Relationship dilema?!

[pitirre]

Lets say their’s a relationship that both are non-participating Catholics. the girl is a little more conservative, in the sense that she still prays but doesn’t go to church that much and a traditional view of relationships meaning sex until marriage.the girl is a virgin, the guy isn’t. they both do agree to wait as much as possible for sex.the guy he isn’t forcing her he just says he would like to some day and he is willing to wait until she is ready. they both have urges but prefer to foreplay to ease tension.
any advice, recommendation, etc?

 

[Castello]

Advice? Go to confession, start to regularly go to Mass and pray and draw closer to God.

Stop committing acts of immorality and put God first in both lives.

 

[GraceDK]

Don’t do sexual stuff unless you are ready to feel like a family member stabbed you if one of you guys leaves the other.

Sex is by nature made for procreation and bonding in a way that is only suitable for marriage because of the stability it gives emotioanlly and psychologically to the adults and to the children that may well come out of these unions.

If the guy truly loves this girl, he does not take her virginity, and he is sorry that he gave his uttermost expression of love (sexual intercourse) to someone before her. He should tell the girl that he is sorry that he gave himself to someone else, and show that he is determined to respect and love in a Christlike manner.

Guy and girl should both go to confession and start talking… if they don’t have anything to talk about they should not move forward. If they love each other as persons, they should consider engagement. if they have so much tension that they need to have forplay to get over it, they should seperately start doing sports or someother physical exercise, fitting to the unmarried state of life.

Be pure at heart. Your future spouses will be hoping for a guy or girl who waited, or in the case of the young man, cleaned up his act after messing up.

 

[Richard320]

Don’t.

Foreplay leads to fiveplay, if you know what I mean.

Sex complicates relationships. My experience: you’ll put up with a lot of **** and stay with someone you shouldn’t if the sex is good. If there is no sex, you might some day realize you could never marry this person, time to move on, and maybe find the right person next time. And if you get dumped, it’s a much bigger loss when there’s sex involved.

 

[Ancient1]

Reconcile with the Church.

Get married.

What is life all about anyway? “Relationship” - what does that mean? If you can’t say you love this woman you would like to sleep with, then release her so she may find a husband. You young people; time waits for no man.

I fail to see any dilemma; I see some confusion and immaturity about what matters in life. Get clear before it passes you by…it will.