Relationship Discernment

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I am so confused and greatly need prayers as I discern.

Almost a year ago I met a young man and we started a friendship. Eventually he asked me if I would consider dating him and I agreed. There was a GREAT period of discernment for me because I had resigned myself to being single.

Everything is wonderful. He encourages me to go to Mass, takes an active interest in my faith and is probably one of the most respectful men I have ever met but… he’s an atheist.

From the start I have approached this with great caution but as terrified as I am, when I pray I feel like I should continue forward not run screaming.

I need help with prayers for discernment. I am NOT in love (I haven’t been able to relax enough to ‘catch feelings’, as the kids say), but I do like this fellow and I can see how he’d be a good match.

I have spoken to him about what marrying a Catholic would mean for him and he has stated he would willingly go to Mass and raise any children Catholic if it ever came to that.

I know people say these things but later change their mind so I know I have to be prepared for him to renege and I’m just not sure if I AM ready for that.

So yes, prayers please. I feel like God is leading me this way but at the same time I don’t want to gooooo. I’m like Moses who keeps pointing at Aaron and saying: No, make him do it instead.

Sorry if this all seems confusing.

Your prayers are appreciated!
 
Breathe and relax. You have time, and this is one thing that cannot be rushed.

ICXC NIKA
 
Praying to the Holy Spirit to give you guidance, direction, strength, fortitude & wisdom in your discernment.
 
Praying for clear discernment in this relationship. May the Holy Spirit lead you to the answer.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
Remembering you and your young man in my daily prayers. May the Lord’s will be done in your lives. God bless.
 
Consult Jesus in the blessed Eucharist. Tell Jesus your story as you have said it. Then tell him that you want him to watch over you and never permit you to be lost. Remember Jesus is God.
Tell Jesus your way forward decision i.e whether you want to fall in love with this man or not and most important is give Jesus express permission to deal with your relationship whichever way He pleases.

Let Jesus know that since you have consulted him and you will be giving him updates about the progress of your relationship from time to time in the adoration charpel, you want Jesus to know that if you are lost, it will be entirely His fault as He is in control and All Knowing.

Jesus will take you on the right path girlfriend, and you will thank Him later for the journey. This is what have always done with my relationships and now, am where God wants me to be. Single and content.
 
Praying for your discernment (and his conversion, no matter the outcome).
 
Lord, if what I seek be according to Your will,
then let it come to pass
and let success attend the outcome.
But if not, my God,
let it not come to pass.
Do not leave me to my own devices,
for you know how unwise I can be.
Keep me safe under your protection Lord my God,
and in your own gentle way guide me
and rule me as you know best.

Amen.
 
Praying for you both…
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O most beautiful Flower of Mount Carmel, Fruitful Vine, Splendor of Heaven, who brought forth the Son of God still remaining a Virgin, assist us in this necessity.
O Star of the Sea, help us, and show us that you are our Mother.

O Holy Mary, Mother of God, Queen of Heaven and earth, we humbly ask you from the depths of our heart to help us in this necessity. There are none
who can withstand your power. O show us that you are our Mother.

O Mary, conceived without sin, pray for us who have recourse to thee. Sweet Mother, we place this cause in your hands. Amen.
 
Gracious and merciful Father, please come to their assistance.

Our Father, who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end.
Amen.
 
July 19, 2016
nickybr38 said:
I am so confused and greatly need prayers as I discern.

Almost a year ago I met a young man and we started a friendship. Eventually he asked me if I would consider dating him and I agreed. There was a GREAT period of discernment for me because I had resigned myself to being single.

Everything is wonderful. He encourages me to go to Mass, takes an active interest in my faith and is probably one of the most respectful men I have ever met but… he’s an atheist.

[Redacted]

I need help with prayers for discernment. I am NOT in love (I haven’t been able to relax enough to ‘catch feelings’, as the kids say), but I do like this fellow and I can see how he’d be a good match.

I have spoken to him about what marrying a Catholic would mean for him and he has stated he would willingly go to Mass and raise any children Catholic if it ever came to that.

I know people say these things but later change their mind so I know I have to be prepared for him to renege and I’m just not sure if I AM ready for that.

So yes, prayers please. I feel like God is leading me this way but at the same time I don’t want to go. I’m like Moses who keeps pointing at Aaron and saying: No, make him do it instead.

Sorry if this all seems confusing.

Your prayers are appreciated!
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Praying…
:signofcross:Prayer to Saint Michael the Archangel

St Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle;
…be our defense against the wickedness and
……snares of the Devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray
…and do thou, O prince of the heavenly host,
…by the power of God,
…thrust into Hell Satan
…and all the other evil spirits
…who prowl about the world
… seeking the ruin of souls.
Amen.

The Memorare

Remember,
O most gracious Virgin Mary,
that never was it known,
that anyone who fled to thy protection,
implored thy help
or sought thy intercession,
was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee,
O Virgin of virgins, my Mother.
To thee I come, before thee I stand,
sinful and sorrowful.
O Mother of the Word Incarnate,
despise not my petition,
but in thy mercy hear and answer me.
Amen.

Learning Christ

Teach me, my Lord,
to be sweet and gentle in all the events of life;
in disappointments, in the thoughtlessness of others,
in the insincerity of those I trusted,
in the unfaithfulness of those on whom I relied.

Let me put myself aside,
to think of the happiness of others,
to hide my little pains and heartaches, so
……that I may be the only one to suffer from them.

Teach me to profit by the suffering that comes across my path.
Let me so use it that it may mellow me,
……not harden nor embitter me; that it may make me patient, not irritable;
……that it may make me broad in my forgiveness,
……not narrow, haughty and over-bearing.

May no one be less good for having come within my influence.
No one less pure, less kind, less noble for having been a
……fellow-traveler in our journey toward Eternal Life.

As I go my rounds from one distraction to another,
let me whisper, from time to time, a word of love to Thee.
May my life be lived in the supernatural, full of power and good,
……and strong in its purpose of sanctity.
:signofcross:
Code: 
**Let Nothing Disturb You**
Let nothing disturb you
Let nothing frighten you,
All things are passing away:
God never changes.

Patience,
Obtains all things,
Whoever has God
Lacks nothing:
God alone suffices.

Santa Teresa de Jesús
(Santa Teresa de Ávila)

Luz Maria
 
Praying…
:signofcross:Prayer to Saint Michael the Archangel

St Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle;
…be our defense against the wickedness and
……snares of the Devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray
…and do thou, O prince of the heavenly host,
…by the power of God,
…thrust into Hell Satan
…and all the other evil spirits
…who prowl about the world
… seeking the ruin of souls.
Amen.

The Memorare

Remember,
O most gracious Virgin Mary,
that never was it known,
that anyone who fled to thy protection,
implored thy help
or sought thy intercession,
was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee,
O Virgin of virgins, my Mother.
To thee I come, before thee I stand,
sinful and sorrowful.
O Mother of the Word Incarnate,
despise not my petition,
but in thy mercy hear and answer me.
Amen.

Learning Christ

Teach me, my Lord,
to be sweet and gentle in all the events of life;
in disappointments, in the thoughtlessness of others,
in the insincerity of those I trusted,
in the unfaithfulness of those on whom I relied.

Let me put myself aside,
to think of the happiness of others,
to hide my little pains and heartaches, so
……that I may be the only one to suffer from them.

Teach me to profit by the suffering that comes across my path.
Let me so use it that it may mellow me,
……not harden nor embitter me; that it may make me patient, not irritable;
……that it may make me broad in my forgiveness,
……not narrow, haughty and over-bearing.

May no one be less good for having come within my influence.
No one less pure, less kind, less noble for having been a
……fellow-traveler in our journey toward Eternal Life.

As I go my rounds from one distraction to another,
let me whisper, from time to time, a word of love to Thee.
May my life be lived in the supernatural, full of power and good,
……and strong in its purpose of sanctity.
:signofcross:
Code: 
**Let Nothing Disturb You**
Let nothing disturb you
Let nothing frighten you,
All things are passing away:
God never changes.

Patience,
Obtains all things,
Whoever has God
Lacks nothing:
God alone suffices.

Santa Teresa de Jesús
(Santa Teresa de Ávila)

Luz Maria
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
I continue praying. . . .

Original Prayer to St. Michael
Code: 
:signofcross:
“O Glorious Prince of the heavenly host, St. Michael the Archangel, 
defend us in the battle and in the terrible warfare that we are waging
against the principalities and powers, 
against the rulers of this world of darkness, 
against the evil spirits. 
Come to the aid of man, whom Almighty God created immortal, 
.....made in His own image and likeness, 
.....and redeemed at a great price from the tyranny of Satan.
 
“Fight this day the battle of the Lord, 
together with the holy angels, as already thou hast fought the leader of the
.....proud angels, Lucifer, and his apostate host, who were powerless 
.....to resist thee, nor was there place for them any longer in Heaven.
That cruel, ancient serpent, who is called the devil or Satan who seduces 
.....the whole world, was cast into the abyss with his angels.
Behold, this primeval enemy and slayer of men has taken courage. 
Transformed into an angel of light, he wanders about with all the
.....multitude of wicked spirits, invading the earth in order 
.....to blot out the name of God and of His Christ,
.....to seize upon, slay and cast into eternal perdition souls destined 
.....for the crown of eternal glory. 
This wicked dragon pours out, as a most impure flood, 
the venom of his malice on men of depraved mind and corrupt heart, 
the spirit of lying, of impiety, of blasphemy, and the pestilent breath of impurity, 
.....and of every vice and iniquity. 
 
“These most crafty enemies have filled and inebriated with gall and bitterness 
.....the Church, the spouse of the immaculate Lamb,
.....and have laid impious hands on her most sacred possessions. 
In the Holy Place itself, where the See of Holy Peter and the Chair of Truth has
.....been set up as the light of the world, 
.....they have raised the throne of their abominable impiety, 
.....with the iniquitous design that when the Pastor has been struck, the sheep 
.....may be scattered.
 
“Arise then, O invincible Prince,
bring help against the attacks of the lost spirits to the people of God,
.....and give them the victory.
They venerate thee as their protector and patron; 
.....in thee holy Church glories as her defense against the
.....malicious power of hell; 
to thee has God entrusted the souls of men to be established in heavenly beatitude. 
Oh, pray to the God of peace that He may put Satan under our feet, 
.....so far conquered that he may no 
.....longer be able to hold men in captivity and harm the Church. 
Offer our prayers in the sight of the Most High, 
.....so that they may quickly find mercy in the sight of the Lord;
and vanquishing the dragon, the ancient serpent, who is the devil and Satan, 
.....do thou again make him captive in the abyss, 
.....that he may no longer seduce the nations. 
Amen.
 
V. Behold the Cross of the Lord; be scattered ye hostile powers.***
R. The Lion of the tribe of Judah has conquered the root of David.***
V. Let Thy mercies be upon us, O Lord. 
R. As we have hoped in Thee. 
V. O Lord, hear my prayer.
R. And let my cry come unto Thee.
Code: 
**Let us pray.**
O God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, we call upon Thy holy Name,  and as supplicants, we implore Thy clemency, that by the intercession of  Mary, ever Virgin Immaculate and our Mother, and of the glorious St.  Michael the Archangel, Thou wouldst deign to help us against Satan and  all the other unclean spirits who wander about the world for the injury  of the human race and the ruin of souls. 
Amen.” 
:signofcross:
Roman Raccolta, July 23, 1898, supplement approved July 31, 1902, 
London: Burnes, Oates & Washbourne Ltd., 1935, 12th edition.
  
**Let Nothing Disturb You
Let nothing disturb you
Let nothing frighten you,
All things are passing away:
God never changes.
  
Patience, 
Obtains all things,
Whoever has God 
Lacks nothing:
God alone suffices.
 
**Santa Teresa de Jesús**
**(Santa Teresa de Ávila)****
 
Luz Maria
 
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