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My boyfriend is a cradle Catholic and I am a Catechumen in RCIA. Religion was never a big thing in my life before I turned 18, so I sinned many times without a second thought, including pre-marital sex. And he has always lived religiously aside from his history of problems with various sexual habits.
I read a book (Delivered by Matt Fradd) out of curiosity for more religious exploration, and it brought up some great talking points with us. I knew he struggled with his sinning and he feels too guilty to even go to church sometimes, so I began asking him questions about it and discussing how abstinence could affect relationships with someone like him. And it wasn’t too deep of a discussion, but I know we both started thinking about it.
After the mass for the Immaculate Conception where he was my sponsor for the rite of welcome, he was talking to me about his true feelings of shame and guilt for his sinning. I think going through that made him want to open up. And it was great because we were having an honest conversation and he told me he wants to be better and he said it was because of something I told him. I asked if he was going to stop having sex until marriage, and he said that’s part of it. And that made me really excited because it will be a great thing to help each other with and I loved seeing that what I said really affected him. Thereafter, we both made the decision to stop having sex until marriage and I’m pretty certain we will be marrying each other, so I am sure it will be interesting.
I’m sorry for the extensive backstory. So…
Main question: I heard of people going through something where they can reclaim their virginity, obviously not physically, but I guess in a spiritual way? I was wondering how people go about that? I brought it up to my boyfriend and he was so surprised. he had never heard of it before. I have heard about it a little, but I never considered it until I decided to become Catholic. Has anyone done this or know about it?
Additionally, has anyone gone through this in they’re own relationship? How has it affected you? I feel like it is going to encourage new types of intimacy, but I also worry it may cause distance from him.
Thank you!
I read a book (Delivered by Matt Fradd) out of curiosity for more religious exploration, and it brought up some great talking points with us. I knew he struggled with his sinning and he feels too guilty to even go to church sometimes, so I began asking him questions about it and discussing how abstinence could affect relationships with someone like him. And it wasn’t too deep of a discussion, but I know we both started thinking about it.
After the mass for the Immaculate Conception where he was my sponsor for the rite of welcome, he was talking to me about his true feelings of shame and guilt for his sinning. I think going through that made him want to open up. And it was great because we were having an honest conversation and he told me he wants to be better and he said it was because of something I told him. I asked if he was going to stop having sex until marriage, and he said that’s part of it. And that made me really excited because it will be a great thing to help each other with and I loved seeing that what I said really affected him. Thereafter, we both made the decision to stop having sex until marriage and I’m pretty certain we will be marrying each other, so I am sure it will be interesting.
I’m sorry for the extensive backstory. So…
Main question: I heard of people going through something where they can reclaim their virginity, obviously not physically, but I guess in a spiritual way? I was wondering how people go about that? I brought it up to my boyfriend and he was so surprised. he had never heard of it before. I have heard about it a little, but I never considered it until I decided to become Catholic. Has anyone done this or know about it?
Additionally, has anyone gone through this in they’re own relationship? How has it affected you? I feel like it is going to encourage new types of intimacy, but I also worry it may cause distance from him.
Thank you!
