperson.
Seems like those are all reasonable reasons.
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I’m sorry, but you should not tell the OP this. We are only required to receive communion once a year (at Easter Time). Now, while it’s very important for us to receive as must as possible, it’s OK to refrain from communion for a week (or more) until we get to confession.

I have missed Sunday mass before due to a situation similar to the OP’s post regarding All Saint’s Day. The priest was glad that I confessed, because my reasons were not an “excused absence.”

It’s ALWAYS better to be safe than sorry… when unsure, refrain from communion and get to confession.

God bless.
 
halogirl said:
I’m overwhelmed by it all honestly. Became a New Catholic as of this April. My Mother died last month. My dad has dementia and he’s being awful to me and quite dependant on me . I don’t drive right now and I live in a town that’s not great when you’re relying on public transport at night. But still I could have gone, even though I was moving house . Sometimes I wish I’d just stayed as a Methodist when I thought and was convinced I was saved
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Talk to your priest about it. Based on what you are saying here, your situation might be borderline.

But I still say, better to be safe than sorry.

Plus, confession, in many ways is the best sacrament there is! God Bless
 
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Lee1 said:
That’s a shame, but it’s a mortal sin to miss a day of obligation unless you have a dispensation and that’s not easy to get.
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  1. It’s not a mortal sin if beyond your control or unreasonable to get to Mass.
  2. Dispensations are not difficult to get.
 
@Zach gave the best advice. Ultimately, follow your conscience. If you felt you could reasonably have made it to Mass (and it does seem to me you’re being hard on yourself considering the circumstances), then refrain from Communion - but still attend Mass as obliged. If you don’t feel it would have been reasonable, go in God’s peace.
 
halo girl, just go to confession when you can. You are a new Catholic and its going to take a while for you to get into the rhythm of it. In my country this is not a HDO obligation anymore. The feast is transferred to Sunday.

Don’t sweat the small stuff so to speak. You are not expected to jump on dodgy night public transport to attend mass, nor are you expected to abandon the person you are a care giver for, to go to mass.

Please speak to your priest, he will understand, as does God.
 
This is so sad to hear. God is not a monster! I know it has already been corrected. but a pp was quite wrong to say that it was a mortal sin to miss Mass without a dispensation. The Church allows for commonsense reasons to miss Mass - looking after infants or sick members of the family, being ill oneself or likely to infect others, dangerous to travel because of bad weather to name some.

I have to say I don’t feel comfortable with the ‘better safe than sorry’ approach to confession either,

However, to save you worrying over it, why not get early to Mass and ask the priest for a quick confession? If he was involved in receiving you into the church, he will know you and be extra helpful. Tell him when you ask that you will be very quick.
 
So that my post doesn’t mislead anyone ever again I’ve deleted it for everyone.
God bless.
 
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I tried once to get a dispensation and couldn’t get one. That’s my experience but I’m not prepared to go into details.
 
paperwight said:
This is so sad to hear. God is not a monster! I know it has already been corrected. but a pp was quite wrong to say that it was a mortal sin to miss Mass without a dispensation. The Church allows for commonsense reasons to miss Mass - looking after infants or sick members of the family, being ill oneself or likely to infect others, dangerous to travel because of bad weather to name some.
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It may have been possible to organize the move around Mass or on a different day.
 
Cecilia_Dympna said:
And it may not have been. Particularly given the difficult situation that she is currently in.
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I did say may. I don’t know the details but I think this is a situation where I would request a dispensation if I was aware before the Holy Day and I would go to Confession in the OPs current situation.
 
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