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Good Morning Precious Family,

I am so grateful to be back “home” after an 11 year absence. I am attending confession every week, adoration and/or Mass daily and getting to know people in the parish I am attending.

I recently asked God to help me be filled with a new appreciation for the love that Jesus has for me so that I can be inspired anew to continue following him and not walk away like I did before. He answered my prayer and filled me with such love I was surrounded with feelings I’d never had before. It was wonderful and glorious.

I am struggling with deep regret. I cried for hours last night telling God over and over I am sorry for having just walked away for all that time. I know it’s good to regret our sin and feel sorry for it so we don’t repeat it but I confessed this and feel that I have to be careful about not staying bogged down in guilt/regret.

I keep thinking about all those who died for our Faith, those who walked bravely to their deaths, and those who sacrifice everyday all that they have, are and ever will be in loving service to our Church and our God and then I feel horrible for stomping off angry about something that is miniscule and so trivial. How could I have done that? I am so filled with remorse I just want to “make it up to God” which is ludicrous because we can’t “roll back time” and I just have to learn from my mistake and cling to the Christ and move forward. I just keep thinking about all he gave for me.

I am at work today but my eyes are swollen from crying, I feel horrible and I just can’t seem to figure out how to forgive myself the way I know God has forgiven me in the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

I need your prayers and any advice for how I can accept my Savior and Blessed Mother’s love and just move on.

Lorrie
 
First of all sending you many prayers and hugs. It will take time to heal your heart & soul. God and all those above know you love them despite your past and have returned back to the Church.

In addition to going to Mass, Confession, etc, trying doing little things (like St Therese did and talked about in her book) to help others like being patient in traffic when you really want to explode at the person in front of you, donating some items, time, and/or money to a local favorite charity/charities etc. Doing good for others always helps me feel better.

I was away for a short time but for different selfish reasons, but I went to Confession & returned to Mass, etc and feel a lot better now.
 
I think that what you need to do at this point is to learn to trust Jesus. You’ve been to confession and received absolution. Your sins are forgiven; now trust that this is really true. Give Him thanks for this great gift of forgiveness. Now keep on keeping on.

Oh, by the way; welcome back and God Bless you on your journey.
 
I think you just have to accept that you are forgiven and move on. I know it sounds easy but not necessarily easy to do. I still sometimes wonder about my wasted years and I could kick myself for that. But I remember that it is all in the past, that I have learned my lessons and that I have to put myself in God’s service. I guess it is a long process of healing from past sins. The closer we are to God the greater our distaste and pain for commited sins.
 
Thank God that you have r eturned home.

PLEASE never doubt the forgiveness of your sins, becaus if, in reality, you are saying I haven’t been forgiven, this would be a SIN AGAINST THE HOLY SPIRIT and this is the only sin the church cannot absolve.

To the degree that we live the Beatitudes [Mt 5"1-12], we live acceptance, and we live happy, healthy lives focusing not on pain from hurts but on the growth from hurts.

According to psychiatrist Fisher sees mental health encapusalted in the Sermon on
the Mount which the Beatitudes introduce and summarize.

Thanking God for Growth from Hurts:
Blessed are t he poor in Spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of heaven Did being hurt make me ready to admit that i am needy and must trust more in God then use me more].
 
Jim_Roberts said:
Thank God that you have r eturned home.

PLEASE never doubt the forgiveness of your sins, becaus if, in reality, you are saying I haven’t been forgiven, this would be a SIN AGAINST THE HOLY SPIRIT and this is the only sin the church cannot absolve.

To the degree that we live the Beatitudes [Mt 5"1-12], we live acceptance, and we live happy, healthy lives focusing not on pain from hurts but on the growth from hurts.

According to psychiatrist Fisher sees mental health encapusalted in the Sermon on
the Mount which the Beatitudes introduce and summarize.

Thanking God for Growth from Hurts:
Blessed are t he poor in Spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of heaven Did being hurt make me ready to admit that i am needy and must trust more in God then use me more].

Blessed are they who mourn, for they shall be conforted, Did being hurt and comforted make my desire to do the same, especially for those who hurt in the same way]?

Pray to God to the degree that I was wrong, have I tried to bear it patiently, knowing that as the injustice grows, so does the eternal reward and Christ’s love?

God is ALWAYS with you.
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There’s no way to undo the past, so you need to move on. Offer some good deed everyday as retribution for the past. You know that God has forgiven you. Doing something positive everyday in retribution for past failures should ease the feeling of guilt. Soon you’ll be smiling and looking for more ways to please the Lord. Good luck and God bless.
 
Irishgal49 said:
Good Morning Precious Family,

I am so grateful to be back “home” after an 11 year absence. I am attending confession every week, adoration and/or Mass daily and getting to know people in the parish I am attending.

I recently asked God to help me be filled with a new appreciation for the love that Jesus has for me so that I can be inspired anew to continue following him and not walk away like I did before. He answered my prayer and filled me with such love I was surrounded with feelings I’d never had before. It was wonderful and glorious.

I am struggling with deep regret. I cried for hours last night telling God over and over I am sorry for having just walked away for all that time. I know it’s good to regret our sin and feel sorry for it so we don’t repeat it but I confessed this and feel that I have to be careful about not staying bogged down in guilt/regret.

I keep thinking about all those who died for our Faith, those who walked bravely to their deaths, and those who sacrifice everyday all that they have, are and ever will be in loving service to our Church and our God and then I feel horrible for stomping off angry about something that is miniscule and so trivial. How could I have done that? I am so filled with remorse I just want to “make it up to God” which is ludicrous because we can’t “roll back time” and I just have to learn from my mistake and cling to the Christ and move forward. I just keep thinking about all he gave for me.

I am at work today but my eyes are swollen from crying, I feel horrible and I just can’t seem to figure out how to forgive myself the way I know God has forgiven me in the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

I need your prayers and any advice for how I can accept my Savior and Blessed Mother’s love and just move on.

Lorrie
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Lorrie, I know exactly how you are feeling right now; I’m going through a similar thing. I became a (Traditional) Catholic in the 1970s, as a teenager, but left when I felt the church had actually left me first (due to the changes of Vatican II). Its a very long story, but I got involved in a non-Christian religion out of frustration, looking for spiritual solace but thinking the true church did not exist.

I know I did it in ignorance, and I’m sure you did too…but its so, so hard to forgive ourselves even when we know God has forgiven us. Try not to be so hard on yourself! 🙂 I do know how you feel…I have often thought of the many martyrs and others who gave up so much, when I just walked away, figuring the true faith was no longer. So many people stuck it out, and now they are being blessed for it since the Church seems to be coming back to Tradition to some extent.

Just remember what it says in the Bible: “as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our sins from us”. 👍
 
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