Relationship Advice Needed Pls

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I would respectfully suggest that you are perhaps enjoying that attention, as a young man. A pretty girl is all over you, of course you are going to be tempted to go too far. Ensure you are spending time with others on your dates and not getting into situations where you are going to be getting physical. If you do, remember that you not out of the club and God doesn’t hate you. Go to confession and also sit with the blessed sacrament and talk with Him there. A month is a very short time. Cool things off of you can and concentrate on being friends and pray very much for your girlfriend
 
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You are developing as a young man 19 is still very very young I will ask God to hold you in his heart and show you his plan for you to grow
 
Wow I feel old now haha !! I’m only 37 ancient to you of course but I’m a nerd 🤓
 
Have you had other intimate contact with her? Make out sessions? Those are also reserved for marriage because it causes the sort of chemical bonding that happens during sex. It causes infatuation.
 
Its long distance so none of that has happened. But we often talk about wanting to snuggle but nothing sexual. In fact she is okay with waiting till marriage.
 
If you have never met the person in real life and she is “infatuated” and “clingy”, it is not real.
 
To the OP: I would say it would be a bigger problem if the woman was a practicing Christian and had slept with someone. Even then, is it a reason to split. I could understand the concern. To admit having done so, might equal honesty. If you’d met on the Internet, is there another reason she said that. Only you will know.

If she is clingy, it might be because she is an atheist. Christians would allow room for God.

It has to be up to you to decide, but I don’t think hasty decisions are a great idea. Questions, talking and time, will tell. Either way, I think you ought to be as sure as you can, because after a certain way forward, especially if you come from different countries, breaking up might incur extra difficulties.

Issues of faith can be worked around. It might present difficulties when it comes to having things in common. Better to have hope than to give up, too early. The woman might grow towards the faith.
 
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Im going to talk to my priest today about it. Ill see the advice he gives me.
 
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But another problem is she is an atheist.
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Also kinda clingy.
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Sounds to me that even if you two were “equally yoked” virginitywise, you’d still have some problems.

Let me ask you this: since you mentioned that you’ve dated other non-virgins, what is different about this person that makes it troubling for you? Is it because you knew the others weren’t serious relationships (I would have doubts about this one as well if you’ve only known each other a month and never met in person - possible “Catfish” episode in the making?). If you are feeling “gyped” (as Jason Evert put it in one of his writings), why all of a sudden because of this person?
 
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