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my secretarie’s daughter got baptised in the catholic church with her mother(my secertery and i was the god father with my wife) 3 years ago,the daughter never practised her faith, she got baptised because her mother kind of pushed her or forced her to get baptised. the daughter is getting married to a non practising catholic outside the church.would it be wrong for me to go to the reception?also the mother never lived the christian live the way she should be, she was not a very good example.

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It sounds like I could be your secretary, Louie12.

I was not raised with faith in the forefront. I was baptized as an infant in a Christian-Apostolic Church because that is where my Grandmother attended. Now that I am older, I see the importance of faith and am now doing what I need to do to become a Catholic but my daughter does not to become a Catholic…she loves the Lord but is not sure becoming a church member is right for her at this time…HOWEVER I know the importance of her being baptized. She has agreed to do what needs to be done to become baptized by a Catholic Priest…and has no reservations about taking this important step.

It is no one’s place to judge your secretary, her past, her upbringing and lack of faith in the past. It sounds like she has seen a lack of something in her own life, and is trying to help her daughter avoid this pitfall. Perhaps the man the daughter is marrying will convert eventually…and I, for one, would not want his first impression of a good Catholic to be the inability to offer friendship and support during a very big moment in her daughters life. If anything, by you being there, it may make them more drawn to the Church because of your benevolency. Perhaps?

I would go. It doesn’t diminish your faith to go. “The lighting of another candle does not diminsh the flame of the first”.
 
sorry, i was not very clear in my question, the mother is my secretary, i was her god father when she came into the church,she practiced her faith for a little while and now she is living with somebody, that is why i said she was a bad example for her daughter, who wants to get married outside the church(they went to the priest first but for whatever reason they did not like the priest and decided to get married outside the church without dispensation).
 
I do not think it would be appropriate to go to the reception if you are not supportive of the wedding. This would be taken as consent and you would not be helping anyone by supporting a marriage that may not be valid (I don’t know all the details so I am not sure of the validity). I think a good example for situations such as this is given by St. Thomas More who would not go to the wedding or reception of Henry VIII.
 
UndertheRadar said:
I do not think it would be appropriate to go to the reception if you are not supportive of the wedding. This would be taken as consent and you would not be helping anyone by supporting a marriage that may not be valid (I don’t know all the details so I am not sure of the validity). I think a good example for situations such as this is given by St. Thomas More who would not go to the wedding or reception of Henry VIII.
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Why would the wedding not be valid?
 
I suppose I am just confused because the only weddings I know to not be valid are where the person performing it is not ordained, the marriage license was not filed or one of the person’s was married someone else already. I am in the process of becoming a Catholic, so I was curious as to your thoughts on what you meant by that.
 
dianaballein said:
I suppose I am just confused because the only weddings I know to not be valid are where the person performing it is not ordained, the marriage license was not filed or one of the person’s was married someone else already. I am in the process of becoming a Catholic, so I was curious as to your thoughts on what you meant by that.
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A Catholic must marry in a Catholic Church or receive dispensation from the local Bishop in order for a marriage to be valid in the Church. To not marry validly is grave matter and would keep one in the state of mortal sin and not be able to receive the Eucharist.

A Catholic who attends a wedding of a Catholic that he knows is invalid is also committing a sin because he then partcipates in scandal, basically offering support of an invalid union with his/her presence.
 
Oh ok, I understand now. Thank you for telling me what is what! 🙂
 
dianaballein said:
I suppose I am just confused because the only weddings I know to not be valid are where the person performing it is not ordained, the marriage license was not filed or one of the person’s was married someone else already. I am in the process of becoming a Catholic, so I was curious as to your thoughts on what you meant by that.
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I apologize for not clarifying what my intention in that post was. But it looks as though someone has taken care of that already! 😃
 
That is one thing I am learning about this group. There is no shortage of educators!!! Thanks anyway. 😃
 
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