Reconciliation: Refusing to cooperate

[Lochias]

Yep he’s a sweetie, but it IS his own sister and, naturally, that kinda bothers him too. I really wish this could be fixed.

And yes, it has crossed my mind that I’m the one he has to live with. Poor fella…

The priest that acts as my main confessor once told me “God’s strength becomes apparent in our weakness.” I think ya’ll have done everything you can, personally speaking. All you can do now is pray about the issue, and do your best to let go of it. Nothing is hidden from God’s sight, after all. Bless ya’ll.

And, hey, that’s what marriage is all about. We don’t have to exclude anyone or remove family from our lives, but it’s Team Husband n’ Wife now, yeah? Ya’ll are there primarily for each other now, and I think he’s doing exactly what he needs to do.

I realize you likely know all of this, but sometimes it doesn’t hurt to hear it parroted, eh?

 

[Little_Mary]

The priest that acts as my main confessor once told me “God’s strength becomes apparent in our weakness.” I think ya’ll have done everything you can, personally speaking. All you can do now is pray about the issue, and do your best to let go of it. Nothing is hidden from God’s sight, after all. Bless ya’ll.

And, hey, that’s what marriage is all about. We don’t have to exclude anyone or remove family from our lives, but it’s Team Husband n’ Wife now, yeah? Ya’ll are there primarily for each other now, and I think he’s doing exactly what he needs to do.

I realize you likely know all of this, but sometimes it doesn’t hurt to hear it parroted, eh?

Thanks, Lochias, it’s good to hear it parroted, for sure. It’s times like this you need to be reminded of things and hear them out loud, or in this case, read them.

Love that quote. I’m going to remember that. It is so true.

Thanks again!

 

[Lochias]

Thanks, Lochias, it’s good to hear it parroted, for sure. It’s times like this you need to be reminded of things and hear them out loud, or in this case, read them.

Love that quote. I’m going to remember that. It is so true.

Thanks again!

My great pleasure.

 

[cmscms]

I’m interested in a reconciliation, but not in exchange for my own self respect and dignity. I guess I’m just tryint to figure out if that is self centerd if me or not.

No it is NOT self centered tp want respect

I guess if I truly believe in my faith, I need to drop this, in the name of God and in the name of forgiveness and humility.

But why don’t they have to?

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Because SIL does not care to lead a Catholic lifestyle

 

[Lady_Love]

I had a similar situation in my life where someone very dear to my heart, I mean VERY dear refused to reconcile with me. I begged and humbled myself over and over again. I always extended a hand but in the end I had to just accept the reality of the relationship. It caused me bitter grief and agony. I felt so rejected. The only thing I can do now is offer the ache in my heart and all my pain in union with Jesus who is so often rejected and refused reconciliation. Through this experience I learned how much Jesus loves us, how much he hurts at our separation, how much of an agony it is.

It has been three years and not a day passes without thinking of this person and feeling the pain in my heart. I offer it to my Jesus for that person’s soul and mine and anyone else who needs it. This is my cross that I have to pick up daily.

 

[Little_Mary]

I had a similar situation in my life where someone very dear to my heart, I mean VERY dear refused to reconcile with me. I begged and humbled myself over and over again. I always extended a hand but in the end I had to just accept the reality of the relationship. It caused me bitter grief and agony. I felt so rejected. The only thing I can do now is offer the ache in my heart and all my pain in union with Jesus who is so often rejected and refused reconciliation. Through this experience I learned how much Jesus loves us, how much he hurts at our separation, how much of an agony it is.

It has been three years and not a day passes without thinking of this person and feeling the pain in my heart. I offer it to my Jesus for that person’s soul and mine and anyone else who needs it. This is my cross that I have to pick up daily.

Then you know how I feel/felt. I’m not sure I feel that way anymore. A calloused anger has settled in and I just live with it. I do pray for them because I think I should, but I really don’t give a **** about it or the situation anymore. THAT is what bugs me. This thing has changed me into a more callous, harder individual. I think I liked myself better before.

 

[Little_Mary]

No it is NOT self centered tp want respect

Because SIL does not care to lead a Catholic lifestyle

BINGO!!!