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mholoth
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I am almost frantic.
I was raised in an independent, fundamentalist religion and was taught many false things about Catholicism. The one blessing from this was that I was armed with the Word (well, all but 7 books) and I questioned these teachings as an adult.
I dated a Catholic, and in my understanding I really thought that he was doomed to hell for his beliefs. He attended church with my family and he was ‘saved’. We were married in a civil ceremony.
As we had children I questioned our beliefs even more - if we are wrong we are now taking young souls with us.
We church hopped for years before becoming Lutheran. I was baptized in the fundamentalist church at a young age (several times), confirmed Lutheran as an adult. Both our daughters were Baptized and Confirmed in the Lutheran Church. My husband attended but refused to be confirmed there as he was already confirmed in the Catholic Church. (probably the only right thing)
The more I read and learn, I am scared to death. I have been so very wrong.
We are in an invalid marriage (civil ceremony and both of us had been baptized).
I encouraged (along with my doctors) my hubby to have a vasectomy after a miscarriage and then our 2nd daughters birth 15 years ago where there were serious complications and we were told “if” I made it to term with another pregnancy I was risking my life.
Not only have I done wrong, I have encouraged my husband to commit mortal sins. The worst is he did it for me, to protect me and my health/life.
I am angry at myself, the church I grew up in (where my parents have us on the ‘backslidden’ list on their prayer list), even my husband a little for not telling me I was the one who was wrong (even though I probably wouldn’t have listened at the time, I was convinced that my faith was the ‘right one’).
It was a hard thing to realize that I was the one needing converting in the “unequally yoked” relationship. He is a good man, when I asked him about this he told me he knew God would bring me around, that I would find the faith in time, he was just waiting for me to see.
I am panic ridden and don’t know what to do now. We have just moved and have been going to mass at various local parishes.
Will a Priest throw me out on my ear if I go to him and spill all this in his lap? Should I go now or wait until we know which parish we will join? What will happen to my husband?
I am almost afraid to keep reading/learning as I will probably find even more things I have done wrong.
I know the easy thing to do would be to remain in the Lutheran Church, but I feel like I can’t now that I have learned what I have. I can’t in good conscience send my girls out into the world without helping them to reconcile to the Catholic Church.
God bless anyone who has the compassion to read this very long, neurotic post
I am almost frantic.
I was raised in an independent, fundamentalist religion and was taught many false things about Catholicism. The one blessing from this was that I was armed with the Word (well, all but 7 books) and I questioned these teachings as an adult.
I dated a Catholic, and in my understanding I really thought that he was doomed to hell for his beliefs. He attended church with my family and he was ‘saved’. We were married in a civil ceremony.
As we had children I questioned our beliefs even more - if we are wrong we are now taking young souls with us.
We church hopped for years before becoming Lutheran. I was baptized in the fundamentalist church at a young age (several times), confirmed Lutheran as an adult. Both our daughters were Baptized and Confirmed in the Lutheran Church. My husband attended but refused to be confirmed there as he was already confirmed in the Catholic Church. (probably the only right thing)
The more I read and learn, I am scared to death. I have been so very wrong.
We are in an invalid marriage (civil ceremony and both of us had been baptized).
I encouraged (along with my doctors) my hubby to have a vasectomy after a miscarriage and then our 2nd daughters birth 15 years ago where there were serious complications and we were told “if” I made it to term with another pregnancy I was risking my life.
Not only have I done wrong, I have encouraged my husband to commit mortal sins. The worst is he did it for me, to protect me and my health/life.
I am angry at myself, the church I grew up in (where my parents have us on the ‘backslidden’ list on their prayer list), even my husband a little for not telling me I was the one who was wrong (even though I probably wouldn’t have listened at the time, I was convinced that my faith was the ‘right one’).
It was a hard thing to realize that I was the one needing converting in the “unequally yoked” relationship. He is a good man, when I asked him about this he told me he knew God would bring me around, that I would find the faith in time, he was just waiting for me to see.
I am panic ridden and don’t know what to do now. We have just moved and have been going to mass at various local parishes.
Will a Priest throw me out on my ear if I go to him and spill all this in his lap? Should I go now or wait until we know which parish we will join? What will happen to my husband?
I am almost afraid to keep reading/learning as I will probably find even more things I have done wrong.
I know the easy thing to do would be to remain in the Lutheran Church, but I feel like I can’t now that I have learned what I have. I can’t in good conscience send my girls out into the world without helping them to reconcile to the Catholic Church.
God bless anyone who has the compassion to read this very long, neurotic post
