Regarding Marriage Tribunal... Is this right?

[yessisan]

Is it normal that the marriage tribunal asks you what would be your non-Catholic DH’s reaction to his mother being Catholic?

I’m doing a radical sanation on my marriage, and my MIL used to be a JW. She converted from Catholicism and now is back again in the CC. So, I mentioned this to the tribunal, and they said to me that it was crucial that my husband knew about this. I wasn’t sure if he knew his mom was a Catholic, and I wasn’t in place to tell him.

Now I know he knows, but is this right? That the CC will not grant the sanation if my DH didn’t know his mom was Catholic? They said they wanted to know his reaction, and if I didn’t tell him, the process would be halted…

Why would they do this? His mom’s faith has nothing to do with our marriage. His mom is in Mexico and they haven’t seen each other in over 2 years…

I thought the factor here was that I had to be the Catholic one, not his mom… plus, there’s no way I’d ever become a JW. I know too much about their lies, and know the CC is the True Church. Besides, my entire family is Catholic and most of them live w/in miles from me…

 

[JohnnyK]

It doesn’t sound right to me, unless the Priest wanted to see the reaction to guage if he would , in theory, try to prevent you from practicing (ie if he got mad enough, etc).

I had my marriage Sanated & I think one of the things they need to be sure of is the spouse will not prevent you from practicing the Faith.

 

[CRW]

Is it normal that the marriage tribunal asks you what would be your non-Catholic DH’s reaction to his mother being Catholic?

I’m doing a radical sanation on my marriage, and my MIL used to be a JW. She converted from Catholicism and now is back again in the CC. So, I mentioned this to the tribunal, and they said to me that it was crucial that my husband knew about this. I wasn’t sure if he knew his mom was a Catholic, and I wasn’t in place to tell him.

Now I know he knows, but is this right? That the CC will not grant the sanation if my DH didn’t know his mom was Catholic? They said they wanted to know his reaction, and if I didn’t tell him, the process would be halted…

Why would they do this? His mom’s faith has nothing to do with our marriage. His mom is in Mexico and they haven’t seen each other in over 2 years…

I thought the factor here was that I had to be the Catholic one, not his mom… plus, there’s no way I’d ever become a JW. I know too much about their lies, and know the CC is the True Church. Besides, my entire family is Catholic and most of them live w/in miles from me…

Whne we go to the tribunal we live by their rules, questions and decisions. I am sure that they had a reason that you may not be aware of. However, when in doubt, ask the question for your own clarification. I don’t think anyone on the forum can second guess there reason (s) or knowledge concerning their own procedures.

 

[yessisan]

It doesn’t sound right to me, unless the Priest wanted to see the reaction to guage if he would , in theory, try to prevent you from practicing (ie if he got mad enough, etc).

I had my marriage Sanated & I think one of the things they need to be sure of is the spouse will not prevent you from practicing the Faith.

It’s strange since I am too sure that I wouldn’t leave my faith, plus, my family would never allow it.

Don’t you think that being a catechist and a student at a catechetical institute would be enough for the tribunal to see he doesn’t object to it?

I go one a month to my class and it’s a 5 hour class. The one I teach is every Sunday for 1.5 hrs and I go to Mass after that, and this Mass lasts almost 1.5 hours. My DH has never objected. He knew who I was before we married civilly.

Either way, they might have wanted to know how he’d react but it doesn’t have anything to do with me, in my opinion.

Thanks for your response!

 

[Br.Rich_SFO]

Is it normal that the marriage tribunal asks you what would be your non-Catholic DH’s reaction to his mother being Catholic?

I’m doing a radical sanation on my marriage, and my MIL used to be a JW. She converted from Catholicism and now is back again in the CC. So, I mentioned this to the tribunal, and they said to me that it was crucial that my husband knew about this. I wasn’t sure if he knew his mom was a Catholic, and I wasn’t in place to tell him.

Now I know he knows, but is this right? That the CC will not grant the sanation if my DH didn’t know his mom was Catholic? They said they wanted to know his reaction, and if I didn’t tell him, the process would be halted…

Why would they do this? His mom’s faith has nothing to do with our marriage. His mom is in Mexico and they haven’t seen each other in over 2 years…

I thought the factor here was that I had to be the Catholic one, not his mom… plus, there’s no way I’d ever become a JW. I know too much about their lies, and know the CC is the True Church. Besides, my entire family is Catholic and most of them live w/in miles from me…

If you received this directly from the Tribunal, then I would trust that there is a valid reason for it.